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catharsis - 11/14/2007 9:00:09 AM

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i am just curious to the perspective of other slaves and submissives on this.

when being flogged by my Lord and or His wife who acts as my Domme when He is away,being flogged by one or both of them feels like a great release of every day stresses.it's like a relief in alot of ways,i tend to feel renewed and reassured of my place as slave in their home.

my question is this,does anyone else "feel" anything similar to this and can it be seen as a "catharsis" of sorts?

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RE: catharsis - 11/14/2007 9:39:03 AM

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In short - yes!

Here is a thread from last night for you to peruse too...
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RE: catharsis - 11/14/2007 9:40:58 AM

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oh hell yea.....beatings are definantle catharitic to me. A wonderful stress reliever and a great mood enhancer. A great cure for PMS too.....

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RE: catharsis - 11/14/2007 9:42:02 AM

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Yes that impact play and many other types of play where I am passive and not active in any decision making or other things that the brain is used for that it can be incredibly relaxing.

There has been a couple of thread in the general forum with this same premise the past couple of days. You might want to check them out.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1406908/tm.htm

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1407963/tm.htm

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RE: catharsis - 11/14/2007 12:14:18 PM

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It is a great stress and tension reliever for me also. Love it, love it.

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RE: catharsis - 11/14/2007 1:48:51 PM

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Definitely. Usually the nights afterwards are the only time I sleep well (I have chronic insomnia).

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RE: catharsis - 11/14/2007 4:06:12 PM

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Discipline and play is a major release for me. It helps me to relieve pent up frustration, emotion, stress, and more. Nothing beats it, not even the fun that angry road rage brings about! <laugh>

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RE: catharsis - 11/15/2007 12:09:05 AM

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Yes.

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RE: catharsis - 11/15/2007 7:50:11 AM

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i''m still not sure why i am placing this here but after last night it just seems appropriate to me.

yesterday before my Lord's wife(my Mistress) left for work she told me quite assuradly that i would be flogged again when we got home from her work place later in the day. and of course most of the day i was in great anticipation of this.being so much so that i let my smart ass side come out rampantly last night while we were working there.just one of those things.

needless to say i learned quick from that little incident very quickly when we got home.

i do not know what the difference was this time but it was there.half way through the flogging i just could not hold back anymore,i couldn't hide what i was feeling.

as She continued to flog me harder i just broke down entirely,i could feel each tear come down with every lash She was giving me.but here's the deal.it wasn't tears of regret or remorse.it was tears of pain,release and surrender at last.

She finally called a stop since i was too far gone to really say much of anything at that moment,when She took me in Her arms She only said one thing to me and that was "you do trust us after all,you've just shown me that" and She is right in that.It was one thing telling them i trust them,it turned out to be much more when i was finally able to show it.

to me that is a catharsis in itself.there has been such a weight lifted after last night,and i do not doubt that it will happen again and i am very glad that i did.

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RE: catharsis - 11/15/2007 11:18:03 AM

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Greetings mhawk,

This was a beautiful post. The suffering and releasing of that through tears is a major component of our life. SJ wants me to feel the emotions thoroughly and let them out, show him how his actions are working on me, and not try to resist or take it. I love that feeling of complete release when we are together, whether in public or in private, how devestating the pain can be. It is reassuring to me to know that he has gained great pleasure the farther he is able to push me. Often times, he asks if I need to stop and I just shake my head and tell him "I don't know." and I truly don't. This usually results in another batch of tears, which he seems to enjoy as well, the confusion and despair that I feel in those moments.

well wishes ~ fairer than she

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RE: catharsis - 11/15/2007 12:08:01 PM

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thank you fairer than she,

it is wonderous when we can do these things for others.i had spent weeks trying to get all of that out adn through this i have realised the reason i couldn't ws because i was trying to instead of just letting it happen.most of the time when i know it has gotten to be too much i have been able to move my hand a certain way to signal for a stop and it would.my Lord's wife often comments she is surprised how much i can take.when all i can tell Her is that any pain i am given is worth enduring for them. and now it is so much more.

and i understand what you mean when you say that SJ wants you to thouroughly feel your emotions and let them out.for us it is a tremendous release for them it is a tremendous gift for them to be able to see

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RE: catharsis - 11/15/2007 12:38:06 PM

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Greetings mhawk,

Yes, very much so. I don't remember ever experiencing anything close to the exchange I have known in this relationship - a much truer Yin and Yang feeling. Congratulations on your deepening submission!

well wishes ~ fairer

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RE: catharsis - 11/15/2007 1:32:58 PM

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it's true freedom in slavery

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RE: catharsis - 11/15/2007 2:29:17 PM

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There is an entire subset of the community who use BDSM as a cathartic and spiritual tool. If this interests you, I can't recommend enough these events:

Southwest Leather Conference, Phoenix, Jan (registration is open now...check out the Dance of Souls at the end).
The APEX Academy in the Butchmanns Tradition Various times, usually in Phoenix.
Master Taino's Master and slave Academies. He specifically addresses cathartic flogging. Various times, DC.

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RE: catharsis - 11/15/2007 2:52:24 PM

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thank you for that information.i will pass it on to my Lord and His wife when they are both in this weekend.we are always looking for things like this to add to our travels list.with this info we could possibly check out these events.i certainly know it's got my interests peaked.

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RE: catharsis - 11/15/2007 5:46:50 PM

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greetings mhawk,

any kind of play is usually cathartic for me, but especially impact play, so i definitely agree. sometimes when i get tense or nervous or start overthinking things, all he has to do is cause a bit of pain and that all melts away.

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RE: catharsis - 11/16/2007 6:39:34 AM

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greetings annabelle,

it is so very nice to hear that others go through this as well.

it's a little off topic but when i was talking with my Lord about this last night he brought up something that really touched me in a lot of ways.He told me"you do have a slaves heart after all" He's going to come om today to my being all emotional but,it's a good thing

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