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DarkDaddyZ -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/15/2007 12:56:59 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

Ultimately if you don't want to play by the rules at party or in an organization, you shouldn't be going to that event or group.

That really sums it up.  My former group we required a ID to be shown at our event (and yes fake IDs can be obtained) and we required your signature to match the idea on the registration form with disclaimer.




phedre81 -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/15/2007 1:10:15 PM)

I would find it difficult to say what a group should or should not ask, and to say what a person should or should not be willing to give.

For me, giving my address isn't a major problem--I'm not completely out, but there won't be any drastic problems from me being outed, either.

For someone in the situation of the OP, I'd probably be more hesitant to give out info.  That doesn't mean the group is wrong for asking it.

If I was deciding group policy, I probably wouldn't require an address, it's like any other aspect of WIITWD--no one should be asked to give more than they are comfortable giving, and no one should be required to engage with people who aren't willing to give as much info as they need to be comfortable.

IMHO. ;)




laurell3 -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/15/2007 2:35:04 PM)

OP: Given the updated information, I think you have to chose what's more important to you personally.  Any public event takes the risk of outting you or effecting family.  It's unfornate, but as they've stated they destroy the list, maybe that would help alleviate your concerns as I hope the additional information provided here, which didn't seem to be what you got for information before.




briska -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/15/2007 2:51:44 PM)

While I wouldn't be comfortable writing down my address everytime I went out to the local club where TES' parties are often held (especially since it varies seasonally, and the one on my liscence is still my parents house), I do know that TES, the group Sir & i belong to, does have our address in their files.  We get the newsletter/magazine-thing every so often.  IIRC it may even be voluntar.  But, long story short & less confusing, I'm much more comfortable with a (larger) group asking for my address once in terms of membership, rather than having to give it every time I went out to a party, whether public or private. 




SirJoe1211 -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/15/2007 2:56:43 PM)

Mistress Scarlett

Lets first seperate the issues.  As vice President of the group you are referring to I would like to make sure that the issues are properly defined. 

Issue 1.  Do we require legal name and address and do a background check for sexual criminal past?
    YES, but only for those applying for membership.   Our bylaws state you may not be granted membership if you have a sexual criminal past.  Is it perfect, no but it is our attempt at pertoection of our members.  It does not preclude those with non-sexual felonies, I myself have a felony conviction in my past - I do not hide it or run from it and most everyone knows about it - and I am the vice president.

Issue 2.  Do we do a sexual preditor background check on those attending our Parties or Events?
   NO, - we DO NOT check that info on people that want to attend our public events or member play parties.

Issue 3.  Do we require legal name and address for our Open Community Play Partys?
   YES, for our Open Community Play Parties - we require legal name and address so that we can match that at the registration desk. Liability/medical emergencies/identification/Legal recourse if you (rhetorical "you") trash our equipment or the venue are our reasons as to why.  NOW, regardless of how other events do it, this is (to date) how we have decide to do it.  We have hosted 3 public community events this year at great expense to our group, and its members.   
and Yes, we do require that those wishing to attend our events follow the rules. We would not have the respect in the community we do - if we didn't require people to follow the rules.   Will this policy change?  - most likely, that much information has become cumbersome and slows the process of registration especially with nearly 200 attendees for a single night event.

Issue 4.  Is the informatiuon we collect ever subject to public review?
  NO, that information is only accessable to the President and the Treasurer who keeps the books.  Our bylaws mandate that Privacy is a primary concern.  Are we infallable, no, but when you consider that credit card numbers were stolen from Capital One's computer center 4 months ago, what is?  The difference is we do not keep that info online and after a public party, all but the email address is destroyed.

Your questions are valid, however your intermingeling of the different aspects of that information has allowed for many different people to get the wrong impression and come to incorrect conclusions. 

If you do not want to give your legal name and address to be a member, fine, you are still welcome at our events, our munches and may even be a guest at our monthly play parties up to 3-times.  We are more than fair in our acceptance of those with objections to our policies and procedures.  We also welcome counter opinions to our own, but we have established how "WE" as a group function and the determinations we feel necessary to protect ourselves, our group and our community from those who use this lifestyle as a ploy to commit rape and abuse. Thuse, these are our rules for better or worse.

