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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/9/2007 12:32:58 PM

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OUCH

~grabs her chest, staggers backward, stumbles, blood pouring from her heart, hits the ground, hair splaying out beautifully around her rapidly whitening face...dies~

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/9/2007 12:34:58 PM

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Goddammit, I told you to wear the fire engine red lipstick, well----your fuck up....if that is how you wanna look for the tabloids................

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/9/2007 12:45:29 PM

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~rallies just enough to smear some of her life's blood on her white but still ample lips, fluffs her hair in a perfect arc around her head and shoulders...dies (again)~

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/9/2007 1:08:50 PM

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So, my take is, 20's & 30's are hopeful and happy, 40s are bitter and pissed, 50s and up realize that happiness can be found in any situation, since it comes from within. They've been to hell and back and realize you really do survive it and life really is good.

Oh mannnnnn. If I'm going to be bitter and pissed for 7 more years, I'm going to need LOTS more alcohol. LOTS.

Cali

Margaritas at my place - we're neighbors after all!

Hope you didn't take my little entry as some sort of factoid. Otherwise, I'd have 8 more years of bitterness, except I'm not bitter at all.

But I do like a good margarita.

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/9/2007 1:24:39 PM

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Have you ever been attacked with kitchen knife when a woman has PMT?

Hey, i object.
I have never been suffering from pmt when i have tried to stab someone with a kitchen knife

miss..... i hate you.....i snorted so loudly while reading this, it scared my poor puppy dog.......

lawd thats funny

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/9/2007 1:39:13 PM

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So, my take is, 20's & 30's are hopeful and happy, 40s are bitter and pissed, 50s and up realize that happiness can be found in any situation, since it comes from within. They've been to hell and back and realize you really do survive it and life really is good.

Oh mannnnnn. If I'm going to be bitter and pissed for 7 more years, I'm going to need LOTS more alcohol. LOTS.

Cali

Margaritas at my place - we're neighbors after all!

Hope you didn't take my little entry as some sort of factoid. Otherwise, I'd have 8 more years of bitterness, except I'm not bitter at all.

But I do like a good margarita.

Nah, I was actually very amused. Are we neighbors in that we're in the same state that is oh, 800 miles give or take top to bottom? Or are ya closer and just hiding your city from your profile?

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/9/2007 1:50:04 PM

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From your description of her behavior, I can only conclude that she is woefully self-absorbed. But self-absorbed behavior is often learned.

What I have a hard time understanding is why you allowed her to rag on for hours. Seems to me that you should have began busting on her at the first signs of her whinny, self-absorbed BS. Since she's successful and attractive, there's a good chance that the other men she's dated behaved similiarly to the way you behaved.

I gotta go with NG here. It's quite possible that all this woman really needs is an alpha male to stand up to her and take charge. Had you done so, she indeed may have gone on all fours for you... and more. I'd say there's at least a 50% chance that she'll make a good submissive for the right guy.

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/9/2007 8:21:37 PM

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Of course seeing the subject line I had to come check out what they are saying about my me and my homies. This thread is very enjoyable really.

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I did the text book thing and listened to her so I wouldn't later be accused of being a self absorbed male in love with his own ego.

See, for me right there things are a bit weird. He 'listened' but he didnt really listen at all. He was not there with her, he was more watching her like a movie while she proved to him how oblivious or unable to stop herself from saying too, too much. Maybe she hadnt had anyone listen to her and she was feeling like he was a special guy for letting her pour herself out with no resistance. Maybe she could not read his lack of approval for what it was. She might have been very nervous too. The silence from his side was unnerving her so she blabbed on like an involved monkey. I have done it, heard words come out of my mouth that I was trying to catch to shove them back down my throat where they came from.

He didnt want to come across as a self absorbed guy but I think it is important to factor in, by not engaging with her on a real level it is hard to know how this date could stand a chance. If he liked her, he might have reached over and took her wrist and said, "Okay, stop. Close your eyes. Take a deep breathe. Okay, that is better now let's start over. Where were we? Oh yes I was going to say how pretty you look tonight and I am so glad we were thrown together like this." I mean if he felt her but if he already sensed no connection, he could have tried to throw in a few facts himself to keep the date going until it was safe enough to say bye without being too harsh Or he could have ended the date, that would have been honest anyway, "Look this isnt working out for me, I am sorry, I am going to go. Take care". This woman may have reflected later as she was falling asleep, or walking down the street that maybe she said too much, didnt let him speak, left no room for air, or some friend she talks about the date with might help her to see what she was doing there for whatever reason.

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/10/2007 12:00:42 AM

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Nah, I was actually very amused. Are we neighbors in that we're in the same state that is oh, 800 miles give or take top to bottom? Or are ya closer and just hiding your city from your profile?

Cali
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Same state. I'm in Sacramento, just a few miles from you :)

(Will remember the margarita order for a future toast. Prefers mine top shelf, shot of gran marnier on the side, over ice, with salt)

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/10/2007 12:20:27 AM

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meatcleaver, she was just frustrated because I recently dumped her, and, well, after me, other men tend not to measure up.

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/10/2007 12:31:19 AM

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It was doomed from the moment you allowed her to hold court.

If you'd have told her straight from the off that you couldn't give the first fuck about her opinion of men, it would have all panned out fine. She'd probably still be at your place now crawling 'round on all fours.

You're finally getting it. There might be hope for you yet.

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/10/2007 12:39:00 AM

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It was doomed from the moment you allowed her to hold court.

