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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 6:44:54 AM   
laurell3


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I don't know if it's "sub-frenzy" or something else, there's not enough information to tell.  We have feelings for a reason, "turning off" those feelings, isn't really I doubt what you want.  You can control how you respond to them.  Regardless of how much you may want to find someone for a d/s relationship, go slow, take time, take care of yourself, make sure what you are doing is right and healthy for you.  Take the time to get over these prior hurts you list in your journal and forum posts and take care of you.

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 6:49:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Feelings are neither good nor bad they just are. Its what you choose to do with them that makes the biggest empact in your life. If you have good , scarry , excited feelings because your new in some aspect , then enjoy the ride with time and more experience the feelings become more refined. For example, you may initially like someone and then over time the feelings change to lust and then love ect...its the progression of things.  In my view dont worry over things and enjoy it for the moment your in it!

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 6:50:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TheChauvinist

Just like a woman to prattle on without fully understanding.


I was going to be offended by this statement ... until I recalled your handle. Now that I remember ... eh! Carry on. ~chuckle~

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 7:52:02 AM   
Prinsexx


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When I said: The prefect match for me is a Dom who also thinks about it all the time. Actually the One who thinks about Me all the time submitting to Him. And for me He is the one that all the time I think is the one who dominates me.
I meant it like this: The prefect match for me is a Dom who also thinks about it all the time. Actually the One who thinks about Me [all the time submitting to Him]. And for me He is the one that all the time I think is the one who dominates me.
I have no control over what my Dom thinks about me. only what I think about him. And he may put in mental bondage and direct what I am allowed to think about him.
That's what I understand by submission.

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 7:56:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TheChauvinist
LOL, Princess, starting a fan club now? Why don't you try to read something into what I wrote other then your own negativity.

IT'S PRINSEXX.
I see you cannot read either.


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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 8:06:59 AM   
Prinsexx


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I thought that my submission was tied to him, but it really wasn't about him. I will always love this person because of what we shared, and I will never forget him, but he was not the "One" that I thought he was at the time.


I agree with the point s you are making, and the statement above except to say that I would say it like this:
I thought that my submissiveness was tied to him.
It isn't. I will always be submissive. But the one I tie it to is the one I am submitting to.
The sub-space doesn't easily fade with me. I can so easily be in cloud cuckoo land when in relationship to a real time Dom. But I have had to learn to run my life as well. Actually my submissiveness runs its qualities through a great many things i do as serving others is what keeps me going.
Serving for arousal in the other, serving for arousal in me....then that's my definition of bdsm....serving with arousal.


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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 8:09:49 AM   
Prinsexx


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Status: offline 		To chelle; I agree except for you having to go with The Chauvinist, however it's spelled.....oh no never.

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 8:36:45 AM   
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 use to be able to turn them off and on at will









In search of my inner submissve self..
Seeking a true .-- This one is searching for the Real thing....

Of course since you don't indicate quite what the 'feelings' may be, it is difficult to advise. If you don't consider medical attention warranted then perhaps you have found what you seek ?
 
Erasmic

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 9:17:56 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I thought that my submission was tied to him, but it really wasn't about him. I will always love this person because of what we shared, and I will never forget him, but he was not the "One" that I thought he was at the time.


I agree with the point s you are making, and the statement above except to say that I would say it like this:
I thought that my submissiveness was tied to him.
It isn't. I will always be submissive. But the one I tie it to is the one I am submitting to.
The sub-space doesn't easily fade with me. I can so easily be in cloud cuckoo land when in relationship to a real time Dom. But I have had to learn to run my life as well. Actually my submissiveness runs its qualities through a great many things i do as serving others is what keeps me going.
Serving for arousal in the other, serving for arousal in me....then that's my definition of bdsm....serving with arousal.




Interesting... you agree and disagree with my personal experience....

I believe submission and dominance are unique to the people who experience them. I have no desire to serve others in a submissive capacity... only the person that I am submissive to. I also see it as more than serving in arousal... being submissive to Daddy is not only a sexual thing. It is just how we interact with each other. He says I think too much, so I will keep it simple, it just is what it is...lol

As far as silentfire, I wish the best for her, but I am still unsure of exactly what her issue is. Perhaps she is confused about it herself?

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laurell3

Damn it, now I have that air supply song in my head, it was air supply wasn't it?


