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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/4/2007 8:14:32 AM   
TotalState


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ORIGINAL: RRafe

No legal forms will save you.

This is one place you will have to trust enough to submit to HER will.


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In fact, in many cases, S&M activities are actually illegal, and the dom could easily land in trouble if the sub decides to press charges.  So yea, trust.


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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/4/2007 6:32:24 PM   
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Dear THT-

Actually, abouyt have the people on the boards have commited 'rape' in the legal/ indictable sense in the state of NY. In NYS (I am unsure as to other jurisdictions) 'consent' cannot be give by a person who is restraind or 'constrained in any manner'. That is, if your girls says tie me to the bed and fuck me, the minute she is bound, consent is invailid, and sex at that point becomes rape.

The real issue as seen by Cherry and Sabella, is your level of trust. A lot gets thrown around about the submissives level of trust, it's rarer to here that it pretty key to dominance as well. If you don't trust her, walk.

I am not a lawyer, nor do I play one on TV. I did do a really hot cross examine roleplay once though....

Stay warm,
Lawrence


It appears to say physically helpless as in unable to communicate lack of consent.

http://public.leginfo.state.ny.us/menugetf.cgi?COMMONQUERY=LAWS

Obviously any prosecutor, judge, or jury, can stretch that to fit just about anything.


Well, I suppose the legal advice I recieved was supect, as it was coming from an ADA who was, in fact, physically restrained at the time...

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/4/2007 8:34:21 PM   
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The fact that you're asking this question should be enough for you to say NO. You are not comfortable doing it and therefore you should always listen to that little tiny voice. Forget contracts and videos. If you're not comfy then don't feel that you're obligated. No matter what she could or she may not scream and take you to court. Both people have to communicate and be ready to do something like this. However, you have know that no matter how careful you do it- you put yourself at risk.

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/4/2007 9:32:20 PM   
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That's not necessarily true.  Obviously, a rape-consent form doesn't authorize one person to rape another, but it still counts as evidence and could be used to undermine her (or the prosecutor's) case if they invent a bullshit story.

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consent forms won't protect you in a court.

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/4/2007 9:33:01 PM   
Koala


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To the OP

Personally... all this talk of video taping and consent forms is very much an indication that you are not ready... she might... but you are not.  Yes... you are in effect taking a huge legal risk... IF and only IF she calls foul.  She is taking a risk as well but the consequences are much more illusive to identify compared to yourself.  In the end.. you both have to trust each other to make this scene a reality.  Instead of wasting time for consent forms and the like... why don't you spend time communicating with her on exactly what the scene to her is.  Let her express to you until you can express it back to her to the point that you both feel the scene is understood.   Then don't just jump into the scene.  Take baby steps along the way.  Test a particular aspect of the scene ... IE... she wants it rough... well then have rough sex with her... and make it ROUGH!  If she is comfortable with it... then talk about how this will be part of a Rape scene... how would it affect her... yeah more talk.  Being Tied up might also might be a part of a Rape Scene... so do bondage on her... but don't tell her that it will happen ..... in the course of one of your planned or expect sexual encounters.. introduce bondage to the scene....  Then on another occassion.. introduce Rough and Bondage together.  Build it up slowly.. until you both feel your ready for the scene... it plays on the edges for most folks... but if done right... it can and will be  HOT


This is bang on. Work up to it gradually... and when you're positive you can both handle it, spring it on her when she doesn't expect it.

Good luck!

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/4/2007 9:40:22 PM   
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Forgive me if its been said, I have only read about the first ten posts... One CANNOT legally consent to an illegal act.  Not in writing, video or in person.  No amoun of paper work or video tape is going to save you if she presses charges.

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/4/2007 10:36:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists


Personally... all this talk of video taping and consent forms is very much an indication that you are not ready... she might... but you are not.  Yes... you are in effect taking a huge legal risk... IF and only IF she calls foul.  She is taking a risk as well but the consequences are much more illusive to identify compared to yourself.  In the end.. you both have to trust each other to make this scene a reality. 


Exactly.

If you're not willing to take the risk, stay out of the game.

Besides, no lawyer is going to draw up a "legal consent form" for rape.

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/5/2007 10:57:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Vanatru

the reason consent forms (and even video taping) don't work is that the person could have a change of heart, so that even if you followed the "script" exactly, she could still cry foul, that she changed her mind and you did it anyways. Most of what we do falls in a legal gray area (and some of it is actually considered illegal, just not widely pushed), so never expect something said, written videoed ahead of time to actually help you if the cops swing by.

Consent is a really really tricky legal term that is way too subjective to be funny.

