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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Male Sub needs answer to a question. (11/4/2007 10:20:56 AM)
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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle
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ORIGINAL: lateralist1
First of all your a bottom not a sub.
And you are looking for a service top not a Mistress.
Go find a pro Domme who lists CBT as one of her skills.
That way you get what you want and she gets what she wants which is your money.
Fair exchange. No robbery involved.
This sounds as if you don't approve of bottoms and tops and are one of those who thinks we're not "real." Forgive me, please, if my impression is mistaken.
I find in the real life BDSM community there are more than a few sadistic tops (as opposed to service tops) who quite enjoy CBT and the reactions it gets from pain sluts like me as much as I do.
If you don't believe me, ask the one who pinned me to a butterfly board and worked me over with a violet wand last night.
Oops. Sorry all. I guess that last bit was boasting.
*Waves to Harry from Phoenix*
I would take it less as disapproval and more as a blunt statement of how the OP is reading. And I would agree.
What I see, Harry, is that you did state "in the real life BDSM community". I am aware that you are a heavy maso bottom, and I am also aware that you do not lack for partners when the spirit moves you. I am sure that is because you have gained a good rep in the real life BDSM community. I agree that there are plenty of FemDoms who enjoy being in the role of "Service Top" when they are out at a public play party and have the opportunity for a good scene with someone they have only recently met. But the feeling of safety, fun and at least a small and comfortable social connection has been made. You are both there, you both want something with no strings, and you both made yourself available at a public function. There is a big difference between that and being written to because you are a convenient profile online.
Unless this boy has been looking in real time, and he does not state that, then the advice given by most who have posted thus far is right on the money. If he is looking in real time, perhaps at munches, but he is offering himself for CBT because he wants to "try it", that can be a bit offputting also. I have had boys come to My munch and all they want to talk about is what they have done regarding BDSM activities and what they want to do. They state this as they are looking around the table and obviously wondering who might be up for it. So it is less a feeling that you are liked and more a feeling that you are a means to an end. I honestly don't mind being a means to an end as long as it is mutual and in the appropriate setting. I don't like being talked to as if I am on the prowl and why don't I just pick him? Hope I am making some sense here.
When the OP states he is having a hard time finding a "Mistress" to give him what he wants in the area of CBT, My first question is "How are you looking and approaching?"
OP: you are 20 years old, and your profile reads as "Here I am...do with Me what you will, but I only want CBT"
For Harry... Boast away! *Smile*
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