Furthermore, we are not everyones cup of tea.  Many members of the community disagree with us and we are fine with that.  Our standards are there and unless the membership decides to change them, they will stand as is.  We have also told anyone that if you don't want to be a part of our organization, and choose to start your own, wonderful, we will do what we can to support your group.  (This is evidenced in that; 2 years ago in our community, you would be hard pressed to find three bdsm related events per month to attend where as - last weekend alone there were three events just on saturday night and nearly 4-6 lifestyle related events going on per week.)  Plus, our organization has been active in at least 3 start up groups and the re-invigoration of at least 4 others. 

If you choose not to attend on a matter of principal, we are sorry, you will be missed.  But we cannot change our policies to accomodate every single person that has this issue or that.  We adopted a standardization and we have maintained it in good faith, and even myself and the organizations' president have to provide the same information as everyone else.   We do not ask anyone to provide anything we are not willing to provide ourselves.

Sincerely
Sir Joe
VP IMAS (Indiana Masters and slave/subs/switches)

One last though:  With all due respect - If there is a morality clause in your husbands work contract and you feel that there is something imoral about the how we as BDSM'rs choose to live our lives, possibly you need to rethink your chosen profession and by doing so you will do more to protect your husbands job than any requirement we may have for a party or event.




Celeste43 -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/15/2007 3:29:37 PM)

I think it might be helpful if you brought up your concerns about loss of privacy and ask them how they propose to safeguard you and others. Asking them to detail how they protect this information may make them rethink the security. But in the end, their house, their rules.




RumpusParable -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/15/2007 5:19:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SirJoe1211
One last though:  With all due respect - If there is a morality clause in your husbands work contract and you feel that there is something imoral about the how we as BDSM'rs choose to live our lives, possibly you need to rethink your chosen profession and by doing so you will do more to protect your husbands job than any requirement we may have for a party or event.



Wow, true colors shining through.. How utterly disturbing this statement comes from someone who is supposed to be vice president of a group that wants people's full names and home addresses.  It's nothing but a childish and ignorant slight, certainly not the sort of behavior that indicates a trustworthy person of such info.  Rather, this behavior is that of one who should not be in any sort of position where personal information that could be detrimental to ones family and work life, s well as pose legal risks, is maintained...

You know very well, god I'm praying, that the risk involved with her spouse's contract having a morality clause has nothing to do with her feelings on BDSM being immoral or not.  She never said nor even implied such and her opinion, in any case, is not what would be used to decide whether her husband had broken that clause (either through is own involvement in BDSM or someone knowing of his wife).

As for the rest, it was more of the same and just as clearly foolish to anyone who takes a moment to consider the risks and risk-minimalization possibilities in each.




MstrssScarlet -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/15/2007 10:19:46 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Zarius

Greetings everyone

I would like to address this, since it is about my group.

IMAS's board hosts private play parties once a month, those are for members only, and their invited guests (1 per person) we ask for their scene name when people rsvp (these are held at private homes for the most part) and guests can be vouched for by the Member.

We have hosted three public events, that were open community play parties for the entire kink community. All three of them have been very successful. The first with 115 people, the second with 130, the third with 199.

IMAS's Membership and its board, came up with this as a measure of security for the guests attending. The reasoning behind getting legal names that match your drivers license, is to verify who you say you are when you show up at the venue. We check your name off the list, and either stamp you or put on a tyvek wristband to identify you as having been checked in.  

Since we are opening up the doors to the community at large, we have no way of knowing if Master Domino the great, is really Master Domino the great, just on their say so. So, when you register, just as you do for any event, being it IML, South Plains Leather Fest, GLLA, Sinsations in Leather, Kinky Kollege etc. at each of those events you are required to provide your real name, that way they/we can match you up with your drivers license and your face. Otherwise, it can create a security risk if we let in somone who didnt actually register and pay. Our community parties are held in pubic spaces, not a private home.

There are those out there that balk at going to IML, SPLF, GLLA and other events, because of the "ID" issue. They are told the same thing that we do; If you dont provide it, you wont be allowed into the event.

IMAS only accepts paypal or pay at a munch (in person) for our open community parties. We write down your legal name, email address (if paying at a munch) and keep that list until after the party. Once that is done that list is destroyed. However we do keep the email addresses provided so that we can let them know of future parties, and for feedback questionaires.

Now to join IMAS as a paying member to be allowed to attend our monthly parties, and vote on activities that IMAS does, we do a background check against your ID for convicted sexual predators. It is in the groups opinion that it will limit those who do have a "sexual predator" history. Is it perfect, no but it is one measure that we try to provide a safe place to enjoy our activities in a persons home.  IMAS does not do background checks for sexual predators for those attending our open community parties.