It is tricky and risky.  I have had this experience and we both got it notarized in different places (we lived in separate parts of the US).  I can't say if it would work or not, because there wasn't an issue during or after we did this scene but we took a lot of time asking people (including KAP) and this is what we decided to do.  Of course we recommend making sure the Notary Public is kinky too :) (she was in New York, I was in California).

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/5/2007 12:50:19 PM   
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befoer real if  a prosecuter looking for points in the next or a election guess what your sunk. kinky or not most of the time they will take the side of a the plantiff. Not to mention lawyer fees. public humilation is reallyworth the risk.

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/5/2007 2:42:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

That's not necessarily true.  Obviously, a rape-consent form doesn't authorize one person to rape another, but it still counts as evidence and could be used to undermine her (or the prosecutor's) case if they invent a bullshit story.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Vanatru

consent forms won't protect you in a court.



Consent doesn't negate the general assault and it's questionable whether it would help at all with a charge of sexual assault.  The form/video would be just as likely to be good evidence against you to prove your intent to commit an assault.  There's no evidence in the world that can make wiitwd legal.  Trust is all there is.

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/5/2007 3:29:48 PM   
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Video taping is your best bet! Have her not only give her permission to you by name, but also have her assign a safe word to use if things get too far gone! You should be in the tape to prove beyond doubt that the rape is intended to satisfy her desire, and fantasy.  She has too say " I am giving my full permission as a woman of legal age and mind to  ( Your Name) to act out a fantasy of mine to be physically raped by ( your name) without permanent harm to my body. I hold ( your name ) faultless from any prosecution by myself and agree not to bring any charges against (your name ) for helping me act out this fantasy"!  
 
Write out a written agreement and have it notarized ! That should provide you with some protection. Get her to sign and place her fingerprint in ink upon this document and have it notarized by a notary public.
The notary may be embarrassing for both of you but will provide you with a defense should minds change!
 
As others have said  - really know the lady!
 
We have acted on this fantasy before and have had NO problems associated with it when all parties are well aware of all the arrangements!  ENJOY!

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/5/2007 4:01:09 PM   
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People seem to be forgetting the reasonable-doubt standard.  Yes, we all agree that a rape-consent form doesn't authorize you to rape someone, and if they have OTHER TYPES OF EVIDENCE to show that you raped someone, then you're going to get convicted.  But if some unhappy bitch decides to prosecute for rape after she's made it very clear that this has been her long-cherished fantasy, a prosecutor will need more than just her word in order to make a charge stick.  A documentary record of conversations with her alleged rapist, confessions of her desires, and so on, will make it much more difficult to convict.  You need quite a bit more than "Oh, at the last minute I changed my mind and that makes it rape" in order to convict someone.

One caveat: if you're black and you're in the South, all bets are off.  Juries down there seem to be willing to convict a black man for anything.  Sorry to have to say it.

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

That's not necessarily true.  Obviously, a rape-consent form doesn't authorize one person to rape another, but it still counts as evidence and could be used to undermine her (or the prosecutor's) case if they invent a bullshit story.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Vanatru

consent forms won't protect you in a court.



Consent doesn't negate the general assault and it's questionable whether it would help at all with a charge of sexual assault.  The form/video would be just as likely to be good evidence against you to prove your intent to commit an assault.  There's no evidence in the world that can make wiitwd legal.  Trust is all there is.

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/5/2007 4:18:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

.....  Yes, we all agree that a rape-consent form doesn't authorize you to rape someone, and if they have OTHER TYPES OF EVIDENCE to show that you raped someone, then you're going to get convicted.  But if some unhappy bitch decides to prosecute for rape after she's made it very clear that this has been her long-cherished fantasy, a prosecutor will need more than just her word in order to make a charge stick.  A documentary record of conversations with her alleged rapist, confessions of her desires, and so on, will make it much more difficult to convict.  You need quite a bit more than "Oh, at the last minute I changed my mind and that makes it rape" in order to convict someone.


I will add one point here.

Was it Rape?  Can you Rape the Willing?  It is possible that all the TYPES OF EVIDENCE will actually show that the Scene... Though called a Rape Scene... Is not actaully considered Rape under the law.  

But... I stand by my orginal thought... if you need get this Type of Evidence for this type of scene... I thinking they lack the trust to do the scene in the first place.

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/5/2007 4:27:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

People seem to be forgetting the reasonable-doubt standard.  Yes, we all agree that a rape-consent form doesn't authorize you to rape someone, and if they have OTHER TYPES OF EVIDENCE to show that you raped someone, then you're going to get convicted.  But if some unhappy bitch decides to prosecute for rape after she's made it very clear that this has been her long-cherished fantasy, a prosecutor will need more than just her word in order to make a charge stick.  A documentary record of conversations with her alleged rapist, confessions of her desires, and so on, will make it much more difficult to convict.  You need quite a bit more than "Oh, at the last minute I changed my mind and that makes it rape" in order to convict someone.

