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RE: Being punished - 11/7/2007 5:10:56 PM

ownedgirlie

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Receiving severe punishments are rather abnormal for me (it's been a year & a half since the last one). Punishments are not always physical, and physical punishments are not always spankings/whippings/etc. In my worst physical punishment ever, my flesh was never struck (that's in response to the "clever" comment).

How I felt:

Before: Dreadful, regretful, mournful, sorry, embarrassed, ashamed, unworthy, and pretty much every other negative emotion I can think of.

During: All of the above, including grateful.

After: Timid, quiet, reflective, lucky, and extremely grateful.

Hard feelings never come into play, unless they're for myself. I can't imagine having hard feelings for someone who I've put in such a position, particularly when I felt lucky he even kept me in the first place.

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RE: Being punished - 11/7/2007 6:23:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: southernhart

how do you feel when Your Mistress or Master has to punish you severely for something you have done wrong. This question is for people not into pain. How do you feel before during and after and are there any hard feelings?

   Why is it that only severe punishments must be associated with pain.   Do you feel that masochists are never severely punished because they enjoy pain?
     Honestly, from my masochistic point of view---I am rarely punished.   I know what is expected of me, if I deliberately deviate from this---which is almost never, I would probably be pissed that I got caught and pissed off at myself for even attempting to deviate from the rules. I would do some massive soul searching as to what would have caused me to even dare deviate from the rules---and this would go on before, during and after.   This would be about the only time I would be severely punished because it was a totally disobedient action.
     Sometimes, a submissive will give her Dom or Dom's in general an immortal type quality thinking he is capable of ultimate perfection.    This is a facade created by the fantasy of the lifestyle and on the flip side, how can it be expected that a submissive attain those perfect standards as well.   We are merely mortals and considered to be 'less' than our Dominants and no sort of punishment is going to aspire us to ultimate perfection.    If I were to be severely punished for human errors, such as an occasional bout of forgetfulness---I am 40 for christ sakes, or being an occasional klutz, or once a month (yep some 40 years olds still get pms) I get emotional, moody, cranky or just that three day cycle shit---my thoughts before, during and after would be re-evaluating the relationship.    I'm not saying that PMS or getting older allows me to behave in a manner that is totally unbecoming, but if he knows me well, he is going to expect that I will have off days.   I would sincerely dislike serving someone who had to create things to punish me for.
     Punishments are not play but are designed to correct a behavior that is totally correctable.   For example, my knees suck, they have just been injured too many times over my life---I can not kneel for an extended period of time, just not possible, and no amount of correction is going to change that.   The fact that my mood changes when I am pms'ing can not really be corrected, toned down maybe, but it's still going to be there---if a whipping cured that---then lots of doctor's would be prescibing that instead of midol.
       And just a FYI punishments need not always be physically painful.   For example, you (plural as in couple) have a trip planned or maybe you (singular) have a trip planned.   You (plural) are taking a much wanted cruise---or you (singular) have a shopping trip planned with your best friends---this is something you have waited and planned for months and you break a rule---deliberately without any thought of the consequence and He said---the trip is off.    How are you going to feel?   You certainly are going to have time that you would have spent enjoying yourself---wondering why in the hell you thought it was a good idea to break the rule in the first place.   For me---a freaking biggy is donating my spending allowance for the month to some charity.    Try telling your co-workers no, I can't afford to join you all for lunch out this month---that scented bath oil at Bath and Body works you always get---NOPE not this month---that cute little skirt you have had your eye on---NOPE---and cripes you can't even order it online with the credit card cause your allowance is feeding some family who utilizes the neighborhood food pantry.    How about instead of 'date' night with your Dom, you spend it working in a homeless shelter?    That's some depressing shit and it makes a person think.   Yeah, I'm going to remember how damn good I have it after that----much more effective than my bottom being sore for a couple days.
      My thoughts are this---If my whole perception of D/s were I must be perfect least I be punished---I would re-evalute my reasoning for being part of this lifestyle to begin with.   I'm in one of those moods---feeling the heat of the flames beginning.

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