littlesarbonn
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My advice to you is a little different, based on a few decades of experience in this area. Trying to get to know a pro dominant for friendship is going to be a futile experience at best. If you are lacking of experience at getting to know dominant women, it has more to do with several other factors, most likely involving location, social interpersonal capability, and knowledge of where to make friends.
When I first became involved in the bdsm communities, I did so by actually joining a few of the organizations that were prominent in the scene. But you have to join the right way. You generally aren't going to do well if you sign up and then show up at a function hoping to achieve immediate success. This generally isn't going to happen unless you have the personality of someone who can do well in any social environment, or you're just simply hot beyond physical belief. Now, as I can speak of neither of those qualities, rather than just show up at functions, I found organizations that were involved in what I really believed in. I was a femdom practitioner back then, and I was heavily into female supremacy and goddess worship (no, I'm not saying that this is something others need to do...just pointing out that we all have our own "things" that bring us into the various scenes). So I joined a few organizations that truly espoused these beliefs, and I volunteered to help make those organizations stronger. I liked what they were doing, and I wanted them to succeed further. I didn't do it to meet women. I did it because I believed in what they believed. Along the way, a lot of women became interested in me. If you show you are sincere, and if you're what the dominant women in your fantasy area are seeking, you'll connect.
But it won't be fast. It won't be overnight. It may take a year or so of working really hard just to prove you are sincere. And you may be serving NO women during this time. And that was my case, even though I was probably luckier than most other submissive men, and no, I still haven't figured out how I was. But along the way, I made GREAT friends of lots of people, both men and women. And strangely enough, it was connections with men in these organizations that often served to hook me up with women who were looking for someone like me. Word of mouth does super wonders for you.
So, that's my advice, based on having actually lived that life. I don't live it any more, but I probably could if I wanted to. I'm just focusing on something a little different these days, although some day I'm sure I'll probably find myself back in the trenches trying to find something again.
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