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Being a slave to Master - 11/6/2007 8:25:35 PM   
sweetdemure


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        I work for Master in the home .....not only do I work for him with his business I clean the house cook the meals tend to the children ; wait after Master hand and foot ....if he wants a drink , eat or anything in that order ...the question is this , do all my other sisters of this life style do the same for their Master or is this not the norm ?
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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/6/2007 9:12:32 PM   
hisannabelle


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Status: offline 		greetings sweetdemure,

we do not live together, so i do not get to serve him all the time; he also enjoys cooking, cleaning, etc. so some of the time when we are together i do not wait on him hand and foot, so to speak. i do quite a bit of design, editing, and consulting for him.

i think it depends on the relationship and the people. even if we did live together, i probably would not do all of the cooking and cleaning first of all because he is in better health than i am and second of all because he enjoys doing that kind of stuff and is also used to doing it for himself and probably would not choose to give that up. but i am sure there are many people in similar situations to yours and many in between...i don't think there's a real "norm" where service is concerned.

respectfully,
annabelle.


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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/6/2007 9:17:34 PM   
MidnightMaiden


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetdemure

  Hi you All

      I work for Master in the home .....not only do I work for him with his business I clean the house cook the meals tend to the children ; wait after Master hand and foot ....if he wants a drink , eat or anything in that order ...the question is this , do all my other sisters of this life style do the same for their Master or is this not the norm ?



I hate to break it to you, but that sounds like many vanilla relationships I know of.  I hope you are at least getting kinky sex ;)

It is perfectly normal for many men to expect to be waited on hand and foot by the "little woman" whether they openly practise BDSM or are bible thumping church goers.

I am reminded of a saying I learnt long ago... when mother's were teaching their sons the old addage "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" a very wise woman told me "It's not worth buying the whole pig to get a little sausage".


< Message edited by MidnightMaiden -- 11/6/2007 9:18:48 PM >

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/6/2007 9:34:46 PM   
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Just remember that it's not about what you DO- it's about the motivation and orientation.

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/6/2007 10:22:15 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetdemure

  Hi you All

       I work for Master in the home .....not only do I work for him with his business I clean the house cook the meals tend to the children ; wait after Master hand and foot ....if he wants a drink , eat or anything in that order ...the question is this , do all my other sisters of this life style do the same for their Master or is this not the norm ?



Been doing all of that for 39 years. Until about 7 years ago i thought i was just being a good wife until i was introduced to bdsm and realized i was very submissive.

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/6/2007 11:09:03 PM   
adoracat


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetdemure

  Hi you All

       I work for Master in the home .....not only do I work for him with his business I clean the house cook the meals tend to the children ; wait after Master hand and foot ....if he wants a drink , eat or anything in that order ...the question is this , do all my other sisters of this life style do the same for their Master or is this not the norm ?



i do all that for my husband, who is not my dominant.  for my Daddy...i am his toy, to be played with as much as he can be with me, to love him and care about him...

evey D/s M/s relationship is unique

kitten

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 1:22:52 AM   
shootingstar67


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Status: offline 		That is a slave alright.

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 3:40:08 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		my mother did all that for my dad and had he owned a business she probably would have worked there too.  In no way, shape or form would she EVER consider herself a 'slave' to my father and would be revolted at the thought.

To me, serving a Man i love is as natural as breathing.  i served my vanilla husband in his business and completely took care of all household chores as well as tending to our children.  i was never his slave.

i AM a slave to my Master.  He doesn't own a business and we currently do not live together.  Being His slave is not specific to my chores but in my attitude. 

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 3:55:17 AM   
batshalom


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Status: offline 		Some do, some don't. If it's working for you, good job!

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 3:56:00 AM   
shootingstar67


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Status: offline 		For the record...I don't work and do all the household choirs and wait on my man.  

I saw my mother doing it. I think this is why I never married.  I viewed my father as a person that did not contribute much. He was a weak man who sat in front of the TV and gave orders and controlled everything.  Jerk. Sorry. He never really had my respect( even though he was the boss in the house) My mother just wasn't something i aspired  to be.

I'll wait on my man if he works and I stay home.. I won't do it all. I won't be anyones super woman super sub or whatever. 

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 4:46:11 AM   
Willowmoon


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Status: offline 		If Master works and I don't then I will take care of most of the household chores though he will still help when he can.

If we both work/study full time then we split the chores. I may be a slave but i am working full time where am I going to find time to do all the housework and cooking and serve my Master and still have enough energy at the end of the day for him to play with me?

Willow

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 5:31:35 AM   
southernhart


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Status: offline 		i love doing all that for him and more. my Master works and i don't. i love our roles and i love all the rewards that come with it when i am a good girl.

