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RE: Service Topping - 11/3/2007 7:00:48 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		If you are into what they are into, and you are as much in need of topping someone as they are to bottoming, then you accept.

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RE: Service Topping - 11/4/2007 8:55:00 PM   
msindigomontoya


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Status: offline 		Find a switchy type and they will do it in a heartbeat.  (Ohh Ohh Pick me, pick me!).  For me, as a switch, that fulfills both side of the coin. On the one side you are getting to "top" someone else, and it also keeps my inner subbie happy cause I'm being told what to do.  win win for me.  I could see why a lot of straight dom types wouldn't care for it though. 

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RE: Service Topping - 11/4/2007 9:07:32 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: msindigomontoya
Find a switchy type and they will do it in a heartbeat.  (Ohh Ohh Pick me, pick me!).  For me, as a switch, that fulfills both side of the coin. On the one side you are getting to "top" someone else, and it also keeps my inner subbie happy cause I'm being told what to do.  win win for me.  I could see why a lot of straight dom types wouldn't care for it though. 

Indigo

Umm, try not to presume to speak for all switches or suggest they are all alike, k?  This switch would hardly "do it in a heartbeat."

Just because I am a switch doesn't mean I will top anyone who asks, let alone service top.  Would a sub be a service bottom to any top who happened to ask?

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RE: Service Topping - 11/5/2007 8:02:41 PM   
msindigomontoya


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Status: offline 		Well Lucky, was not part of the equation that you are incredibly attracted to that person? Was not part of the assumption also put forward that you were "open to casual play"?  In the description that was put forward, 99.9% of switches, including myself would most likely be more then happy to play, ok, I don't "Presume" to answer for you, no I answered the ACTUAL question put forward, K?

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RE: Service Topping - 11/5/2007 9:02:23 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I guess it takes more than just a lot of attraction (which I have to many people I don't play with) and open to casual play (which I certainly am) to say yes to someone who asks to play with me.  And I really doubt I'm that small of a percentage of switches who would feel that way- your percentage is way skewed.

Your original response had none of that involved- you presented it simply as "Well I'm a switch, so of course I will!" 



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RE: Service Topping - 11/5/2007 9:24:11 PM   
msindigomontoya


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Your original response had none of that involved- you presented it simply as "Well I'm a switch, so of course I will!" 


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Well I will agree to disagree.. Question asked, question answered as asked.  I don't feel I need to restate the original question, as it is there for all to read, and the quote you posted above was not what I said.  The actual comment started with "for me" (and that was a direct quote, thank you as well as being there for all to read).  Please do not put quotes in when you are not actually quoting, but restating your perception of what you think I said.  I did not say "I'm a switch so of course I will".   

Do I really need to put in a disclaimer that says "any and all comments made by me, refer only to me, under penalty of law... Yada Yada yada" for people to know that I am speaking for myself only? Even when I say FOR ME?  Honestly.. Please don't change my wording around. 

Thanks

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RE: Service Topping - 11/5/2007 9:32:04 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Saying "For me, all homosexuals are disease ridden whores" doesn't make it any more of a correct or appropriate statement to make. 

I was just showing how I perceived your initial response to come across as.  I think it's pretty obvious when one post is two inches below the other that I wouldn't be stupid enough to think I'd misquote you and expect people to believe that's what you actually said.  I was paraphrasing. 

Then suddenly you had a bunch of stuff about how you meant in response to this or that and nothing really at all to do with being a switch (which is what the original response was all about).

And then, it's nothing to do with being a switch, it's nothing to do with the original question, now it's just that it's YOUR perspective (which I think "Find a switchy type and they will do it in a heartbeat." clearly shows you meant your perspective to be universalized) even though you think very nearly 100% of switches will agree with you.

Saying "For me, this is how it works for everyone" doesn't make it all right.  Saying "For me, this is how it works" is what you should aim for.

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RE: Service Topping - 11/5/2007 9:52:26 PM   
msindigomontoya


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Status: offline 		Saying "For me, this is how it works for everyone" doesn't make it all right.  Saying "For me, this is how it works" is what you should aim for.
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How about, I say what I am gonna say, then you can pick it apart word for word, and "paraphrase" with flawed perceptions and then presume to tell me what I should have said.

If thats what makes you happy, whatever makes your boat float hun.  

Indigo  

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RE: Service Topping - 11/11/2007 6:27:24 PM   
ImpGrrl


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ORIGINAL: wisteriaV

Isn't that what the so called "Pros" get paid for?


The "so called Pros"?

Well, they're called pros for a real reason - they get money for doing it.  Technically, they're professionals - and we're amateurs.

But I think your comment had more to do with your disdain for pros mixed with your disdain for service topping, so...never mind.

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RE: Service Topping - 11/11/2007 6:30:38 PM   
ImpGrrl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: msindigomontoya
How about, I say what I am gonna say, then you can pick it apart word for word, and "paraphrase" with flawed perceptions and then presume to tell me what I should have said.

If thats what makes you happy, whatever makes your boat float hun.  


*Or*, you *could* be more precise with your language to better promote good communication.  And less snarky.  That helps too.

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RE: Service Topping - 11/12/2007 7:02:09 PM   
LillithWithin


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Status: offline 		If I find them incredibly attractive *and* I enjoy the specifics of the activities they're requesting, I'd consider it. The "no deviation" bit would be a deal-breaker if there was *no* variance or if they genuinely wanted a specific step-by-step procedure as opposed to something more general that allowed me to play.

It would be useful for me to know more about the reason behind their need, for example if they'd been having a rough time and needed something intense as catharsis, or if they were out of a relationship but missed a specific activity that they used to engage in, etcetera.

I've done it in the past, in fact, with people I did indeed find incredibly attractive. While I feel it definitely falls into a "casual play" category I see no problem with it if it's something we both feel like doing. Much like bowling, or going to a museum, only with happy spankytime fun included.

Basically it boils down to this: if I want it, it's offered, everybody's going to have fun and walk away unharmed, why the heck *wouldn't* I do it? I know who I am, so trying to make sure I outwardly adhere to some mysterious and inconstant definition of What A Real Domme Is holds no attraction for me.



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RE: Service Topping - 11/13/2007 3:20:43 PM   
Lumus


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aubre

Here's a scenario for you:

Let's assume you are open to casual play. A person approaches you and asks you to "Service Top" them. You would tie, tease and torture but they would tell you how, when and what they wanted don, and they wanted no deviation from their wishes. They have a need they want filled, and have chosen to ask you to help with their request. To top it off, you find the person incredibly attractive. What would you do?


Hmm.  Assuming I was free and open to casual play, I'd sit down with the person and talk specifics.  Assuming further there was no conflict [ie I don't mind participating in autoerotic asphyxiation, but damned if I'll do it if the person is prone to say, seizures], it would depend on how I feel about the person.  If this was a person I knew and disliked, chances are real good I'd say, "No.".

On a side note, I wouldn't care about their appearance.  Ugly is not synonymous with incapable or twue by any stretch of the imagination.


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