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Aswad -> RE: Can Y/you Develop a Fetish on Command? (11/12/2007 9:01:01 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
You can certainly develop a fetish in someone purposefully through a lot of good training and seduction. But on command as in within three seconds? Not likely.
Quite agree. It takes time, but one can build a fetish from the ground up, or even turn an aversion into one.
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Fetishes are usually brought about [early on] when our bodies are trying to make sense of sexuality and somehow it gets latched on to some traditionally non sexual idea/object so tightly that it becomes inextricable from the sexual pleasure itself.
And this part is where it gets interesting... As I recall, the incidence of fetishes is lower in populations with a more relaxed relationship to sexuality. Similarly, populations where people aren't discouraged from exploring early on, have far lower incidence, as well as typically having less pathological sexualities. Put very simplistically, fetishes are a sort of miswiring due to not being allowed to learn at nature's intended pace.
That's not to say that a kink is a bad thing, but when it turns into a fetish (necessary stimulus), it's not ideal, at least.
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One of the many reasons our society is so fucked up is that we deny [humans] their sexuality [early in life] and force them to hide it and have it come out in other ways.
Bingo.
Parents want to have their porcelain dolls as long as they can. Adults make poor dolls. And that's before one starts factoring in all the sexually repressive mores out there, particularly in some religious communities. Experiments were done to change this up here, but then the papers wrote about it, without explaining the details, so it was canned.
Health,
al-Aswad.
Edit: Rephrased quoted sections for compliance reasons.
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