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JoyfulMistress -> Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 9:00:49 AM)
G'morning everyone, Mine and I are coming up to a very special time in our relationship and I would love some thoughts or insights from you so I have a few very vanilla questions to pose. If you would please stop and think back at the time when you lost your virginity,what would have made it more romantic,memorable?Would you have added BDSM into it or removed it if it was there and why ? Thank you for taking time to read this and I look forward to any thoughts you wish to share Mistress Joy

Shawn1066 -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 9:18:36 AM)
Being as my first time was quite amazing, and relatively recent, I can say it went by perfectly. It was romantic, tender, and it happened exactly as I was ready. I'm very glad I didn't lose it to a Vanilla person. BDSM was there and I think it made it that much better. Of course, throwing all of that aside, what really made it memorable as it was with somebody I love and cherish. It will always be special to me. I don't think it could have happened any better.

toservez -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 9:32:15 AM)
My first time was totally vanilla and was two people fumbling around and very nervous. I still enjoyed the whole experience and never regretted it. I do not think I would have liked to have lost my virginity in a power exchange way. Looking back I like and think it might have been important to have these two things start of separately and then merger together. I think this might have given me a better perspective on both of them in knowing they are both separate and together at the same time in me. I am not sure if my first experience of sex was power exchanged what would have happen in my sex life. I just know I have had many wonderful non power exchange sexual encounters/relationships I might not have had if I just had tied the two in from the beginning.

IrishMist -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 9:41:37 AM)
I don't mean this to sound harsh or unemotional; but quite honestly, the only thing that probably would have made my first time bette was if I had cared about it being my first time... as it was, I was at a state in life that I just did not care one way or another.

Aldrea -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 9:52:44 AM)
My first time was with a boyfriend who had dumped me 2 months prior but we had remained friends. I cared about him and decided I cared for him and wanted to lose it to someone I knew I had feelings for. I look back and I should have picked a diffrent time to do it since friends were around the same house and had a clue what we were doing and tried to spy on us laughs Jerks! but it was very Vanilla and not romantic at all but I dont regret it. I think that your first time should be mostly vanilla just to get the mechanics of it down. Then you can incorperate more and make it better from there. I think the best thing is to not have high expectations that way however it turns out at least its still good. "Sex is like Pizza, when its good its REEEEAL good. When its bad, Eh its still pretty good"

rubberpet -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 10:48:38 AM)
I have to admit my first time was very good. There isn't anything I would change about it. It was a warm summer night...tender, romantic, loving, passionate, sweaty! There was candlelight, soft music, and even though it was with my first owner, there was no kink involved...pure vanilla. It was a really special night.

lockmeupplease -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 11:04:33 AM)
Ahhhhhh memories! My first time was all the best cliches----parents out of town, cook dinner for girlfriend, soft music, wine etc. It was basically planned--she wore matching panty/garter set and we did on my Mom's livingroom rug in front of the fireplace. I was "kinky" at that point but didn't really recognize it yet as a must for me. I'm glad that it was relatively conventional--there has been plenty of time since to experiment! I don't know if that answers your quesiton, but thanks for letting me relive a nice memory.

youngsubgeoff -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 11:17:27 AM)
honestly, I cant really remember my first time that well. I can remember playing a show somewhere out in the middle of butt-fuck nowhere, and this nice gal I met after the show... just had a bit too much to drink that night, heh...

Michaelsangel -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 11:57:47 AM)
For me it probably would have better if I knew then(at age 14) what I do now at age 50 and not being so scared about it hurting. I lost my virginity to a nice apple pie type guy who was a year older than me after a high school dance in the back of his dad's pickup truck....

darchChylde -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 12:10:41 PM)
if we could have maybe waited till we reached the hotel... yes, she was petite; but airplane bathrooms are small, even for one person... but at least i had an excuse why it was over in 9 seconds, would that i had one now [:(]

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 12:19:31 PM)
If I could have changed my first time, it would have been with someone I actually wanted to be with, rather than someone who just hapened to have been all over me. There was no romance, there was no fireworks. We got swept up in the freedom of being away at school, and no one telling us we COULDNT do things anymore, and it went farther than either of us were really ready for. Not that I regret it, but I would have changed it if I could have. I dont consider my rape to have been losing it.. the list of things I would have changed about that is a novel, but the first consenting time is what I consider actually losing it. DV fondly thinks back to someone else's first time and the smoothest line ever. "I dont think I want you to respect my limits tonight"

Shawn1066 -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 12:23:57 PM)
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yuppergirl -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 12:44:09 PM)
The first time HMMMMMM......LOL i wish it was with my Dom i have now....It would have been diffrent than it was..I actually lost my virginity to my husband YES YES people.i was married a virgin...I know hard to imagine these days and age of sex everywhere.LOL....... It didnt have BDSM in it but later on in our relationship i look back now and alot of things he did was D/s....perhaps he was a Dom and he didnt tell me...... as i got more and more into sex with him it got rougher and more sadistic.he ended up beating me all the time......holding me down forcing me to do things...(now i find its called marital rape).but i am divorced now.....thank God.......i was 24 years old.what an introduction intosex.huh??.........But yes if i could change anything it would to be giving myself to my DOM i have now NJDOM48.i love him so much.........yuppergirl

KyttynTheMynx -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 1:03:23 PM)
haha. theres a few things i would change. i DEFINITELY wouldnt have lost it in the lighting booth of the theatre, when i was supposed to be rehearsing monologues with the asst. director. and definitely not on that old ass couch up in the booth. and I would change the fact that it was completely text book awkward in every sense of the word (im talkin elbows hitting jaws, knees hitting stomachs, we were a mess haha, awkward silences in the middle wow.) but i wouldnt change who it was with. he was an amazing friend that taught me a lot while he was here...hey may not have been a bf, or whatever, but we had a special love for each other. and that will stay with me forever and for always...

littleone35 -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 1:59:06 PM)
My first time was totally vanilla but i remember it like it was yesterday. I was a virgin he was experienced (at least one of us knew what he was doing). It was not as romantic as i hoped but it was pretty good as far as those things go. The person i did it with, i don't regret that at all. Matt's littleone

acissej -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 2:19:33 PM)
I parted with my virginity after some pretty intense BDSM play, and, looking back, I think I would have removed at least some of the BDSM elements (specifically, some of the humiliation and the golden shower). I was very emotional from the BDSM and, well, there were some problems with the sex that I might have reacted to differently if I'd been less emotional. But, hey, it was all very memorable, if not romantic.

subtee -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 3:07:55 PM)
A pillow in front of the headboard and a bigger vagina. Oouch.

bostontwo -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 3:10:14 PM)
Lube. And only slightly more romantically, not having to worry about nosy roommates listening at the door.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 4:57:13 PM)
I guess the only thing I'd have changed would be to have been able to shower first. Otherwise, I was the one who completely chose who/when/where/how it happened, no regrets on the actual act of losing my virginity.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Nilla Question:what would have made your first time better? (11/13/2007 5:01:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross ... Otherwise, I was the one who completely chose who/when/where/how it happened, no regrets on the actual act of losing my virginity. That was totally my case, too, other than thinking, "That was it???" when it was over. All that build up for nothing. I don't ask that question anymore, lol.

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