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RE: Virgin Submissive - 11/3/2005 12:46:23 AM

MasterStar

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lil 1...trust the words of One who is older, & most assuredly not a virgin...there is nothing wrong w/ u @ all. True submission has about as much 2 do w/ sexual intercourse as politics has 2 do w/ truth...if U have it, great...if not, then there R other avenues 2 xplore that will increase your awareness of the lifestyle u seek. Not Bing included in the "norm" is a fascinating quality that an Xperienced Dom/Domme would gladly accept from a sub/slave.

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RE: Virgin Submissive - 11/3/2005 3:03:46 AM

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You are not in any way a freak, and should be proud of knowing yourself as well as you do. Submission is not about sex, it is about a gift given to another. the gift of yourself. In this case, you simply are offering two gifts in one. Be wary of any who fixate on any one part, follow your heart and find one who responds to the whole. Do not let others tell you what to do, for you are on the right track for you. Good luck in your search!

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RE: Virgin Submissive - 11/3/2005 7:53:15 AM

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Everyone starts somewhere. You're just starting closer to zero than most is all. The best advice I can give you, find someone who can focus on YOU, not the their fantasy of you. You are going to require more breaking in than most. You need someone who knows about that, about traning. You have, in effect, special needs. Find someone who can adequetly address those special needs.

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RE: Virgin Submissive - 11/3/2005 8:30:37 AM

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quote:

I don't know what kind of answers I'm looking for. I guess I'd like reassurance that I'm not a freak for still being a virgin and that I still have hope for a "normal" (lol) D/s relationship.

Hello girl.. Freak? Hell no.. You are one of the most valuable creature in the world. You have the ability to (think on this) give your Master something that NO ONE else on this planet has ever had.

Now.. as to your being a 'real" submissive or not.. You tell the others to KISS YOUR VIRGIN ASS.. I see so MANY new subs out there "jumping" in to realtime relationships and getting SO fucked over... There are SO many wanna-be assholes and perps out there that its not even funny..

SO WHAT if you're expressing your submission online "for now".. Does it mean that you're not really submissive? Hell no.. I can, and have, made a girl feel completely owned online.. The only thing you lack is your Masters touch. All it means is that you have yet to fully experience the "physical" side of submission. Its like nilla love now.. Even been in love? But how could you REALLY have been in love if he didn't "break you in"? See... its crap.. You can be in love, just not have experienced the physical side of it.

Now.. if a year from now, we're having the same discussion, and you've yet to move at least "toward" a real time relationship, we might be having another discussion. Your problem is that you're listening to the assholes that think D/s is a way to have kinky sex. You onthe other hand, may full well get to experience the MEAT of D/s which is the spiritual and intense mental dominance of your Master..

Be well, slave to be..

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RE: Virgin Submissive - 11/3/2005 10:33:16 AM

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I agree with you. I don't think you have to have intercourse to be a submissive. I think sex can be a wonderful tool in a BDSM relationship, but it's not the whole ball of wax.
I think you should remember your virgin status will attract lots of guys who will tell you anything. Just be yourself, date in confidence of your submissive self, and when the time is right for sex you'll feel it in your heart. Don't let others judging you concern you. It's OK people have their own opinions, it does not have to be your opinion of yourself. You can be anything you choose to be in life as long as you follow your dreams.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

VERY well said. I would agree that too many would say & DO ANYTHING to get a trophy like a total virgin. Learning who you are as a submissive through education, mentoring & friendship with Dom/mes & subs you respect will help you to quickly sort through those that would do you harm by using you as a trophy.

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RE: Virgin Submissive - 11/3/2005 1:39:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: amethystrain
I don't know what kind of answers I'm looking for. I guess I'd like reassurance that I'm not a freak for still being a virgin and that I still have hope for a "normal" (lol) D/s relationship.

Many peopel in "the community", doms and subs, enjoy trying to tell novices what and how they are supposed to be. Many of them (dom and sub) will tell young peopel they don't know if they are "really' dom or sub, others will tell someone liek you that you can't know. Hell, the number of people who feel they have some insight in telling someone else about themselves is astounding :)

Ignore it all. You get some because your a virgin, you would get others if you weren't and still others if you were promiscuous.

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RE: Virgin Submissive - 11/3/2005 4:18:55 PM

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You can very well know if you are submissive whether virgin or not. I know of submissives that have been in the lifestyle for 5-6 years and are still virgin subs.

You know what you are, the other people trying to tell you who and what you are, for lack of better words are morons.

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RE: Virgin Submissive - 11/6/2005 10:53:18 PM

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Nothing at all wrong in being a virgin, particularly as a submissive. In fact, it's safer because you don't have to worry about STI's or an unwanted pregnancy. (I'm very blunt aren't I?)

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RE: Virgin Submissive - 11/8/2005 7:30:13 AM

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I totally understand your plight. I was a virgin when I met my master. I always knew I was submissive and I didn't lose my virginity til I was 26. I wanted a master not a boyfriend and wasn't satisfied with a vanilla relationship. Sure I'd kissed guys and fooled around to a certain extent but I knew what I wanted and they were never it. Finally I went online and found the most beautiful man alive in my eyes, just oozing with raw energy, he was so powerful and best of all he was a master. I fell so deeply in love with him and he opened me right up. Took my submission and let it all out and I lost my virgnity to this man who is now my master. I love him with all my might and I'm so proud that I was fresh for him. It feels so good to know that he is the only man ever to have had me, that I've truly given myself to him and him only. You do what your heart tells you and you won't go wrong. HUG X

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