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thecrownedprince -> Younger Doms (11/4/2007 9:43:33 AM)
why don't younger Doms, like myself, get respect from older subs? They say that age brings experience but there are many older subs that have been in the lifestyle for less years than I. there are also older Doms that have been in the life for less. so my question is, why do subs feel that age has ANYTHING to do with dominance and a Dom's capabilities...

Viridana -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 9:45:14 AM)
Respect is earned not given.

TotalState -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 9:45:46 AM)
Possibly because younger doms whine too much. This must be the 5th thread like this that I've seen.

AquaticSub -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 9:51:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thecrownedprince why don't younger Doms, like myself, get respect from older subs? They say that age brings experience but there are many older subs that have been in the lifestyle for less years than I. there are also older Doms that have been in the life for less. so my question is, why do subs feel that age has ANYTHING to do with dominance and a Dom's capabilities... Because some submissives are only interested in a dominant with a great of experience who has already acquired and mastered many skill sets when it comes to BDSM. While I prefer younger dominants (they being around my own age), the older dominant is more likely to already have this information. This is not to say that it will always been the case, we have plenty of people joining the lifestyle at 40+ having never touched a whip and younger folks who have been at it since they were 18. However, my best advice to you is to simply not expect respect from submissives in general. Many of us don't give respect on the basis of being a dominant, regardless of age. Don't fuss about it, simply move on, be polite and show that you are worth respecting. Edited for a typo

charlotte12 -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 9:55:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub be polite and show that you are worth respecting. I couldn't have put it better myself. And from such a young submissive! [sm=hair.gif] young....and hot.... slinks away to bemoan the loss of aquaticsub's pictures [:D] charlotte

AquaticSub -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 10:00:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: charlotte12 slinks away to bemoan the loss of aquaticsub's pictures [:D] charlotte giggles I have one up, but it really doesn't show the girls at all. If anything, it makes them look smaller.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 10:01:39 AM)
Can't say I've ever had that problem. Maybe it's a guy thing?

charlotte12 -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 10:08:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub quote: ORIGINAL: charlotte12 slinks away to bemoan the loss of aquaticsub's pictures [:D] charlotte giggles I have one up, but it really doesn't show the girls at all. If anything, it makes them look smaller. Oh yay i didn't know you had put one back up. I don't need to see the girls, i like your smile :)

CuriousLord -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 10:39:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan Can't say I've ever had that problem. Maybe it's a guy thing? Don't lump the gender together.

CuriousLord -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 10:43:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thecrownedprince why don't younger Doms, like myself, get respect from older subs? They say that age brings experience but there are many older subs that have been in the lifestyle for less years than I. there are also older Doms that have been in the life for less. so my question is, why do subs feel that age has ANYTHING to do with dominance and a Dom's capabilities... Perhaps its less about your age and more about you?

chellekitty -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 10:46:10 AM)
first things...randomly putting words in ALL CAPS for emphasis is ANNOYING.... secondly...your profile has two key words that would make me run for the hills in all caps: fake and real... thirdly...your profile says nothing about you... fourthly...your pictures suck, they look like they are left overs from highschool, you are 22, right? fifthly...your attitude, as pointed out earlier is demanding respect, not earning it...and that will get you now where real fast... is that enough to work on for right now? chelle

Guilty1974 -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 11:07:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thecrownedprince why don't younger Doms, like myself, get respect from older subs? In my personal experience, they do. Older subs may not see a young dominant as a potetial partner (and vice versa), but personally I've never met with disrespect from older subs. The few occasions that I've met with disrespect because of my age, it was older male dominants (who probably just saw me as competition). So the big question is, why worry about it?

Maya2001 -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 11:25:41 AM)
There is a difference between giving respect and choosing which dom a person wants to submit to. I have a hard enough time dealing with supervisors that are my sons age who are too into themselves trying to prove themselves to be equal or better than the more experience older supervisors such that they tend to end up being in my eyes overbearing/controlling and ridiculous in their demands especially with the workers older than themselves but most have not developed patience which is something that often develops with time and age the result is the impatience and aggressiveness to prove themselves and the more the try to force the older workers to comply the more they retaliate put simply they are in too much of an ego/power trip to realize that their methods are not getting the desired results, only an extremely small fraction of the new younger supervisors are laidback enough to realize they are not in a power competition/trip and are relaxed enough to be themselves and work with the workers to get the job done. That same overzealousness in a young dom to prove themselves(the beating on chest to say here i am, look at how good I am) can become a real turnoff to the older sub who wants the focus to be on them instead, the same can apply to older new doms as well, the reason I would much rather be dealing with an older/same age dom with experience so I am not having to deal with the ego trip the newer ones are on, the other thing is I would be totally uncomfortable having someone as a dom near my sons age, kind of hard to get the mental image of Dom if near the same age after you have tended to your child and their friends dirty diapers, kissing boo boos and taking care of skinned knees have watched them go thru puberty and seen there rageing hormaone first drunks etc

DomMeinCT -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 11:33:12 AM)
Speaking for myself, it's not age = D/s experience that would keep me away from a younger Dom, but the fact that I'd want to connect generationally with someone (music, books, history, TV, movies, shared growing up experiences) and that would be impossible with someone much younger. I can't speak to the experience you've had so far with disrespect and older subs, but looking at your profile, the beginning of it comes off as demanding, angry, and frustrated with some other person. To me, that equates with immaturity and focuses on the past. You might want to consider changing the tone and breadth of what you wrote with more positive things about yourself and what you seek.

SteelofUtah -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 12:13:17 PM)
Was going to reply but read everything that was said and the went to the guys profile. It has nothing to do with your age it has everything to do with who you are man, it has everything to do with t he fact that you obviously don't respect them. You are condesending and trite. Despite the time you have spent in this lifestyle you still show that you have yet to learn that we all are people and not accessories to your world. Oh and chelle, I do the cap thing all the time I didn't knwo it bothered you I will have to take that into account. As Always Steel

chellekitty -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 12:18:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah <snip> Oh and chelle, I do the cap thing all the time I didn't knwo it bothered you I will have to take that into account. it has to do with online ettiquite...all caps is considered shouting online...would you randomly shout words while speaking? for ephasis in a forum such as this there are other tools, such as itallics and bold and underlining....

SteelofUtah -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 12:22:46 PM)
I agree and I need to try harder but when I get going useing all the caps is just faster I can see where it is seen as yelling but I was recently told that the bold face appease as being yelling too it would seem I am at a loss here. I just wish we could leave Audio Responces and just be done with the guessing games of what a person is trying to say, Either way sorry if I pissed you off with my typing style. As Always Steel

chellekitty -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 12:27:52 PM)
never noticed you doing it Steel, you are good....will keep watching you though...and i will report you to Santa if you've been naughty [:D]

AquaticSub -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 12:32:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah I just wish we could leave Audio Responces and just be done with the guessing games of what a person is trying to say, NUUUU!!! Then everyone will find out how high my voice is and I will have to re-record everything any time I stuttered! hides

BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: Younger Doms (11/4/2007 12:32:51 PM)
I have nothing against young DOM'S hell I was one myself back in the STONE AGE smiles...I have been acquainted with some young Dom's that know their stuff..One thing in their favor, they aren't set in their ways and most are oped minded...just the opinion of this ol' Dom

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