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Am I the only one that got hung up on the description of the work schedule problem? Faithful, could you clarify what the problem is, because I'm not understanding at all why you won't be having regular sex with your partner from what you said here.
She works Sun-Wed, 3rd shift.
You work Thru-Sat, 3rd shift.
Where is the lack of time to have lots of non-quickie sex? This is a totally normal work schedule for a couple, just at night instead of the daytime.
Is it that others are familiar with past posts and there is more in your schedule going on that I don't know about? Both of you going to college during the day or something similar? Live a few hours apart?
I'm confused, please clarify.
No problem R P,
We both work 3rd shift. Ten hours a shift plus an hour driving back and fourth. Her days off are Thursday through Saturday which means she works Wednesday night before her days off and Sunday night she goes back to work. I work Wednesday night which is the last day she works, and I work every day ending with Saturday, so my first day off is Sunday which is the first day she goes back to work. Every day she has off is a day I'm at work for twelve hours and she'll be with the other guys over the weekend. This means the only time I'll get a quickie is when she is working, I wont ever get to be the one to spend a romantic night with her on her day off, all i'll get to do is sleep next to her when she's working and get a quickie sometimes. The only guys who will seriously be able to pursue my girlfriend and have the time to do so are these other fellas. I will never be able to spend a day with her until I get another job which I'm trying very very hard to do.
Ah, thank you for explaining more, that helps to better understand your situation. I think part of the confusion was we have a different idea of what a "quickie" is lol. Going forward with the conversation, so that you understand what I mean by it, I consider a "quickie" as anything under 30 minutes from start to finish... and usually less than 15 minutes. A "regular" or "average" sexual session in my mind tends to mean 30 minutes to 2.5 hrs. Longer than that I consider a long sexual session. That's how they -generally- group in my head.
With your clarification, I'm still seeing something here that I felt in your first post. You may want to take a look at it and consider it.
While 12 hours of away-from-home time for a job is long hours, and you'll be stuck for the next couple of months without the opportunity to devote a full night or day to each other, this still doesn't indicate a true lack of time for each other and more than (what I consider) quickies.
Being on mismatched schedules like that does chop into your togetherness time and is understandably a disappointment and frustration... But many people do 12hrs away from hom schedules and manage an active and fullfilling sex life with their partner. I know that I have on a number of occasions with jobs that have caused my work hours to be 10-14 hours a day for months at a time while my spouse has worked a job that normally ranges daily from 12-16hrs a day 5 days a week away from home for the past 11 yrs that we've known each other (he's military).
My point is, while your schedules do indeed suck right now from what you've said in your OP and your elaboration to me they really *don't* limit your sexual life to the extent you're expressing thinking it does. Either this cuckold situation in general is upsetting you and you're allowing your mind to exaggerate the problem or there is another reason the sex is being reduced as severely as you're describing.
I'd hoped in your telling me mroe about your situation that I'd see what was causing the problem and it was something I'd not known or misunderstood about your and your partner's life right now but from what you've said you two really should be able to have some good blocks of time devoted to each other both sexually and not.
There seems to be more going on here than a mismatched schedule and I think you really need to look at that instead of the work schedule right now to figure out what's the real problem and what to do about it.
In any case, I hope things do get more comfortable and better arranged for you in some way soon.
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