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RE: Understanding the Pro domme - 11/24/2007 10:14:55 AM

MsBearlee

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mark, I notice you didn’t comment on the reference to your wife or SO, so I will give my two cent’s worth.

Early on, I played with a delightful and experienced submissive man I’d known for awhile. He is married. We had a very good time, and as is out of character for me, I let him sexually pleasure me. I enjoyed that, too! <smiles> But, I felt badly for my behavior. He is a married man whose wife has not given him permission to play with others. I believe adultery is a two-way street and that both ‘players’ are culpable.

At first I didn’t want to give my friend reasons for not wanting to play anymore because I didn’t want to come off as judgmental. Finally, I copped to the reason…giving my own guilt and lack of interest in continuing an adulterous affair. Perhaps your friend has found her honor, but doesn’t know how to explain it, yet. This is just one possible explanation; others here have offered other good ones as well.

Upon continued reading, it seems you are not committed to another; so obviously that is not it, either.

Personally, I find it disrespectful when people play with other’s feelings. I have observed some people dump good friends, when a new and particularly possessive friend comes along. Oddly, when the newness wears off (or the possessiveness wears thin), they attempt to pick up other friendships where they left off. Not the kind of people with whom I like to establish friendship; perhaps you will have to decide for yourself, if your Mistress is such a person.

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RE: Understanding the Pro domme - 11/24/2007 2:50:36 PM

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I am a little perplexed myself. As a professional, she can see you for sessions and cease seeing you at any time for any reason. But to do so, and then call you back, puts a more intimate connection on your relationship.

What were your terms when you started? Are you still happy with those? Is it time to renegotiate? Or is it time to walk away?

Seems to me, if you want the freedom of paying someone and leaving, you will not have that with her anymore, as you've developed an emotional tie. If that isn't the way you want to go, you may want to decline her offer.

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RE: Understanding the Pro domme - 11/24/2007 3:45:15 PM

Markoserve

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I am not aware of what her relationship status is. However, she has informed me that she has been practising Pro domination for the last 2 years. Based on that, I am assuming that her spouse and/or SO is accepting of her career, she is single or whomever she does share her life with will eventually have to accept her career choice or move on.

I have never really probbed her about her relatioship status, although she did ask me on occassion. From my perspective, I am there to enjoy a professional session and did not think it appropriate to ask her such details.

As far as her offer, I am really perplexed. I do not want to have to go through these continual emotional roller coasters, however, I really did appreciate her style and capabilities.

Thanks for the input.

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RE: Understanding the Pro domme - 11/24/2007 8:05:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: Markoserve

I am not aware of what her relationship status is. However, she has informed me that she has been practising Pro domination for the last 2 years. Based on that, I am assuming that her spouse and/or SO is accepting of her career, she is single or whomever she does share her life with will eventually have to accept her career choice or move on.

I have never really probbed her about her relatioship status, although she did ask me on occassion. From my perspective, I am there to enjoy a professional session and did not think it appropriate to ask her such details.

As far as her offer, I am really perplexed. I do not want to have to go through these continual emotional roller coasters, however, I really did appreciate her style and capabilities.

Thanks for the input.

It does sound like it's time to seek out another person to play with.

There's a good chance that her "not comfortable" meant that something about you or your behavior made her uncomfortable. There's also a chance that she had things going on in her own life that left her in a bad headpsace for doing the kind of session you like, or any kind of sessions at all.

It's definitely not fair to keep you hanging, though.

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