If you'd have told her straight from the off that you couldn't give the first fuck about her opinion of men, it would have all panned out fine. She'd probably still be at your place now crawling 'round on all fours.

You're finally getting it. There might be hope for you yet.

Let's hope so.

Do let me know when I finally get it, Marie.

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/10/2007 12:58:22 AM

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What is it with these women around forty? Younger women don't seem to have this problem and older women don't. Women around forty should be avoided like the plague from my experience, they are all fucked in the head, unrealistically demanding, too high an opinion of themselves and what they have to offer.

That's not just women around 40. there are a lot of arrogant piggish people like that. Women around 40 (typicly, although not always) want babies as their biological clocks are about to explode of there night stand... desperate women (and men) are not attractive by any means, but those that want babies so badly make it all seem so much worse. She chose a career, that was her choice, she should not be bitching about it now.

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/10/2007 1:05:24 AM

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What is it with these women around forty? Younger women don't seem to have this problem and older women don't. Women around forty should be avoided like the plague from my experience, they are all fucked in the head, unrealistically demanding, too high an opinion of themselves and what they have to offer.

That is a generalization and not fair. also not true. you meet one older woman and now we are all that way. how is that?

but i'd better stop now before i am accused of having too high an opinion of myself

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/10/2007 1:42:06 AM

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all fucked in the head, unrealistically demanding, too high an opinion of themselves and what they have to offer.

So you met your soulmate, and are running in the opposite direction?

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Well, that ain't exactly true, but if it were, men usually like that in women under or over 40.

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/10/2007 6:08:59 AM

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Nah, I was actually very amused. Are we neighbors in that we're in the same state that is oh, 800 miles give or take top to bottom? Or are ya closer and just hiding your city from your profile?

Cali
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Im a lot closer to you, we could all three get together for some drinks, although I am thinking long island ice teas because my bitterness needs something stronger

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/10/2007 6:35:43 AM

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I think by the time many women hit forty, they've been put through the ringer so many times they become cynical and bitter. Not all of us (I'm going on 42) but many. Most of the 40-somethings I know have been divorced and had their share of hard knocks and feel like it's about time they are taken care of and treated worth a damn after having taken care of husband and kids and putting themselves last all the time.

I've seen all too many bitter divorces, and I'm currently in the divorce from hell myself. But I said from the start, I refuse to turn bitter and cynical - you miss out on life too much that way.

So, my take is, 20's & 30's are hopeful and happy, 40s are bitter and pissed, 50s and up realize that happiness can be found in any situation, since it comes from within. They've been to hell and back and realize you really do survive it and life really is good.

I could be way off, but that's my 3am gross general assessment!! Most of my friends are in their upper 40s and 50s. I'm a young 40 but far from bitter, although it's taken a lot of work to avoid that.

Good luck on the next date :)

I agree, I met people in their 40's and they seem to have more of an appreciation of what they have around them in life, an awareness of their place amongst, and a sound view of what they can do with what they have. I guess the ones who haven't turned bitter and stuck up (both seem to be stuck in an inaccurate view of life) just accepted the way life is and just make the best out of what they have. The 30 something-ers I've met seem to still strive for happiness outside of themselves: the image, idle talk, proving yourself, being cool. I guess nothing wrong with this, it's all whatever stage of life you're in. But kinda nice to know you can make lemonade out of lemons down the road instead of settling for lemons and watching them rot.

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/10/2007 6:36:57 AM

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From my own personal perspective, life is starting at 40 for me. I am getting everything I ever wanted. I am in better shape today than I was at 25, and my wonderful UM will be an adult in less than a year. I have the emotional freedom to name and claim what it is that I want. I have the intellectual capacity and wisdom to achieve almost anything my heart desires. I am at peace FINALLY. Not only will I be done actively mothering my son when I am 40, but I will be young enough to enjoy it. And the sex... let me tell you, the closer I get to 40, the better the sex gets. I know my body, and my hormones give me the drive to enjoy my sexuality fully...

Younger women, you have a lot to look forward to if you take care of your bodies now

I second this, and I'm 42...and all that gym going and staying out of the sun pays itself off in lots and lots of ways you can't foresee in your 20s.

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/10/2007 6:39:36 AM

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From my own personal perspective, life is starting at 40 for me. I am getting everything I ever wanted. I am in better shape today than I was at 25, and my wonderful UM will be an adult in less than a year. I have the emotional freedom to name and claim what it is that I want. I have the intellectual capacity and wisdom to achieve almost anything my heart desires. I am at peace FINALLY. Not only will I be done actively mothering my son when I am 40, but I will be young enough to enjoy it. And the sex... let me tell you, the closer I get to 40, the better the sex gets. I know my body, and my hormones give me the drive to enjoy my sexuality fully...

Younger women, you have a lot to look forward to if you take care of your bodies now

I second this, and I'm 42...and all that gym going and staying out of the sun pays itself off in lots and lots of ways you can't foresee in your 20s.

You're in California too, perhaps we need a bitter ol submissive convention

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RE: Blind dates and women of a certain age. - 11/10/2007 6:57:48 AM

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It was doomed from the moment you allowed her to hold court.

If you'd have told her straight from the off that you couldn't give the first fuck about her opinion of men, it would have all panned out fine. She'd probably still be at your place now crawling 'round on all fours.

LOL Normally that is my tactic but I was on this date as a favour for a mate who asked me as a favour for his partner so I was on my best behaviour for him rather than her. I didn't want my mate to get it in the neck from his partner so you can start to see where it all went wrong.

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