How does a new and young male submissive seek/get invovled in the BDSM lifestlye. (Full Version)

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jdpsub242 -> How does a new and young male submissive seek/get invovled in the BDSM lifestlye. (11/14/2007 10:46:52 PM)

Well I have been on collarme only several months. This is the first time I have tried to be activly seeking a Mistres/Master. I found it to be somewhat difficult to find a Mistress/Master. One of my questins I have is how do you suggest I would approach a Mistress/Master in a first email encounter? Another thing I have found is that when I have been able to start talking with that person I tell them that I am a Christian and yes I do go to church on a regualr basis. Now I don't believe that would affect me in the BDSM lifestyle in anyway but for some reason its seems to be turn off. I guess my main point is how do I communicate and start to be involved in the BDSM lifestyle even though I am so young 20 to be exact. Any help on any of these questions would be appriciated.



azropedntied -> RE: How does a new and young male submissive seek/get invovled in the BDSM lifestlye. (11/14/2007 10:57:11 PM)

try Not opening with religon or politics i would table that discussion for a long while .The Domme to sub ratio well there are alotta subs/slave and alot fewer Dommes available .As far as the time goes , what is your hurry ? I have been on collar me for years  not months.Have met some great, amazing people , though no Domme for a relationship i still very much enjoy my time spent on here and learning all the time even though i have been in bdsm for Many years . I really feel one of the best thing i can do right now  is stop looking for a Mistress Domme  ,sometimes  things come to use when we are not looking activly for  it . Just cecause i am not activly searching  will i shew away a great Domme if she comes into my life no way [;)] .I did however see a christian bdsm site once  maybe i can find that link or you could do a bit of google time .
Best wishes on your journey .



jdpsub242 -> RE: How does a new and young male submissive seek/get invovled in the BDSM lifestlye. (11/14/2007 11:09:00 PM)

Thanks I am not really in a hurry. It took me a while to figure out that it can take some time and not try to rush things. I guess start out by having it go there pass. But thank for advice about the Christian BDSM site I'll google it or something.



Shawn1066 -> RE: How does a new and young male submissive seek/get invovled in the BDSM lifestlye. (11/14/2007 11:39:20 PM)

I am your age, I am also a Christian...as is my Owner...and her other pet is quite a bit more observant than the both of us. So, there are definitely Christians out there who love the lifestyle.  I'm sure some people will think that makes you limited(because it can, of course limit what one can do, depending on your interpretation of the faith).

My advice...well...I suck at this because I just got lucky one day a month or so ago...  I literally joined collarme one day and found myself in a relationship a few days later.  You've just go to relax, be honest, open-minded, and genuine.  It's very important to be genuine.  Talk to people, make connections.  If you talk to a Dominant, don't let it be -just- about them being a dominant at first.  You should talk to people, in the beginning, with the simple interest of forming friendships and learning.  Who knows what that could lead to?



azropedntied -> RE: How does a new and young male submissive seek/get invovled in the BDSM lifestlye. (11/15/2007 12:45:17 AM)

how odd, i found the site on collarme's cover page ,on the right side, never been but at any rate  it says christian kink connection .



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