It made me think of REO Speedwagon, I can't fight this feeling anymore.......


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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 9:18:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

When I first explored this part of myself I did so with someone that lived a couple of 1000 miles away from me, and I happened into the situation almost by accident. I discovered through him that this was who I am. My head was always in the clouds when I was exploring with him. I definitely had sub frenzy.

I thought that my submission was tied to him, but it really wasn't about him. I will always love this person because of what we shared, and I will never forget him, but he was not the "One" that I thought he was at the time.

From what you describe, perhaps you are dealing with the pandora's box of submission, because once it is unleashed it is hard to squash... In my experience those emotions are so intense that one would not want to live them for a lifetime.



Julia--this was my exact experience too.

To the OP--nothing wrong with strong feelings as long as they don't take over your life to the extent that you get nothing done and don't tend to your responsibilities.  This happened to me with my first online D/s experience, spent way to many hours chatting and neglected my chores.  Don't let it become an addiction.

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 9:21:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		I will say though, I actually spent real world time with this fellow. I just wanted to make sure that my first dominant was not put on the list of a cyberdom.. he was not my cyberdom. But you are right, it can become addictive and all one thinks about is getting a submissive fix.

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 9:24:01 AM   
susie


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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

quote:

ORIGINAL: TheChauvinist

I believe it's called sub-frenzy. It happens whe you're new. Are you new? Either way, you'll get over it.


Oh you again. At least she's got a profile up on here. How you form your biased opinins I'll never know. Just because she is a newbie on here doesn't mean she is new to the life style.
And she may well not 'get over' it as you so inappropriately state. I will address the OP in a more supportive manner and simply hope that you keep your trite generalisations to yourself.



It would be interesting to know why you are so obsessed with the fact that someone is posting here without a profile. Many people are on CM just for the fora and do not have profiles. Why are you so obsessed with this particular one?

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 9:26:31 AM   
LATEXBABY64


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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 9:29:02 AM   
laurell3


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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

laurell3

Damn it, now I have that air supply song in my head, it was air supply wasn't it?


It made me think of REO Speedwagon, I can't fight this feeling anymore.......




oooo yeah thanks! 

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 9:29:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

what the hell is wrong with subbmitting to one person.  where did that become a crime or bad thing geeze how stuipd is that.  I see the drive by posters are at it again trying to take something good and make it something wrong


If that was a reply to me then I have no idea what you are talking about in relation to my post. What does my post have to do with submitting to more than one person?

If you want to respond to my posts at least have the decency to read what they say.

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 9:40:54 AM   
LATEXBABY64


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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 9:42:43 AM   
Prinsexx


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ORIGINAL: susie

quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

quote:

ORIGINAL: TheChauvinist

I believe it's called sub-frenzy. It happens whe you're new. Are you new? Either way, you'll get over it.


Oh you again. At least she's got a profile up on here. How you form your biased opinins I'll never know. Just because she is a newbie on here doesn't mean she is new to the life style.
And she may well not 'get over' it as you so inappropriately state. I will address the OP in a more supportive manner and simply hope that you keep your trite generalisations to yourself.



It would be interesting to know why you are so obsessed with the fact that someone is posting here without a profile. Many people are on CM just for the fora and do not have profiles. Why are you so obsessed with this particular one?

You are right. It is looking like an obsession. It's just that I rise to the bait and am obviously feeding The Chauve's rudeness with my responses. Thanks for letting me know. i shall ignore him completely in the future.
And nothing wrong with np profile except when The Chauive repeatedly criticises others'.

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 9:44:29 AM   
susie


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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

I did a fast reply geeze people  Take a star bucks moment it was to the original op


In that case your reply makes no sense in that context either. The OP did not mention submitting to more than one person.

Perhaps you are the one that needs to take a moment.

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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 9:45:58 AM   
Prinsexx


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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

what the hell is wrong with subbmitting to one person.  where did that become a crime or bad thing geeze how stuipd is that.  I see the drive by posters are at it again trying to take something good and make it something wrong

Dear Latexbabes
Submitting to one is my ideal. Count me in. But he's got to have the capacity to dominate me otherwise I'm a feisty one and off the hook. I can't submit to a brick wall and chant for example.
PS Please don't criticise my spelling.


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RE: Cant Control These Feelings - 11/3/2007 10:09:36 AM   
LATEXBABY64


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