Is it fair? IMAS's membership, and board think it is. Does everyone like it? Probably not. Yet we do know that the person saying they are such and such is who they say they are when they come to our Community Open Parties.

The OP has attended with her other, to at least one of our open community parties, which did require the OP to provide said ID at sign up and at the door. As far as I know, the OP didnt object then about providing their legal name on their ID. I will have to get confirmation from our treasurer on this, that the OP didnt raise objections to the board on providing their real names at the earlier parties.  I will look into the address issue since I dont think it should be required for attending our open parties. For membership, again we do it to check the sexual predators lists, for that we need your legal address. We dont do a criminal history check, and it was brought up by a member to do such, and the membership voted it down.

I hope this clears up some issues/confusion.
If you have any questions please feel free to write me offlist about them.

I wish you well

Zarius
President IMAS


Greetings Zarius!
Indeed, I did attend one of you public parties with my SO and collared sub in tow.  As I stated in my original OP, we were originally asked for both our legal names AND our legal address.  There was some negotiation through one of your board members (I will be glad to tell you who offlist) and we were finally told that a driver's license matching our legal names would suffice.  I was not aware of anyone keeping any email addresses.  I have no problem with showing my driver's licence and providing my legal name.  This is pretty much the standard.  At a munch recently, you and the person I negotiated with originally were both in attendance.  Perhaps I should have talked to you instead becasue I was told that if I wanted to attend the upcoming open party, I would have to provide my legal name AND my legal address.  Because I knew both of you from previous functions (including your own), I was hoping that the address might be waived.  I was told that "That's the way it is.  You can choose to provide it and come or not."  Perhaps there was some miscommunication as you said that one of the board members did want to require addresses.  I will contact you on the other side and see what we can work out.  Thank you for stepping up and explaining the situation from your side.  I'm glad I posted this anyway because some of the posts have brought up some interesting thoughts.  You know what they say - There's my side, your side, and the truth somewhere in the middle.
Mistress Scarlet




MstrssScarlet -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/15/2007 10:40:03 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SirJoe1211

Mistress Scarlett

Lets first seperate the issues.  As vice President of the group you are referring to I would like to make sure that the issues are properly defined. 

Issue 1.  Do we require legal name and address and do a background check for sexual criminal past?
   YES, but only for those applying for membership.   Our bylaws state you may not be granted membership if you have a sexual criminal past.  Is it perfect, no but it is our attempt at pertoection of our members.  It does not preclude those with non-sexual felonies, I myself have a felony conviction in my past - I do not hide it or run from it and most everyone knows about it - and I am the vice president.

Issue 2.  Do we do a sexual preditor background check on those attending our Parties or Events?
  NO, - we DO NOT check that info on people that want to attend our public events or member play parties.

Issue 3.  Do we require legal name and address for our Open Community Play Partys?
  YES, for our Open Community Play Parties - we require legal name and address so that we can match that at the registration desk. Liability/medical emergencies/identification/Legal recourse if you (rhetorical "you") trash our equipment or the venue are our reasons as to why.  NOW, regardless of how other events do it, this is (to date) how we have decide to do it.  We have hosted 3 public community events this year at great expense to our group, and its members.   
and Yes, we do require that those wishing to attend our events follow the rules. We would not have the respect in the community we do - if we didn't require people to follow the rules.   Will this policy change?  - most likely, that much information has become cumbersome and slows the process of registration especially with nearly 200 attendees for a single night event.

Issue 4.  Is the informatiuon we collect ever subject to public review?
NO, that information is only accessable to the President and the Treasurer who keeps the books.  Our bylaws mandate that Privacy is a primary concern.  Are we infallable, no, but when you consider that credit card numbers were stolen from Capital One's computer center 4 months ago, what is?  The difference is we do not keep that info online and after a public party, all but the email address is destroyed.

Your questions are valid, however your intermingeling of the different aspects of that information has allowed for many different people to get the wrong impression and come to incorrect conclusions. 

If you do not want to give your legal name and address to be a member, fine, you are still welcome at our events, our munches and may even be a guest at our monthly play parties up to 3-times.  We are more than fair in our acceptance of those with objections to our policies and procedures.  We also welcome counter opinions to our own, but we have established how "WE" as a group function and the determinations we feel necessary to protect ourselves, our group and our community from those who use this lifestyle as a ploy to commit rape and abuse. Thuse, these are our rules for better or worse.

