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Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 3:31:20 PM   
kitttty


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Status: offline 		Man, how do y'all do it? You like pain? For me, pain is pain. I endure it thankfully for the Master, but I can't quite say that I enjoy it. I think I just got 50 with a hanger. At the time, it didn't make me wet. But Ive been extremely horny ever since. Does this make me a masochist without knowing it?
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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 3:57:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		Who cares if someone validates that you are a maso or not.  You got what your dynamic dictates, and now you're horny, awesome for you!  Who cares what you call it.


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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 4:48:56 PM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		if you like massages, hot bubble baths, working out, etc., then the way those things make you feel, is how a masochist like myself feels after receiving a good beating...

it's not really pain; it's just percieved that way by outsiders because in their minds-eye, that's what it would be if it were happening to them.

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 5:05:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not sure I would classify myself a masochist per se. I do get turned on by pain, but it is pain and it hurts. The thing that I crave from it most is the endorphin release. I am definitely addicted to endorphins and pain is the quickest, easiest and one of the most pleasurable ways of getting that rush.
 
Ok. Maybe I am a masochist. LOL
 
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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 5:12:19 PM   
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if you like massages, hot bubble baths, working out, etc., then the way those things make you feel, is how a masochist like myself feels after receiving a good beating...


I love love love to work out. It's one of the few things in life I have a true passion for.

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 5:18:42 PM   
kitttty


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Status: offline 		Master is so wonderful when he beats me. It's not fair because it makes it difficult to know why I get horny from being punished. I love how he kisses my welts so gently between lashes sometimes. I do love him so :)

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 5:39:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		i love pain.... not sure how much i take - a little a lot?  it is all subjective, but i know that getting my back beaten is like a good good massage.  All massages i have ever had were never strong enough to releive the tension, but then i found a little sadist masseuse - and he beat the living hell out of me in the massage room... left with bruises all over but i finally was relaxed... so happy, i gave him a blow job as a tip.... win win

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 5:43:10 PM   
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It's not fair because it makes it difficult to know why I get horny from being punished


I think it has something to do with the pleasure/pain circuitry/areas of the brain.  And the connections they have in common.


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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 6:02:28 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		If you directly enjoy the physical pain, then you're a masochist.

If you indirectly enjoy the pain, then it's something else (catharsis, submission, feeling connected, feeling slutty, something). 

However, masochists can both directly and indirectly enjoy physical pain.

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 6:28:34 PM   
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For me, being a (sexual) masochist has nothing to do with loving pain.  i don't love pain.  i had to endure 12 years of severe pain every time i stood or walked, until i told the doctors to cut off my leg, in order to get rid of the pain.
 
The reason i'm a sexual masochist is because the pain, that is inflicted on me by the person i am sexually intimate with, causes a heightened sexual excitement in me.  It stimulates me, sexually. 
 
i don't have to endure the pain my Master inflicts on me.  i drink it up.  It intoxicates me and makes me very horny but, not because i'm in pain.  It's because of the power that He has over me and the fact that i am at His mercy and i am powerless to stop Him, (since i don't use a safe word and i don't choose to run away).  It's that helpless feeling i have that makes the pain sensation rush directly to my pussy and turn me into a pain slut wanting more and more.  And, it doesn't have to be physical pain.  He also enjoys humiliating me and that causes me emotional pain, which also gets me sexually excited.  That's why just thinking about Him causing me pain gets me wet. 
 
Under any other circumstances, pain just makes me say, "Ouch" and wanting to find the quickest way to make it stop hurting.
 
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ORIGINAL: kitttty

Man, how do y'all do it? You like pain?

It's not that i like pain.  Pain hurts.  i had to endure chronic and severe pain every time i stood or walked, for 12 years, until i told the doctors to cut off my leg.  Pain hurts and i don't like to hurt.

For me, pain is pain. I endure it thankfully for the Master, but I can't quite say that I enjoy it. I think I just got 50 with a hanger. At the time, it didn't make me wet. But Ive been extremely horny ever since. Does this make me a masochist without knowing it?

