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Squeakers -> D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 6:55:39 PM)

   OMG am I simply PMS'ing and in one of those mood---thank god for M&M's---the Christmas ones are out too---lot's of green ones---woo hoo.   Am I totally cranky and nitpicky or what?
    Anyway---for me, I consider a submissive sister---either one who is owned by the same Master as myself or perhaps someone I am extreemely close to.   I get irritated when I am lumped into a D/s sisterhood group---I detest being called sis by people I do not know and do not get me started on that sicky sweet word 'sissa'.   See---yep---M&M's are not helping---I am gearing up for Bitch mode---I should go to bed.
     But what are other's thoughts.   Is every submissive your sister?   If not who would you consider in your D/s sisterhood if anyone?     Be nice though or I am not sharing the M &M's specially the green ones.   [:D] 



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 7:03:17 PM)

Presuming a relationship where one does not exist is inappropriate and rude.

Even slaves owned by the same masters do not share such a bond and should not presume to be called such- by eachother or outsiders.  In fact a common failing in poly relationships is for there to be pressure for the ones involved to BE sisters and that causes a lot of problems.

A lot of people are needy to belong and approved of- forcing a famlial relationship helps with that and since females are taught that they should be good team players and support eachother, a lot grab onto the term for their own pleasure.

One hopes they learn quickly and painlessly how that's not really a good idea.



IrishMist -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 7:15:37 PM)

What LA said

/nods



daddyncherry -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 7:19:46 PM)

Yep....i'm with the OP and LA on this....

Just EWWW at someone i don't know calling me "sis" or "sissy" UGHHH...puke puke barf barf.

If there was a developed relationship and we were feeling that kind of connection...would be cool and sweet and i'd still slap her down if she called me "sissy" or "sissa" (just in a totally loving and connected way :))



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 7:40:25 PM)

:sniff:..:sniff:..what!...you mean we are not the alpha gamma chi sisterhood of submissives...???..[:o].....but I learned the song and everything!!!..I even made a special truth stick out of a multi lashed whip....~sighs heavily, and puts away the glitter~...Tempting



wisteriaV -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 7:42:49 PM)

Hands Squeakers three bags of M&Ms...I hate being called sister, sis or sissa which is annoying as hell too and I'm not pmsing at all[;)]



daddyncherry -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 7:43:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

:sniff:..:sniff:..what!...you mean we are not the alpha gamma chi sisterhood of submissives...???..[:o].....but I learned the song and everything!!!..I even made a special truth stick out of a multi lashed whip....~sighs heavily, and puts away the glitter~...Tempting


Tempting....since you went and made a special truth stick and everything...i might think about reconsidering LOL...
[sm=biggrin.gif]but call me sissy or sissa once and i'm still slappin' you down (maybe with the truth stick)



ownedgirlie -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 7:50:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

:sniff:..:sniff:..what!...you mean we are not the alpha gamma chi sisterhood of submissives...???..[:o].....but I learned the song and everything!!!..I even made a special truth stick out of a multi lashed whip....~sighs heavily, and puts away the glitter~...Tempting


LOL awesome!

I have two sisters of my own, that I grew up with.  It would have to be someone with whom I had a very special, intense and loving bond for me to call her sister.  I feel this way toward my brother's wife - we call each other sister.  Another slave or submissive?  "Sister" isn't coming easily.  Unless of course I'm ordered to use it.  But it would be tough...really tough.



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 8:07:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

quote:

ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

:sniff:..:sniff:..what!...you mean we are not the alpha gamma chi sisterhood of submissives...???..[:o].....but I learned the song and everything!!!..I even made a special truth stick out of a multi lashed whip....~sighs heavily, and puts away the glitter~...Tempting


Tempting....since you went and made a special truth stick and everything...i might think about reconsidering LOL...
[sm=biggrin.gif]but call me sissy or sissa once and i'm still slappin' you down (maybe with the truth stick)

...hummm...dare I ....or dare I not???.....tempting..~wink~..Tempting



smilezz -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 8:10:54 PM)


I detest it with ever ounce of who i am....and i have ALOT of ounces.

~smilezz~



slaveluci -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 8:12:53 PM)

I don't like the idea of a submissive/slave "sisterhood" any more than I like the idea that everyone who is kinky is a member of some touchy-feely "community."  I may like S&M as much as you do but that doesn't mean we are going to be fast friends or that we're automatically in some big clique together defined ONLY by our like for it.  I have always thought both ideas were pretty ludicrous.  All people who like pistachio ice cream, for instance, may only have that one little thing in common.  That doesn't bond them together any more than two other people liking BDSM does[8|]................luci



BitaTruble -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 8:13:58 PM)

[:'(][:'(][:'(]

'Nuff .. um, emoticonned!