Furthermore, we are not everyones cup of tea.  Many members of the community disagree with us and we are fine with that.  Our standards are there and unless the membership decides to change them, they will stand as is.  We have also told anyone that if you don't want to be a part of our organization, and choose to start your own, wonderful, we will do what we can to support your group.  (This is evidenced in that; 2 years ago in our community, you would be hard pressed to find three bdsm related events per month to attend where as - last weekend alone there were three events just on saturday night and nearly 4-6 lifestyle related events going on per week.)  Plus, our organization has been active in at least 3 start up groups and the re-invigoration of at least 4 others. 

If you choose not to attend on a matter of principal, we are sorry, you will be missed.  But we cannot change our policies to accomodate every single person that has this issue or that.  We adopted a standardization and we have maintained it in good faith, and even myself and the organizations' president have to provide the same information as everyone else.   We do not ask anyone to provide anything we are not willing to provide ourselves.

Sincerely
Sir Joe
VP IMAS (Indiana Masters and slave/subs/switches)

One last though:  With all due respect - If there is a morality clause in your husbands work contract and you feel that there is something imoral about the how we as BDSM'rs choose to live our lives, possibly you need to rethink your chosen profession and by doing so you will do more to protect your husbands job than any requirement we may have for a party or event.



Well now, the cat out of the bag.  Sir Joe is the one I spoke to both times and his post seems to contradict that of Zarius in some respects.  What he has posted here is pretty much how he came across when I spoke to him through the emails and in person.
As RumpusParable pointed out, it's not I who feels that BDSM is immoral, it's my husband's company.  To expect him to throw 20+ years out the window to attend an event or join a group is simply unrealistic.  
I wish I could stay up to see the posts that follow, but I've taken some medication tonight that's making it extremely hard to focus.  Perhaps the best thing is to take this up with Zarius tomorrow and see how things go.  I will post the results here if the thread is still active.
Mistress Scaret




julietsierra -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/15/2007 11:19:27 PM)

Well, while I am not a member of the group being discussed, let me share something interesting I learned when I was in a past relationship. The girl who was the slave in that relationship was also one of the organizers of a group around here. They didn't throw parties but they did (and still do) keep membership lists.

Post 9/11, laws regarding membership in private clubs changed. We're not talking JUST bdsm situations here. We're talking about all private clubs. The new legislation held private clubs responsible for their members' activities. This meant that if you were, for instance, the nearest Lebanese or Irish or whatever Social Club (insert your own names here), and there was someone there who was a member who then happened to do something horrible like blow something up, your entire group could be held as suspect for suspicion of soliciting funds for terrorism. This had long been a concern of law enforcement agencies regarding some of the Irish clubs who were raising money for the IRA, etc. Pre-9/11, private clubs would say that they were private and so, not assist law enforcement in any way shape or form to stop the flow of funds to these terrorist groups abroad. In effect, according to some people (prosecutors), this was, in effect, legalized obstruction. According to the private groups, this was freedom to assemble. Freedom to assemble always won out.

Post 9/11 however, things changed. Freedom to assemble took one of the first hits to individual rights. It was decided that freedom to assemble didn't mean freedom from perveyance.The government was granted, through either legislation or case study (I can't recall which) the right to see membership lists if there was a reason to suspect that the group or its members were involved in terrorist activity. If this was found to be the case, the entire assets of the group and it's organizers (personally) could be seized or frozen through legal means.

Now, it may be argued that there's just not a lot of assets to speak of in groups such as ours, but this law wasn't designed for groups such as ours. It was designed for all private clubs and some of those have assets worth millions of dollars.

So anyway, groups are now required to keep paper documentation of those membership lists, including legal names and addresses. Responsible bdsm groups that I'm aware of do keep lists. However, most of the ones I know of keep them secure and not on the premises of the person who is responsible for the lists. Or, if they are housed in the homes of the organizers, they have the capability to be moved if that person gets wind that there is a possibility that they are being investigated. That way, if the organizers ever receive warrant to search their premises based on their bdsm activities, the names of other people are not in jeopardy. If they are subpoenaed to hand over the lists, on the advice of their attornies, they will do so.

When bdsm groups say "we're not doing anything wrong," and want to be recognized as a social group, it is more adviseable, according to the lawyers around here to be above board regarding all the laws, not just the ones we choose to follow. In other words, if a group is operating as a membership only social club, then it follows that there is a membership list and if asked to present one, the groups can and should do so. The inability or refusal to do this is tantamount to admitting culpability in an illegal activity.

