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meeting people in the lifestyle - 11/12/2007 8:20:18 PM

NewKnotTyer

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Im recently single out of my first gf/sub relationship. Now that Ive had pandoras box opened, im biting at the bit (pardon the pun) to play some more and see just how far this rabbit hole goes! Im not neccesarily looking for a new gf, perhaps a playmate and someone whos not entirely against getting tied up and hurt a bit. Any suggestions on how to go about this? Im thinking on trying some singles websites and just being honest.....

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RE: meeting people in the lifestyle - 11/12/2007 8:31:11 PM

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The type of responses you might get from a vanilla singles site probably aren't what you want. Check your area for munches/meetings etc and make a profile here and on other kinky sites. Be honest and be patient.

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RE: meeting people in the lifestyle - 11/12/2007 8:59:44 PM

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yep, what she said...

Look for real people in the lifestyle, in your area. Shouldn't be too difficult given your area. Get on the mailing lists so you know where and when the munches are. Go to them with the intention of meeting like minded people, not the intention of finding someone to "get tied up and hurt a bit." Get to know some people in your area and let them get to know you. Once you are comfortable with them and they with you, then take it a bit further..Are there any local clubs? Do people in the area have private parties? Again, don't go with the primary goal of finding a play partner, but to become familiar with the territory and the people that inhabit it. Finding a playmate will come.

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RE: meeting people in the lifestyle - 11/12/2007 9:38:03 PM

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Awesome advice, Im on every email list I could find, and looking forward to going to munches when I get the chance. As much as i want to find a playmate, Im also eager just to meet people who understand my interests and can talk about it without looking at me like Ive got orange juice shooting out of my ears....

I just updated my profile, and figured out how to operate the search (im about as computer savvy as a chimp)

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RE: meeting people in the lifestyle - 11/12/2007 9:53:26 PM

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love is where you find it could be anywhere anytime. YOu have to be open to anything. But stick to your values and to your experince. Sort the worms from the apples

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RE: meeting people in the lifestyle - 11/12/2007 10:16:46 PM

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Florida has a pretty big fetish and lifestyle community. Just go to google and put in BDSM and the name of the nearest big city. Then, look into the groups.

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RE: meeting people in the lifestyle - 11/13/2007 12:48:27 AM

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Dear fellow Floridian,
There is a very large and active lifestyle community here. As ex-webmaster for a few local BDSM groups, I assembled a great many Florida resources. Try taking a look at these for munch, dungeon party and local group listings:

Florida events calendar: http://www.residentsadist.com/fl-calendar.html
Florida club listings: http://www.residentsadist.com/fl-clubs.html

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