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Need advice - 11/13/2007 6:08:07 PM

Rasalghul5

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Hello everybody, I'm not new here but this is my first post on the boards. I met a mistress around two years and I want to know, how suppose to be the relationship between a mistress and her slave.

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RE: Need advice - 11/13/2007 6:11:17 PM

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There is no way a relationship between a mistress and her slave is supposed to be... each partnership is different. Different people have different desires, needs, schedules, methods of expressions (verbal and non), lifestyle considerations (family, children, illness, etc) and on and on.

A mistress and slave relationship is supposed to be however works for them and that's very broad range of possibility.

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RE: Need advice - 11/13/2007 8:16:05 PM

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you have been with a Mistress for two years but now wondering how a relationship between a Mistress and slave is suppose to work? That leads Me to believe something is not working for you.

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RE: Need advice - 11/13/2007 8:19:30 PM

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I have to agree with RumpusParable. It really does depend on those involved. Also, just when you think you have found what work for you, you start to fine tune it.

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RE: Need advice - 11/13/2007 8:35:50 PM

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See, I think ItalianSMistress is definitely on to something. There must be something lacking for you to wonder what else there is to it. We might need more information to give you a more in depth response.

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RE: Need advice - 11/13/2007 9:29:50 PM

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See, I think ItalianSMistress is definitely on to something. There must be something lacking for you to wonder what else there is to it. We might need more information to give you a more in depth response.

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I was going to say, perhaps you should tell us more, then we would be able to gauge what is really going on, I am not sure why I did not, lol
I think this is the best way to go about this, not beating around the bush eh

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RE: Need advice - 11/13/2007 9:44:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: Rasalghul5

Hello everybody, I'm not new here but this is my first post on the boards. I met a mistress around two years and I want to know, how suppose to be the relationship between a mistress and her slave.

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RE: Need advice - 11/14/2007 10:01:02 AM

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Sounds like you have an online Mistress to me.

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RE: Need advice - 11/14/2007 4:54:02 PM

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This is the story. She sends me a message telling me that she wants to own me, we talk for a few times and then I decide to meet her. We pass a week together and continue talking by messenger and phone. We meet again one year later, but this time the things don't go as the fist time. When I return we talk less and she didn't contact me for a long time now. She is married with kids and lives in other country; any opinion on this is very welcome.

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RE: Need advice - 11/14/2007 10:30:34 PM

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This is the story. She sends me a message telling me that she wants to own me, we talk for a few times and then I decide to meet her. We pass a week together and continue talking by messenger and phone. We meet again one year later, but this time the things don't go as the fist time. When I return we talk less and she didn't contact me for a long time now. She is married with kids and lives in other country; any opinion on this is very welcome.

There has to be two people in order to make a relationship. If she's not meeting your needs, it's time to end it and look for someone else. Try someone local or at least in the same country.

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RE: Need advice - 11/14/2007 10:35:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: Rasalghul5

This is the story. She sends me a message telling me that she wants to own me, we talk for a few times and then I decide to meet her. We pass a week together and continue talking by messenger and phone. We meet again one year later, but this time the things don't go as the fist time. When I return we talk less and she didn't contact me for a long time now. She is married with kids and lives in other country; any opinion on this is very welcome.

There has to be two people in order to make a relationship. If she's not meeting your needs, it's time to end it and look for someone else. Try someone local or at least in the same country.

Master Fire

I completely agree with Master Fire. It is time to send her an email ending the arrangement and get on with your life.

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RE: Need advice - 11/14/2007 11:40:43 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rasalghul5

This is the story. She sends me a message telling me that she wants to own me, we talk for a few times and then I decide to meet her. We pass a week together and continue talking by messenger and phone. We meet again one year later, but this time the things don't go as the fist time. When I return we talk less and she didn't contact me for a long time now. She is married with kids and lives in other country; any opinion on this is very welcome.

If that works for you, then that's what it's "supposed to be". If it doesn't, then it's not. It's really that simple. Even though you are in a submissive role, you do have the right to have a relationship that's healthy for you personally. Knowing what that is when you're new isn't always easy, sometimes it's easier to know what you don't want at first. There are no rules that apply to everyone. If you need more than this, then I guess you've answered your own question as to what it is "supposed to be", right?

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RE: Need advice - 11/15/2007 6:29:55 PM

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Thanks for all your opinions.

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RE: Need advice - 11/15/2007 7:12:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: Rasalghul5

This is the story. She sends me a message telling me that she wants to own me, we talk for a few times and then I decide to meet her. We pass a week together and continue talking by messenger and phone. We meet again one year later, but this time the things don't go as the fist time. When I return we talk less and she didn't contact me for a long time now. She is married with kids and lives in other country; any opinion on this is very welcome.

Sounds like she has told you in an impolite and immature way (in my strong opinion) that you do not have a relationship with her any more.

That sucks.

Give yourself time to grieve before you get into anything new. You may want to get involved in some group or munches to just investigate BDSM on your own at your own speed for a while.

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