And according to those around here who used to run groups such as this, that's the reason why those lists exist. Groups are required to be cognizant of and responsible for the activities of their members when operating within the guise of that club.

According to them, while it has generally been more acceptable lately for entities such as bdsm groups to exist, the reality is that the legality of what it is we do is still significantly questionable. Each and every time we attend more public events, we are, in effect, making a decision regarding our jobs, families and everything else. Many, many of us have moral turpitude laws in place at our place of employment. It pays to never forget that. However, many of us still choose to participate, banking on the crap shoot of numbers that we won't have anything happen to us. However, it is more than understandable if relinquishing names and addresses just feels like too much of a risk. The bottom line is that if you don't want to be a part of something like that, then it is, of course, your perogative whether you attend or not, but no one is going to lose house and home because you didn't want to list the name and address of yours.

juliet




MstrssScarlet -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/15/2007 11:53:30 PM)

I'm slighty familiar with what you're talking about.  However, there's a way around it and the BDSM community was right there when someone came up with it.  If you talk to some of the group leaders in this area, you will be told NEVER to use the "M" word.  We are contributers, not members.  This excludes us from the new laws that you are referring to because we now fall under the same category as charities, who do not have to share their lists.  Also a good reason to hold fund raisers at these events.  I have a friend who is both a female domme and a lawyer and she has not told me of any changes to this rule.  However, I will double check with my sources and get a frim answer on this.  Laws change all the time and she's been very busy, so I may not be up to date.  You DO seem to have done your homework and I appreciate the input, even if it means I no longer go to any parties with my husband.
Yea, I know I was going to bed, but my meds wore off by the time I got there.  A real bummer because it was for a migraine headache.  Looks like I'll be up for a bit longer.  Time to send off some of those emails......(turning down the brightness on the monitor and typing in the dark).
Mistress Scarlet




Zarius -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/16/2007 4:59:51 AM)

Mistress Scarlet and group,

I want to personally apologize for Joe's comments about Morality. That was out of line, I have sent him and the board a message about this.
I do know he can be rather blunt at times, as can I and I judge many others. This doesnt excuse his words on here,I do think he was only trying to make a point rather than being rude.

I have sent you a private message and I know in the future on a case by case basis accomodations may be made concerning the "address" issue.

I wish you well

Zarius




SirJoe1211 -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/16/2007 7:05:04 AM)

Greetings: 
Where as my reply was not intended to be rude, it was intended to be direct in defining the issues that seemed to be jumbled up.  As for the comment about the moralty clause, you brought that up in your initial statement therefore, I so no reason not to comment on it.  Of course I know that you do not feel it is imoral, or you would have found a new profession long ago.  My point was, that if his company has an issue with it, you put his career at bigger risk than any single night event we could have. 

Regardless of your personal opinion of me, the organization has made many positive strides in the community, and we do not discriminate anyone for their beliefs. 

If I offended you, I am sorry.  I was trying to be clarifying, not cocky.

Sir Joe
VP IMAS




neph -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/16/2007 7:42:18 AM)

Nope.  I wouldn't give my ID.  Whether I give you my name or not is up to me.  You'll only ever have my address if there's a reason for you to come there or mail me something.  It's not an 'Oh gosh, hide from the world, nobody can know I like to hit people!' sort of thing, it's just a matter of principle for me. 

I'm not saying that they are wrong for wanting ID, I'm only saying I would choose not to attend that party.  Approach it like you would any negotiation.  Does what you are giving up (privacy, whatever) have less value to you than what you are gaining (fun party)?

(Bah, conversation moved on to the particular instance, oh well. Disregard.)




MstrssScarlet -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/16/2007 10:50:12 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: neph

Nope.  I wouldn't give my ID.  Whether I give you my name or not is up to me.  You'll only ever have my address if there's a reason for you to come there or mail me something.  It's not an 'Oh gosh, hide from the world, nobody can know I like to hit people!' sort of thing, it's just a matter of principle for me. 

I'm not saying that they are wrong for wanting ID, I'm only saying I would choose not to attend that party.  Approach it like you would any negotiation.  Does what you are giving up (privacy, whatever) have less value to you than what you are gaining (fun party)?

(Bah, conversation moved on to the particular instance, oh well. Disregard.)