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 6:59:48 PM   
probablyknowme


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Status: offline 		Finally, a topic I can speak about with my passion. I am a masochist! I love erotic pain...that being said, if I stub my toe on the coffee table, it doesn't make my panties wet. I think that a lot of people who are not masochists have this misconception about how pain is processed by masos. For me, there is something very erotic in the burn of the cane stroke, in the thud of a heavy flogger, in the pinch of a needle going through my naughty bits. This makes my panties wet. If these things are being done by someone who is a sadist, all the better. Because a sadist is getting their own pleasure from inflicting the pain on me, which just feeds right into my submissive nature...I'm being used for His pleasure.

If I were to take a guess, Katy is probably right when she mentioned the pain/pleasure receptors and what they have connection. It probably means that my brain is wired wrong. If it's wrong, I don't wanna be right!

kat

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 7:22:46 PM   
kitttty


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Status: offline 		Do welts show up poorly on darker skin? In porn I always see these white chicks getting red welts like its nothing.

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 7:32:50 PM   
IrishMist


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ORIGINAL: kitttty

Man, how do y'all do it? You like pain? For me, pain is pain. I endure it thankfully for the Master, but I can't quite say that I enjoy it. I think I just got 50 with a hanger. At the time, it didn't make me wet. But Ive been extremely horny ever since. Does this make me a masochist without knowing it?

I'll be honest. I have never really thought about what it's like to be a masochist.
I know I react in a more positive way to pain; and the more pain I receive, the larger the reaction. It's a huge turn on for me; not just sexually though... mentally, physically, psychologically.... everything becomes involved when I feel pain.

Alot of my desire for pain though does not come from wanting to feel pleasure from it; it feeds a dark and violent side that I have. Being with someone who understands that; and can allow me to recipricate... that's where the rush comes from for me... the more pain, the more I fight, the more pain I receive, the more pleasure I receive.

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 7:59:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: kitttty

Master is so wonderful when he beats me. It's not fair because it makes it difficult to know why I get horny from being punished. I love how he kisses my welts so gently between lashes sometimes. I do love him so :)


IMO we sometimes just get horny from the undivided attention focused on us by our Dom and the pleasure he recieves from administering the pain. Personally I am a WUSS when it comes to pain outside the bedroom...I have to get two teeth pulled tomorrow and I am gonna cry like a little girl. But yank me into the bedroom by my hair and whip out a belt and that's a whole different sensation!! It hurts, but I love it. No way to explain it other than that

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 8:05:24 PM   
Shawn1066


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Status: offline 		Well, there's different types of pain as a Masochist, in my experience.  There is pain/pain, which just hurts....and then there's masochistic/pain...which still hurts, but has lovely arousing qualities to it.

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 11:19:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like to recieve it purely because it turns her on so much to do it....it's all about her! if she is happy so am I

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/7/2007 11:31:20 PM   
velvetears


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Status: offline 		The pain is pain, unbearable sometimes, untill i go over the edge then it's like being shot out of a cannon and i'm flying and i can be beaten to death and if i could speak i would beg for more.... Although there are times when i can't process it and i accept the pain and its just plain old pain, but the pleasure i get is from enduring, being submissive to my dom. i don't exactly know why my body turns off at times, i suppose many factors.  i understand LA's definition.  When i am  experiencing pain and the energy is flowing between me and my sadist i feel so very alert, alive... the world is so crisp and everything around me even changes perceptually, like i become someone else.  Hard to explain.  

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/9/2007 11:59:32 AM   
metalmage


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Status: offline 		interesting quote,  haven't heard it for a while.  it's true though..
been there done that

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RE: Whats it like to be a mashochist? - 11/9/2007 3:59:06 PM   
jmig033


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Status: offline 		I think it is the pain coupled with other factors that combine for a pleasurable experience.  If I have pain coupled with any or all of the following: submission, sex, vulnerability and a lover who intends to take advantage of it, physical restraints, sensory deprivation, ect. my physical pain seems to meld with my physical arousal to form an unbridled physical intensity. 
 
I am addicted to it.


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