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A young master - 8/5/2005 3:51:18 AM

eckie

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I am a young master of tweny five and i cannot find a slave whom is interested in one so young, i seek a mature bbw or busty slave in the uk, and when ever i approach a slave im knocked back due to my age. Any help, advice or hints would be welcome. With thanks Master Eckie.

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RE: A young master - 8/5/2005 7:03:29 AM

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look in the bbw threads.

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RE: A young master - 8/5/2005 8:03:07 AM

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Be honest and tell them up front your age and what you are seeking.
People have preferences and you have to realize you won't fit everyone's
preference. You only need to fit a single persons...so it will be a bit tougher
finding what you seek.
You will in time though.

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RE: A young master - 8/5/2005 8:24:16 AM

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I feel your pain. I am young as well, 24, which to me isnt young at all. It seems as though a number is a disqualifying offense. Just because a Dom is 45 and not 25, does that mean that said Dom is more experienced? Thats like me looking at a woman with red hair and automatically assuming she can fuck better than a woman with blond hair. Or insert whichever anectdote you wish in place of that.

I know that I am Dominant. I feel it to the very core of my being. Its that passion that drives me but most women would assume that it doesnt exist simply because of my age. Maybe Im off track here. Maybe its the "distinguished" stereotype that most older gentlemen get that attracts the female population. Unfortunately alot of women would pass on the opportunity to get to know exactly who I am because Im not "over the hill". Its a shame that it is this way but I dont see it changing anytime soon.

-s1n

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RE: A young master - 8/5/2005 8:52:23 AM

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Everybody is too someting for the vast vast vast majority of people.

Luckily, you only have to be just right for one (or a few, if you happen to be poly *wink*).

Keep looking...being too young is a condition that is easily (and unstopably) cured. *smile*

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RE: A young master - 8/6/2005 11:26:56 PM

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I am a young master of tweny five and i cannot find a slave whom is interested in one so young, i seek a mature bbw or busty slave in the uk, and when ever i approach a slave im knocked back due to my age. Any help, advice or hints would be welcome. With thanks Master Eckie.

I’m having a chuckle here. I’m at the other end of the age spectrum, which makes me far too old for most slaves, however life experience has taught me that patience is the key. Just remember that out there is a mature BBW who is dieing to wear a collar of a young Master. Guess what? Odds are that she doesn’t really believe that there is one as young as you who may want her……

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RE: A young master - 8/7/2005 9:38:31 PM

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I too am young, only 23, and I feel that although searching for a "mature" submissive may be difficult (as a couple have stated) but try to find someone that has your likes/dislikes, I mean unless "mature" is your number 1 priority in a submissive. Personally, I think it is beneficial to rank your interests and give find someone that fits. If a high pain tolerance is on your list above "mature" maybe not "settle" but maybe try someone with a high pain tolerance that is not as old. You would be surprised at what works. Personally I felt being picky was the key but being picky does not open your eyes to what is out there. Rank your interests. Personally I feel if all D/s did this then it would be easier to find a match. Because this would give younger guys a chance with those a little more mature. But sometimes you have to take the first step. Like was stated before, there may be a mature BBW that is out there but she doesn't want to make that step. Explain to them what your interests are and maybe they will realize you are the one they are looking for and see past your age.

As always just a rant,

Rob

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RE: A young master - 8/7/2005 10:05:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: richbtch24

I too am young, only 23, and I feel that although searching for a "mature" submissive may be difficult (as a couple have stated) but try to find someone that has your likes/dislikes, I mean unless "mature" is your number 1 priority in a submissive. Personally, I think it is beneficial to rank your interests and give find someone that fits. If a high pain tolerance is on your list above "mature" maybe not "settle" but maybe try someone with a high pain tolerance that is not as old. You would be surprised at what works. Personally I felt being picky was the key but being picky does not open your eyes to what is out there. Rank your interests. Personally I feel if all D/s did this then it would be easier to find a match. Because this would give younger guys a chance with those a little more mature. But sometimes you have to take the first step. Like was stated before, there may be a mature BBW that is out there but she doesn't want to make that step. Explain to them what your interests are and maybe they will realize you are the one they are looking for and see past your age.

As always just a rant,

Rob

When I was in my mid 20s (I'm 36 now) as a femdom, lots of older men were very interested in getting me to dominate them, and they weren't that interested in my experience or whether I had any. I had plenty -- but it was mostly dominating vanilla boyfriends who did not come with a long laundry lists of their desires and the expectation that I'd fuck them in the ass on the first date.

Maturity (in a bdsm sense) can be measured in so many ways. One of the most important skills a dominant needs, in my opinion, is empathy and the ability to read people, and a lot of hands on experience with a variety of personality types. The ability to get into someone's head. The rest of it -- flogging, binding, strapons, whatever -- comes from practical hands-on experience. But without the dominant "vibe" -- the pacing, the self confidence, the reading of people -- no amount of practical skills can pull it off.

Now, if you are talking about overall maturity -- like if you act more like a goofy teenager or don't know how to mind manners or show class -- that also varies wildly for men in their early to mid 20s. I was 32 and with a partner who was 22 and he was more mature than some of the men my age I had dated -- from the standpoint of having the ability to communicate and behave himself in a variety of serious situations.

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RE: A young master - 8/7/2005 11:19:57 PM

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Add more to your profile about yourself including your pic. Or atleast send your pick along with your messages.
It's always good to make sure that every body knows that you are a mature person. Mention your hobbys, type of educaion/work, and living arrangements you have for youself. After all, what does 25 in the UK usually mean? Are you more mature, educated, and successfull than the average 25 year old male? That's a big plus. It's also important to let everyone know that you are very confident person who can rock just about anyones world. No matter your acctualy experience in relationships and the lifestyle, confidence in your skills is a powerful tool that attracts.

Other than your age, ppl will turn you down for all sorts of things as most people are picky or able to come up with excusses. But you should never give up and remember to stay true to your standards as well.

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RE: A young master - 8/8/2005 3:19:35 AM

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well master am aslave almost new to this because i have only been a slave in africa and dnt know wat is like in the other parts of the world, pls wat is DID and how can a get masters. ma mail box is [email protected] and am readyy for chat masters

am male master

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RE: A young master - 8/16/2005 3:32:41 PM

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Your best bet is to present yourself, what you can offer, what you are interested, and what your expectations are.

A lot of submissives are not interested in younger Dominants because there are SOOO many that say they are Doms, when in actuality they are horny young guys that want some dirty pictures, cybersex, or if they are lucky, a booty call or two. Submissives often times don't want someone they can grow with in the traditional sense, rather times someone they can help them grow, and that is often equated to experience and ability, which a lot of people immediately mean you need to be older. There's nothing to say that you don't have the experience or ability, you just have to make sure that you present it.

Good luck!

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RE: A young master - 8/16/2005 6:20:06 PM

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*think beetlejuice when you read this post*

Well--KIDS, you got your playstation 2s and your instant gratification. Well you old timers, shoulda listened to your parents.

You will have to drag your ass thru life as it is. Keep focus, maybe.

Now, in the fullness of time, I understand what my old man said when he said "I have shoes older than you".

LMAO,
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