One caveat: if you're black and you're in the South, all bets are off.  Juries down there seem to be willing to convict a black man for anything.  Sorry to have to say it.

quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

That's not necessarily true.  Obviously, a rape-consent form doesn't authorize one person to rape another, but it still counts as evidence and could be used to undermine her (or the prosecutor's) case if they invent a bullshit story.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Vanatru

consent forms won't protect you in a court.



Consent doesn't negate the general assault and it's questionable whether it would help at all with a charge of sexual assault.  The form/video would be just as likely to be good evidence against you to prove your intent to commit an assault.  There's no evidence in the world that can make wiitwd legal.  Trust is all there is.



Please reread my post.  I'm fully aware of reasonable doubt and every other standard of proof and the necessity of corroborating evidence.  But the OP didn't ask about that.

People are rarely charged with just one primary offense, juries are almost never instructed on just one primary offense.  A jury can find you guilty of a lesser-included offense upon instruction by the court.  There is a difference in regard to a felony sexual assault and a misdemeanor assault, primarily consent (although arguably many others, but in context this is the relevant issue).  As I stated, while it may be evidence to negate the sexual assault, there is still the issue of a general misdemenor assault, which in most states is still illegal regardless of consent.  The evidence may actually prove your intent to commit a misdemeanor assault.  The consent form/video tape will prove the reasonable doubt standard for the general assault.  That is my point. 

Again, trust and the relationship is the answer, not legalities.  The OP seems to be awol anyway, so there doesn't seem to be much point in this continued debate.

Edited to add:  I agree KoM, as I stated above, a "consentual rape" is  legally nonsensical.  I'm assuming the OP means if someone said it was a real sexual assault. 

< Message edited by laurell3 -- 11/5/2007 4:58:23 PM >


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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/5/2007 4:48:25 PM   
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I wonder how effective a video would be in reality. She could say she'd been drugged and said she agreed, coerced in some way, afraid for her life, etc. Which would make it even worse.

Like pat, I don't really get consensual rape. It's like guys who ask to be forced into dressing like a woman, or using diapers. If you ask for it, it isn't forced.

Anyhoo, I don't know jack shit about this kind of legality, though laurell obviously does, so I'd listen to her.



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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/5/2007 6:58:39 PM   
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Im failing to understand how this can be thought of as rape if it is something she wants and has asked for although if you are worried about future legal issues maybe you should ask her to sign a document stating she is a willing participant in this!
I just had a thought if she is thinking of you bringing in a third person from outside then i would be very worried about the possible implications further down the road!

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/5/2007 10:17:14 PM   
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What if she is not telling you the entire fantasy ? Like the part where she has to testify in court, watch her attacker sentenced to 40 years to life while she enjoys the realness of being a "victim". There is a guy from Herndon, Va. serving 10 years for a "fantasy" kidnapping. The fantasy ending with the FBI hostage rescue team taking out his front door and "rescuing an abducted victim". 

Be very careful, you may end up raped in prison.

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/5/2007 10:28:56 PM   
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Actually, I think the opposite.  If the issue is real sexual assault, there's nothing to talk about.  That's an open and shut case.  He's talking about how to do a consensual rape scene without having to worry about legal difficulties.

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

Edited to add:  I agree KoM, as I stated above, a "consentual rape" is  legally nonsensical.  I'm assuming the OP means if someone said it was a real sexual assault. 

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/6/2007 6:27:40 AM   
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...You need quite a bit more than "Oh, at the last minute I changed my mind and that makes it rape" in order to convict someone.


Actually, a last minute change of mind (when reasonably communicated), can make it rape.  'No' means 'No', previous 'Yesses' notwithstanding. Marital rape is a good example of a signed contract and previously expressed wishes not overriding the right to withdraw consent.

Getting convictions of course, is always a different story.

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RE: Rape Request and Legal Consent - 11/6/2007 6:39:46 AM   
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Well, i am an attorney.  And if there is consent, or a reasonable belief of consent, a conviction is almost impossible.  Keep in mind that a written "slave contract" is really only a get-of-jail card in a truly legal sense.  If she wants this, get a signed document.  Explicitly have her state and have in it what she is agreeing and wanting.  If you have any friend's in the lifestyle, let them be witnesses.  Then have at it.  It might help if you have few explicit photos too over a period of time to support that you and her have a M/s relationship.

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