MisPandora
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First premise -- neither punishment or discipline need be corporal in nature. In fact, if you work with a masochist, it's generally thought to be counterproductive to punish with something they enjoy, unless of course you can focus it down to something they abjectly hate. You're not going to affect the unwanted behavior and create change if you're rewarding them with something they like.
For punishment (correction of an unwanted behavior for the purpose reducing future repetitions of said unwanted behavior:)
What infraction happened. How serious? Loss incurred? Bodily harm incurred to person or property?
Was it in full disclosure or did they hide/lie about it?
Were my expectations clear? Was this against a written or spoken rule, or simply implied?
Punishment needs to fit the crime. Punishment needs to be situation specific and subject (person) specific. A punishment for one slave may not psychologically be effective, or may be damaging to the individual it was inapprorpriate for. For me, most of my punishments are non-corporal in nature, and they generally involve something psychological to force their introspection inward on their behaviors and how they negatively impact both the slave's life and my own. I genuinely believe that if a slave thought about "is this going to displease my mistress" before they did most actions, they'd stay out of trouble a bit more.
Punishment, in that regard, is difficult for me but it is carried out matter of factly. I'm a sadist and I like to hurt my boys. My having to withhold physical pain on them can be tormentous. I also really loathe disrespect, and usually, it's a punishment that's being carried out for just that! That doesn't exactly make me happy either.
Importantly, once punishment is over -- it's over. There's no holding against them the infraction that I've carried out punishment on. I'll store away what they did in the event it happens again, for then I need to look at malice or an action of my own that may be inciting the unwanted behavior.....but for the most part, I like to forgive and forget that which they've suffered for already. This is especially true in the case of something I've taken the physical route. The One Minute Manager (Blanchard) philosophy of 'it's your behavior I don't like' and a reminder that you still like and appreciate them as a person and for who they are to you as a valued commodity is paramount to them not resenting you for your chosen punishment. Open lines of communication and encouraging them to reflect on their experience also helps immensely.
Discipline is an entirely different entity. In my mind, discipline is akin to learning to be a tough Marine in recruit training camp. You learn discipline through hard labor, through forced repetition, through studying, drills, mental development, through rigid inspections. A slave learns discipline by first, learning your expectations in stages. Through each stage, they learn the skill or task required to carry out each and every one of those expectations. They move on ahead in their training when they have proven themselves routinely proficient at the skill until it can be performed automatically, without hesistation, to perfection. Discipline, I find, is learned through self-evolvement, through being proud of their accomplishments and through positive reinforcement. Again, their keeping in mind that displeasing me is the LAST THING they want to do is often enough of a motivator to self-discipline and become the best slave they can possibly be for me.
< Message edited by MisPandora -- 11/5/2007 7:41:16 AM >
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"Simply put, if you want a real femdom to love you, give her reasons to love you." Gloria Brame
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