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AnimusRex -> RE: meeting. what safety measures do you take (11/10/2007 5:19:42 PM)
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fast reply-
Well...in meeting someone for the first time, it is usually the woman (dominant or submissive) who is most at risk- after all we don't live in a world where men are routinely raped by women (and if there is such a place, please pass along the location to Me, won't you? thanks)
So as a Man, I understand and accept that it is incumbent upon Me to demonstrate that I am safe and sane. Which is why i offer a real phone number, name, and encourage a girl to meet Me in a public place, etc.
When I counsel girls who are meeting Doms, I suggest she have a "safe call"- a friend she can call to let them know she is at such and such a place, and so on.
More than anything, though, I suggest using intuition and common sense- if you feel uneasy or that something just isn't right, don't hesitate to run or back out. Time is usually the biggest threat to weirdos and creeps- anyone can pass as a safe and sane Man here, but in real life, they expose themselves very quickly.
Simply meeting at a Starbucks and passing an afternoon chatting is a great way to get a sense of what they are like, at least to weed out the obvious ones. Don't feel shy about quizzing him on his past, his relationships, etc, anything that you feel might trip up a dangerous person. The first meet is NOT the place to begin any sort of "surrender", since the needed trust has not been earned.
Good luck!
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