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TakenPet -> What to do? (11/15/2007 12:00:41 AM)

My Master has not spoken to me in over a month and has seemingly made no attempt to do so.  He was supposed to come out here for Christmas, I assume that is not going to happen.  But I don't know what I am supposed to do?
Any suggestions??  Is it wrong for me to say sorry you aren't meeting my needs anymore?



mya75 -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 12:09:28 AM)

You posted a thread about him being possibly interested in his former pet...it was posted a few weeks ago.....I think its time to move on in fact way past time..why wait for him to state the obvious when he obviously isnt going to...you have to think of the possibilities that come along with online relationships .....My advice for any future relationships is that you refrain from calling someone Master/Owner especially if they havent invested any time or effort into your training.... no need to tell him he isnt meeting your needs I am sure he already knows this. Unless you plan to stick to this indefinate silence he granted you ..I had to edit because I am confused why you are acting as if he had planned to contact you or has communicated that he will attempt such.......http://www.collarchat.com/m_1378966/mpage_1/tm.htm

*realizes she once again posted on the Ask a Master forum lol*



Estring -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 12:16:41 AM)

It may not be wrong to say to him, he isn't meeting your needs, but it is pointless. He has moved on. You better as well.



TakenPet -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 12:56:11 AM)

Well I can only assume that.  We have been together for a year ... that is why I felt comfortable with calling him Master.  This is not something I rushed into, we did a lot.  I dont' knwo that he has been with anyone else .. I can only assume from the messages she is leaving.  Okay thanks for the advice .. I guess you are right, I guess I dont' have a choice.



Squeakers -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 4:23:42 AM)

Can you call him and ask him why he has not contacted?



shootingstar67 -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 4:55:13 AM)

That totally suxs



MamaDomme -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 5:09:29 AM)

You mention that you have been together for a year, does that mean you have met and actually been together in RL?  Then you mention in your op that he was coming at Christmas time, was that to be the first meeting in RL?

His silence could very well indicate that he no longer has those plans to visit and he has moved on.



Dnomyar -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 5:25:26 AM)

Face it his wife made him stay home and spend Christmas with her and the rest of the family.



KatyLied -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 5:47:12 AM)

Let this be your guide:  actions speak louder than words



Rover -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 5:53:47 AM)

Shorten your name to "Pet"?
 
John



shootingstar67 -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 5:56:01 AM)

I will say it again..that totally suxs. What a prick.  Move on.

I'd write him and tell him if he ever wants to hear from me again. to contact me. If I don't hear from him  I will never speak to him again.

You know that old 70's song "I Will Survive?" It is about someone who was ditched like that and then one day he decides to just come back.
The lack of closure he thinks leaves the door open. He may return one day full of "I am sorry's".



Kana -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 5:58:57 AM)

Its a wrap
The question I have for you is why would you consider continuing serving someone who treated you in such a fashion?
For me BDSM is always a two way street.
I understand the emotions involved but c'mon, unless there is something going on in the background you have ommitted that could have predicated this response from him, I would call this behavior unacceptable from any Master.



MrSpectacular -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 6:32:03 AM)

I would move on if I was you - He is also not your Master - you do not apparently have any relationship with him -or at least not any contact for a month so I do not understand that concept..
I don't think you need to apologize either - simply let it go.



ABMaster -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 8:40:05 AM)

Unless he is dead or in the ICU, his behavior is abusive and dishonorable and you should owe no apology to him for anything. Move on and let it go. I repeat, let it go. 



urtoy -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 8:46:07 AM)

I'm so sorry for the pain you must be feeling. As has already been said, this truly sucketh, and it's time to move on. I hope you fill your holiddays with thise who truly care about you and forget about this creep.



LordBeast -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 8:51:17 AM)

WoW.  I'm sorry you should just do your own thing and go on with your life.  I just hope that his action doesn't keep you from going out and enjoying  the lifestyle. 



Siona -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 8:52:13 AM)

Seems pretty clear to me..he has NO intentions of considering you part of his life anymore.
But then...I could be totally wrong...but I don't think so.

Move on..you deserve better.



Focus50 -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 12:25:42 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TakenPet

My Master has not spoken to me in over a month and has seemingly made no attempt to do so.  He was supposed to come out here for Christmas, I assume that is not going to happen.  But I don't know what I am supposed to do?
Any suggestions??  Is it wrong for me to say sorry you aren't meeting my needs anymore?

If he's dead, he obviously ain't coming back so you move on....
 
If he's alive and well, then you default to that ole saying that "actions (including inactions) speak louder than words" and you move on....
 
If he's incapacitated (hospital, prison etc) then you clearly weren't important enough to make his emergency contact list and you may as well move on.
 
I suspect option two is closest to the mark.  If you've been together in real life, you'd know if there was mutual attraction and chemistry at work, as opposed to someone being polite and going through the motions etc....  "Enthusiasm" is probably what distinguishes the difference.
 
I'd suggest you start over, beginning with rewriting your personal proflie so it's about you this time.
 
Focus.



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 12:50:41 PM)

I would say it is well past time for you to move one. He has pretty much told you that without words. Unless something catastrophic has happened and he can't communicate I think it is safe to say it is over.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: What to do? (11/15/2007 2:13:11 PM)

It's not wrong to state the truth.

Move on. Follow your bliss.

Master Fire



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