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 5:42:14 AM   
Aceton


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a very wise woman told me "It's not worth buying the whole pig to get a little sausage".


Brilliant!

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 5:45:38 AM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetdemure

  Hi you All

       I work for Master in the home .....not only do I work for him with his business I clean the house cook the meals tend to the children ; wait after Master hand and foot ....if he wants a drink , eat or anything in that order ...the question is this , do all my other sisters of this life style do the same for their Master or is this not the norm ?


Some do, some don't. Some do more, some do less.

Neither is more or less normal than the other.
As long as you and your Master are happy with the arrangement... that is all that matters.

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 6:27:49 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetdemure

  Hi you All

       I work for Master in the home .....not only do I work for him with his business I clean the house cook the meals tend to the children ; wait after Master hand and foot ....if he wants a drink , eat or anything in that order ...the question is this , do all my other sisters of this life style do the same for their Master or is this not the norm ?


it depends on the relationship.  not every BDSM relationship is cookie-cutted from the same mold. when i marry my SO in Aug, housework, cooking and raising/caring for my UMs, etc will be shared because he wants to help out. does this make him less dominant - no it doesn't.  it's something we have talked and agreed upon beforehand.


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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 7:17:11 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Actually I have a housekeeper who comes every two weeks. But you can't let him near the stove, anything more than frying a burger or working the grill is asking a lot from him.

I proofread his letters (self employed), offer advice on proposals to clients, do the laundry and run most errands. He handles the cars and their repair, either doing it himself if he has time or dealing with a mechanic if he doesn't. He'll fix the washer and dryer if he can, or diagnose it so I can tell the repairman what's wrong.

But he carries the laundry basket upstairs and down since he doesn't like me doing all the heavy work. He helps with getting the groceries upstairs also. We try to coordinate our days so if he has to go to the lumber yard to place an order and I have to go to the grocery store, we try to do the errands together so we can spend time with each other. I've come along on quick jobs or if he thinks he'll need a pair of unskilled hands as long as we can be back in time to pick my son up from afterschool sports.

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 7:20:14 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		Who cares about the norm?  Do what fulfills you, and let other people worry about whether it's the norm.  There is only one person who can live your life.

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ORIGINAL: sweetdemure

the question is this , do all my other sisters of this life style do the same for their Master or is this not the norm ?

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 7:59:34 AM   
Mercnbeth


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ORIGINAL: sweetdemure

  Hi you All

       I work for Master in the home .....not only do I work for him with his business I clean the house cook the meals tend to the children ; wait after Master hand and foot ....if he wants a drink , eat or anything in that order ...the question is this , do all my other sisters of this life style do the same for their Master or is this not the norm ?



this slave does not work for Master's company.
this slave is not directly responsible for cleaning His home, just interviewing/interacting with and supervising those who do.
we have no offspring that need "tending to".
 
ALL of this slave's focus and attention is on whatever He desires, so perhaps in that, we are similar.

p.s. this slave does not consider what anyone here does, to be "the norm".

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 9:54:30 AM   
Squeakers


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ORIGINAL: sweetdemure

  Hi you All

       I work for Master in the home .....not only do I work for him with his business I clean the house cook the meals tend to the children ; wait after Master hand and foot ....if he wants a drink , eat or anything in that order ...the question is this , do all my other sisters of this life style do the same for their Master or is this not the norm ?

    I do not know any of your sisters in the lifestyle so really I can not answer your question directly.    *sister, to me, would be someone who shares the same Master as myself*   But if you mean submissives in general, nope it would not be like that for me.   No um's here that need tending too, I go out work a 9-5, if he wanted a drink yes I'd get it, but on the same note, if he wanted a drink he might choose to get it himself and bring me one too.   I've never gotten into the entire service slave type of dynamic---sometimes it's okay, but I would have a huge issue living with a Dom who sat on the couch watching sports, drinking a beer, with a remote in one hand, the other down his pants scratching his balls, barking orders.  He'd have a hard time peeling his ass off the sofa, if I had strangled myself with the clothes line rope and he had to replace me.   I just wouldn't want to be at fault for causing him such a dilemma.  
      But---for some---it works and that's okay.   Just not me.  

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RE: Being a slave to Master - 11/7/2007 10:27:56 AM   
mhawk


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well as part of what i do for my Lord,outside of being avalible for all of His needs, i also maintain the household,help His wife with what she needs while He is away at work all week.

they have no children,they have 8 cats(all wonderful) that i help take care of. i also cook,clean,do laundry and serve my Lord's every need be it domestic or in service to Him



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