Move along.  Nothing to see here.  LOL
I WOULD still like to know about the members vs contributors aspect.
Mistress Scarlet




Rover -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/16/2007 11:01:23 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrssScarlet

I WOULD still like to know about the members vs contributors aspect.
Mistress Scarlet


There may be a difference in record keeping for tax purposes, but there is also a difference in regards to legal liabilities for things such as injury.  Most business owners and groups will accept the additional record keeping burden in order to reduce their exposure to civil liabilities.
 
John




MstrssScarlet -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/16/2007 5:46:07 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rover

quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrssScarlet

I WOULD still like to know about the members vs contributors aspect.
Mistress Scarlet


There may be a difference in record keeping for tax purposes, but there is also a difference in regards to legal liabilities for things such as injury.  Most business owners and groups will accept the additional record keeping burden in order to reduce their exposure to civil liabilities.
 
John


The reason you sign a disclaimer with your LEGAL name when you enter an event/ party/dungeon is because you are agreeing that you will not hold the owner/ presenter liable if you cause any injury to yourself or another person in attendance.  I have been to LOTS of events and there are three main things they are worried about:
1.  That you are who you say you are
2.  That you are not a minor
and 3.  That you sign that waiver releasing them from liability.
More paperwork is not going to make a bit of difference if something ends up in court.  And trust me, if it gets to court, there will no longer be any question about who did what or where they live, where they work, or what they look like.
Mistress Scarlet 




MstrssScarlet -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/16/2007 6:23:14 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SirJoe1211

Greetings: 
Where as my reply was not intended to be rude, it was intended to be direct in defining the issues that seemed to be jumbled up.  As for the comment about the moralty clause, you brought that up in your initial statement therefore, I so no reason not to comment on it.  Of course I know that you do not feel it is imoral, or you would have found a new profession long ago.  My point was, that if his company has an issue with it, you put his career at bigger risk than any single night event we could have. 

Regardless of your personal opinion of me, the organization has made many positive strides in the community, and we do not discriminate anyone for their beliefs. 

If I offended you, I am sorry.  I was trying to be clarifying, not cocky.

Sir Joe
VP IMAS


Sir Joe,
Actually I've never had a problem with you before.  We've seen at each other at the Indy Slosh, GLLA, and the IMAS party.  We have always been on good terms and I've actually enjoyed your company and assumed you felt the same.  I was very suprised but not overly upset with your first post.  I do, however, have a problem with your apology.  I would hardly call it an apology at all, although I will accept it if for no other reason than to keep the peace between us.
You have actually just restated some of the same things you said in your original post.  In both of them, you are trying to shift the blame to my profession as the biggest danger to my husband's career.  I would have to disagree with you on this.  I am EXTREMELY careful with the clientel I accept and because of our location, we are virtually invisible to the unsuspecting public.  My clients have every bit as  much to risk as I do by exposing our sessions.  Not so when I attend a public event, who will be more concerned about their liabilities than my privacy if push comes to shove.  I trust that IMAS will do all in their power to protect everyone's identity, but as I stated to you in person at the Indy Slosh and again here on the boards, groups have a bad habit of splintering and the person holding the list does not always leave on good terms.  Information gathered for all the right reasons can quickly become a potential weapon in the wrong hands. 
Mistress Scarlet 




slaveofKaos -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/16/2007 6:25:58 PM)

I would not want to give my address, I always go with someone who i've known for a long time so as far a medical or missing persons there is always someone who knows me. I have never as a member or a guest of a member been to a club where I have had to give or show anything other that a quick flash of my ID card so they could verify my age.




MstrssScarlet -> RE: Would You Give It Out? (11/16/2007 6:37:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Zarius

Mistress Scarlet and group,

I want to personally apologize for Joe's comments about Morality. That was out of line, I have sent him and the board a message about this.
I do know he can be rather blunt at times, as can I and I judge many others. This doesnt excuse his words on here,I do think he was only trying to make a point rather than being rude.

I have sent you a private message and I know in the future on a case by case basis accomodations may be made concerning the "address" issue.

I wish you well

Zarius


I wish to thank Master Zarius for his public involvement in this issue.  He has indeed sent me a private message and is doing his best to correct this whole situation.  It's a tough job running a large group such as IMAS and I understand all too well the politics that go on behind the scenes that can make such a responsiblity a true nightmare.  Both him and Sir Joe have always been gentlemen in the past whenever I've encountered them at a function.  I would like to think that this misunderstanding will not put a black eye on the IMAS group, but instead prove how well they handle themselves under pressure.
Mistress Scarlet




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