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RE: sadness - 8/5/2005 9:25:20 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures
thank you to E/everyone..does this mean i should change my profile?

pinkpleasures[

It means you need to stop listening to everyone all, all these boards, all your helpful mentors and masters, and start really listening to YOURSELF and being to realize what variety there is out there.

I think you're in danger of becoming a perpetual cyber sub simply because you allow yourself to get boxed in by loads of unrealistic expectations, instead of simply seeing things for what they are and doing what works best for you.

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RE: sadness - 8/5/2005 9:47:19 AM   
plantlady64


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Status: offline 		Hello There,
I think most of us Dom or sub that want a relationship have times where we feel hopeless and that it's just not in the cards for us. I know it's hard, but you have to keep hope alive. It's those things you seek that you work towards that you can succeed in. Pulling in your tents would leave you with less of a chance to achieve your dreams. It's such a numbers game on the web. I too felt like I was having not very successful odds but I stuck with it and was lucky enough to find my Master. Keep the faith, you will too.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: sadness - 8/5/2005 9:54:35 AM   
ChereeAmoor


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Status: offline 		Pink - you got a lot of good advice here, and all I can do is echo it. Take time for yourself, be GOOD to yourself, give everything a little more time - but if it is just getting exhaustiong and depressing, by all means, take a break from the search. One of my Masters often says, "It may not happen ON time, but when it happens, it is the RIGHT time." Take good care of yourself, look up, and smile.

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RE: sadness - 8/5/2005 10:01:59 AM   
Faramir


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And as for 'searching' - don't. Those that do not look, find. And that makes it even more special.

Peace and Love


Seek, and you shall find.
Ask, and you shall receive.
Knock, and the way shall be opened.

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RE: sadness - 8/5/2005 12:14:04 PM   
darkinshadows


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Faramir


quote:

ORIGINAL: dark~angel



And as for 'searching' - don't. Those that do not look, find. And that makes it even more special.

Peace and Love


Seek, and you shall find.
Ask, and you shall receive.
Knock, and the way shall be opened.



Actually, thats a really good point. See, I always see 'searching' as a word that dictates looking for something that I wouldn't really know is out there. But seeking, is for something that is there, just not visable at that precise moment - like hide and seek. So I agree, seek - but I would never search.

Peace and Love

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RE: sadness - 8/5/2005 12:36:55 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures
thank you to E/everyone..does this mean i should change my profile?
pinkpleasures

Hey Pink, I don't think you should change your profile if it reflects who you are and what you need.
I do think that when you feel sad about this online thing, you should close/deactivate profile, go do things you enjoy (or just be in quiet peace with yourself), and when you have found your sense of humor again, come back and reactivate it.
Certainly don't dismiss opportunities to go out and meet people face to face while looking online.
What works for me, is enjoying self and life as it is/as I make it, and if a pleasant surprise should come along to make it more fun, than I am open to the possibilities.
I don't agree you should stop looking, and you'll find, because if you're anything like me, you will completely miss any cues that come your way, and than catch on later when you're home wondering why that guy was being so flirtatious or like such a gentleman. Instead, don't make your life about searching, live your life doing whatever makes you happier and more fullfilled as a human being, and in that way, if right master comes along (and I believe he will), you'll be your happy self, plus some additional fun. M


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RE: sadness - 8/5/2005 12:45:10 PM   
stormsfate


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Status: offline 		I would really, really suggest proceeding with your plan to start attending local events. Even if you can't find someone to go with you, perhaps you could contact those who run the group and get to know them a bit and possibly be able to attend with them. Sitting on the internet isn't giving you a clear picture of the lifestyle, imo. You don't have to play to get involved in your local groups, and if nothing else, it will give you a network of people you can observe for informational purposes.

best regards,
fate

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RE: sadness - 8/5/2005 7:13:32 PM   
pinkpleasures


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i really appreciate E/everyone's advice. But i wrote this thread post on a bit of a whim..and i'd appreciate it if W/we could just forget i said anything. Such personal matters should not be dealt with here on the boards.

pinkpleasures

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RE: sadness - 8/5/2005 9:34:59 PM   
LASub4Real


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Status: offline 		speaks in his most secret voice... "it's not the Doms, it's not the search, it's where you're looking to find happiness."

Find it independent of your search and you'll see that once aquired, there is nothing can touch your joy.

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RE: sadness - 8/5/2005 10:41:31 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures
i really appreciate E/everyone's advice. But i wrote this thread post on a bit of a whim..and i'd appreciate it if W/we could just forget i said anything. Such personal matters should not be dealt with here on the boards.

pinkpleasures

Just make sure it's because you think this isn't the place to bare your soul and not because you didn't get all happy 'poor thing' type answers.

And PLEASE get offline and to a munch or something soon.

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RE: sadness - 8/6/2005 7:08:41 AM   
pinkpleasures


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Em...i regret acting implusively and posting this thread. And i asked for no more posts, which i think should have been respected, since the damned thing was too personal. Please don't use it to re-ignite bad feelings between us. If you want to discuss the folly of posting personal threads, please start one of your own. But enough already.

pinkpleasures

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RE: sadness - 8/6/2005 8:57:55 AM   
twolives333


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Status: offline 		Sometimes I wonder what subs are serching for

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RE: sadness - 8/6/2005 9:18:41 AM   
MrThorns


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ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures

Em...i regret acting implusively and posting this thread. And i asked for no more posts, which i think should have been respected, since the damned thing was too personal. Please don't use it to re-ignite bad feelings between us. If you want to discuss the folly of posting personal threads, please start one of your own. But enough already.

pinkpleasures


Perhaps you should either ask a moderator to remove the thread, or take some time to think about what you are posting before you submit it.

~Thorns


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