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RE: What to do? - 11/15/2007 3:46:13 PM

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I will add my voice to those telling you to move on. If he was your Master, you would have heard from him. Unfortunately, games are played, and emotions get involved. I'm sorry you are going through this, but don't let it color your feelings or opinions of this lifestyle. Find someone you can meet in RL and enjoy the path of exploration.

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RE: What to do? - 11/15/2007 5:54:42 PM

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to reply to this one must ask the question, how long did you know him prior to taking a collar and how long have you been commared?

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RE: What to do? - 11/15/2007 8:08:08 PM

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Pet,
Sorry you have been hurt. Its not unreasonable to say that he no longer wants any contact with you or have you in his life. Just another spineless fuck that dosnt have the balls to come to you and tell you its finished.
Pick yourself up and move forward. Im sorry, but there will always be asshole like him around.
I wish you luck in the future.

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RE: What to do? - 11/15/2007 8:12:23 PM

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Most of what I would think to say to someone like that is atad harsher than a simple "you are not fulfilling my needs"
But at this point, it seems you have nothing to lose by cutting him loose and finding someone who wants you to be the center of their world, instead of just somewhere on the outskirts. Onward and upward!

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RE: What to do? - 11/16/2007 1:12:00 AM

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Thank you all for the lovely advice .. I am having difficulty with creating a new profile .. but I am in the process. Thank you all.

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RE: What to do? - 11/16/2007 1:26:22 AM

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TakenPet,

What you should do is up to you. You can move on, assuming he has done so, or you can dwell on what isn't present in your life. Either choice is equally valid, depending on who you are , how you feel, and what he means to you.

it sounds like this isn't a particularly romantic relationship - although him coming to visit at Christmas has tones of that. You've waited a long time for him to contact you, I think its best to ask yourself how long you are prepared to wait not knowing what is going on.

What sucks most is not that the relationship might be over, but that the lack of contact, the not knowing, denies you any resolution. That makes this a decision you have to make for yourself, knowing the consequences either way. For my own part, I think if something were wrong, someone would have contacted you - he has either decided to test your limits, or abandoned you. If the former, I'd assess whether you're prepared to wait a lifetime for this man, and if not, whether you are prepared to wait another month, week, or day. If the latter, what can you do? Make peace with yourself and move on, there are many strong and passionate Doms that would love to encompass a dedicated and willing girl.

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RE: What to do? - 11/16/2007 5:25:45 AM

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I agree with everyone else, but I'd add one more thing.

Figure out what you need for closure. It sucks doing it on your own, but you have to, I'm afraid. If sending him a letter saying "you aren't meeting my needs" will do it--go for it. Or maybe having a little ceremony where you remove or burn something that tied you to him, or anything like that. Whatever will help you reduce the emotional stickiness. And good luck!

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RE: What to do? - 11/25/2007 8:44:53 PM

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It seems like if he is truly bonded with you,he should want to see you. I am so new to this but I feel sympathy. I have only gone 2 weeks so far,by a month I will be crazy. Don't we deserve someone who truly cares for us?

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