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DCroommate -> RE: collaring ceremony (11/3/2007 4:58:27 AM)
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(This is ann, here today)
They are all as different as each couple is.
Suggestion -
Decide what kind of relationship you are heading for.. and what kind of connection you are looking for.. is this more spiritual, more permanent, more community BDSM active, more private,...
Then think of all the people you know who have some experience in that type. But don't limit yourself to your own circle of friends.. The Gay Leather community have tons of folks who have spiritual backgrounds and are community active. The Lesbian community also does. Look at the folks who present at the local events and clubs. Ask your friends who they know to expand your network.
For example.
When Sir collared me.. We wanted permanent, spiritual and community involvement. We asked a respected Gay leather Master, who is also a spiritual person (alternative church, not mainstreamed) to perform our ceremony. He met with us twice, went over our contact, suggested changes and added one clause, counseled us each separately. We then planned the ceremony at a community event (Camp Crucible, a 5 day camping event in PA). It was very formal and serious in setting, but so fun with all our friends there.
When Sir collared lorrie, it was private just the three of us. She has a temp contract right now, so it was in the back yard with just us there and Sir leading the collaring. When she gets a permanent collar it will be a bigger ceremony.
Don't discount asking folks online either.. someone on here who you have developed a relationship with, who you respect. Ask them if they could come and work with you on it.
~ann
Griffin's slavemate
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