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frustratinggirl -> taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 1:09:21 PM)
why am i considered vanilla if i know in my heart I hate sharing my partner. Are there masters out there who are happy with one sole property and have no need to have another? am i in a search that cannot exist?

chellekitty -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 1:11:20 PM)
there are tons of monogamous Master's out there...you are not in search of something that cannot exist...they do...keep looking... why did i find all of them and all the monogamous girls find the poly Masters? good luck, chelle

sexyred1 -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 1:14:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: frustratinggirl why am i considered vanilla if i know in my heart I hate sharing my partner. Are there masters out there who are happy with one sole property and have no need to have another? am i in a search that cannot exist? who said you are vanilla? who cares what anyone thinks about what YOU want? I sure hope there are Masters out there who are happy with one, because many of us want that. don't worry and keep searching. nice pic, btw.

completenz -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 1:22:35 PM)
C sought, and found, the one He wanted. We are a monogamous couple who are no longer searching so... the answer is yes, they are out there and if that is what you seek then dont settle for less. c

KatyLied -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 1:29:14 PM)
They do exist. I think they are rare though. Most eventually want some sort of non-monogamous situation. It's pretty much the reason I've stopped looking.

treehugger42 -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 1:34:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied They do exist. I think they are rare though. Most eventually want some sort of non-monogamous situation. It's pretty much the reason I've stopped looking. Bleah, shitty. I think I found a truly monogamous one crosses fingers and no one can have him!

KatyLied -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 1:35:54 PM)
What he hasn't mentioned the "sister sub" yet? [;)]

frustratinggirl -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 1:52:41 PM)
i ant bring myself to a threesome for the sake of my master, yet i feel like im holding back sometihng he requires, but i cant , it hurts too much, its a strange question, give in ? or be hurt?

defiantbadgirl -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 2:46:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: frustratinggirl why am i considered vanilla if i know in my heart I hate sharing my partner. I don't know who told you that, but such a statement implies that one must be into bdsm to be poly. I assure you there are plenty of polys out there who aren't into bdsm, just as there are plenty of people into bdsm who aren't poly. Whoever told you that is trying to manipulate you. It's up to you to decide whether or not to allow the manipulation. If I was in your situation, I would only be willing to share my partner if my partner was willing to share me. For me, sharing works both ways or not at all.

Padriag -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 4:24:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chellekitty why did i find all of them and all the monogamous girls find the poly Masters? Because the universe has a really perverse sense of humor.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 4:25:18 PM)
if by vanilla you mean the cone by your name, it has nothing to do with orentation. It's a post number symble it changes more you post.

Padriag -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 4:26:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: frustratinggirl or be hurt? Only if you enjoy it. That actually applies to a lot of strange stuff in this lifestyle.

frustratinggirl -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 4:50:57 PM)
ya ya you know what I mean ;.p different hurts for different folks. some scar longer than others.

juliaoceania -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 9:59:33 PM)
You have to decide what it is you want and need... you can compromise some of what you want, but never what you need. If that means that you are vanilla, at least you can be at peace within yourself and be happily vanilla. I would rather be happy than a label, howabout you? I know many people would not consider me "submissive". who cares, they are not my Dom. As long as he is impressed, that is all that matters, and he is. That leads me to your next problem, are there any monogamous doms out there, will they all eventually want more than one sub? I can say I found one that wants monogamy in the sense that I am his only submissive, but we may one day play with other people... I would prefer these others NOT be submissive, if we go there at all. I think I want be married to whomever I end up doing that sort of thing with also, I need that level of commitment. There is nothing wrong with setting the standards you need in a relationship, and if others do not like your standards they are always free to look elsewhere. Lets face it, finding compatibility in this lifestyle is rather hard at times. If it takes awhile to find someone that matches you, it takes awhile... you are not alone in what you seek.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/9/2007 10:38:35 PM)
Yes, there are monagamous Masters out there. Keep looking. Master Fire

Celeste43 -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/10/2007 5:13:43 AM)
We're monogamous. However we discussed it first. Did your dom bother to mention that he would expect you to have threesomes before collaring, or did he happen to keep that important piece of information hidden so he could spring it on you? Because if he didn't tell you until you were collared, so he could claim you didn't have the right to refuse, then I would lose total respect for this lie of omission and I would seriously re-evaluate what I was getting from a relationship with someone who would lie and manipulate me in this manner. Next time, state right away that you're strictly monogamous and will not consider threeways, bisexual sex, open relationships, poly etc - any and all variations. And the moment you get told you're a fake sub for demanding this (which you will get told) use the block button.

MasterofScyn -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/10/2007 6:44:33 AM)
We are monogamous as well. Master spent to much time and effort to pull me out of the situation I was in, he knows what he has, appreciates and loves me with his very being. Right now we just simply don't want to share eachother, we have talked about it and if we ever do... big IF there... It will be with another couple. He has had 3 somes before, I have not so I don't really know how I would feel about them. Other than that, he feels that if we did something like that, it might possibly put a strain on us, one of those "been there and done that" type things. I'm his match and he is mine........ It just comes down to what you want and feel. Anymore I don't think I can share my Master and I know he doesn't want to share me. Perhaps further down the road I might seek another pet for him as a surprise, but not anytime soon. I'm to selfish to share. [:D]

SirJohnMandevill -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/10/2007 3:20:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied They do exist. I think they are rare though. Most eventually want some sort of non-monogamous situation. It's pretty much the reason I've stopped looking. I figure if there is just one sub who can truly meet my needs, and I hers, I'll be doing pretty damned good![sm=whip.gif] Les (Illegitimate son of Leslie Neilsen and Robby the Robot)

MidnightMaiden -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/10/2007 9:36:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: frustratinggirl i ant bring myself to a threesome for the sake of my master, yet i feel like im holding back sometihng he requires, but i cant , it hurts too much, its a strange question, give in ? or be hurt? First of all establish if it is indeed a need, or if its a greed. Huuuuugggge difference. Some people are wired to be poly, to limit them to a mono relationship, well ultimately its destructive. Some people are just greedy, and because they are in a position of power and can have whatever they want, they do so without any real regard to the impact on others. Is it need or greed? You are not a better slave if a little piece of you dies inside every time you see him with another. Bend, but never allow yourself to be broken.

southernhart -> RE: taking care of ones needs (11/13/2007 2:06:21 PM)
i am my Master's only slave and will remain that way. His experiences of having more than one submissive at a time worked oujt badly for him, and he has no need to share me with anyone any way. That's one fetish i'm glad he doesn't have.

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