Celeste



ownedgirlie -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 8:58:02 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveluci

All people who like pistachio ice cream, for instance, may only have that one little thing in common.  That doesn't bond them together any more than two other people liking BDSM does[8|]................luci


You mean we're not pistachio sisters????  [sm=whoa.gif]



goodgirl08 -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 8:59:23 PM)

Awww, I don't think it's that bad. Maybe it's because I go to an all women's college, but I'm all about presuming sisterhood. I'm not going to call anyone sis, but I do naturally act with warmth towards other women in this lifestyle, we DO have a common interest (however broad) and can most likely learn from each other. If someone called me sis I would see it as her trying to reach out to me, even if the nickname is maybe a little over the top on first introduction. But I would be touched by her attempt to make friends with me.



sexyred1 -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 9:03:06 PM)

As cynical and bitchy as I think I am, I also don't mind it either. There are some younger women here who chat with me privately and consider me like an older sister to talk to. I do not mind that at all, in fact welcome it. Even if we never meet beyond here, what is the problem?

I know it might sound sappy and you may have nothing else in common, but some people do not have others in their life to talk to about the lifestyle (my friends are all vanilla) so the sisterhood thing is a support mechanism.

And to call anyone "needy" for that is really bullshit and a sweeping generalization.



slavegirljoy -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 9:10:07 PM)

Thank you, once again, luci, for speaking so honestly and saying it like it is.
 
slave joy
Owned property of Master David
quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveluci

I don't like the idea of a submissive/slave "sisterhood" any more than I like the idea that everyone who is kinky is a member of some touchy-feely "community."  I may like S&M as much as you do but that doesn't mean we are going to be fast friends or that we're automatically in some big clique together defined ONLY by our like for it.  I have always thought both ideas were pretty ludicrous.  All people who like pistachio ice cream, for instance, may only have that one little thing in common.  That doesn't bond them together any more than two other people liking BDSM does[8|]................luci



daddyncherry -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 9:25:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

As cynical and bitchy as I think I am, I also don't mind it either. There are some younger women here who chat with me privately and consider me like an older sister to talk to. I do not mind that at all, in fact welcome it. Even if we never meet beyond here, what is the problem?

I know it might sound sappy and you may have nothing else in common, but some people do not have others in their life to talk to about the lifestyle (my friends are all vanilla) so the sisterhood thing is a support mechanism.

And to call anyone "needy" for that is really bullshit and a sweeping generalization.


To you and goodgirl08

i am only speaking for myself....i like/love the IDEA of sisterhood...and helping others by all means...It's just those words....the way i hear them when typed just rings of falsity (if that is a word lol)....i just don't care to be called those things, ESPECIALLY if someone doesn't know me from a hole in the wall.

goodgirl 08 messaged me and didn't feel the need to do that, and i was polite to her and willing to be helpful.



AquaticSub -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 9:30:44 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Squeakers
But what are other's thoughts.   Is every submissive your sister?

Fuck no. Presume to call me your sister or say that I am yours and I will correct you, regardless of who is watching - be it your owner, mine or a crowd of people. Depending on how you do it, I may pull you aside and correct you privately but I will correct you, speak with your owner about it or mine will speak to yours.
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If not who would you consider in your D/s sisterhood if anyone?     Be nice though or I am not sharing the M &M's specially the green ones.   [:D] 

No one.

I have very dear friends in this lifestyle, some on this forum. But none know me well enough and have been through my ups and downs for me to consider them sister. If you have not held me while I sobbed, cheered while I rejoiced, called on me in your time of need and your time of joy... I simply do not consider you my sister or my brother.



XaviersXian -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 10:06:36 PM)

greetings to all,

"Sister" is a term that xian saves for her real, biological sister, and even then, she only uses it when going to say "my sister......". 

xian dislikes..detests...abhors...this "internet sisterhood" thing. 

xian's Master has a saying: "Assumption is the mother of all stuff-ups".  Maybe these women who advocate the "sisterhood" should take His advice and quit pushing something that they might not appreciate onto people.

girl wishes well,



XaviersXian -> RE: D/s sisterhood (11/7/2007 10:09:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Presuming a relationship where one does not exist is inappropriate and rude.

Even slaves owned by the same masters do not share such a bond and should not presume to be called such- by eachother or outsiders.  In fact a common failing in poly relationships is for there to be pressure for the ones involved to BE sisters and that causes a lot of problems.




greetings to all,

xian completely agrees.  If the idea appeals to you, more power to you, but to xian, "sister" is for her biological sister, and there is only one of those in the world.

girl wishes well,



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