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SirEbonyPhoenix -> Setting the proper mood for scening (11/16/2007 6:28:14 PM)
Since my introduction to BDSM, I've done a great deal of observing D/s couples while they are playing before I later decided to participate in both private as well as pubic sessions. But my question is how does one set the proper mood for scening when it is just you and your sub/slave alone as far as the ritual, toys, equipment, music, etc. goes?

LadyLynx -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/16/2007 7:18:36 PM)
Well I don't have a sub, and I am not a Master.......But I just go with the flow. sometimes music (like classical, or sometimes certain rock songs will get me going.)of course it all depends on what scene I am doing. soon I plan on doing a short wrestling/trampling/cbt session to U and Ur Hand by Pink. I don't want to let myself get into the habit of having a "set ritual" because I don't want things to get stagnant.

FangsNfeet -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/16/2007 7:47:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirEbonyPhoenix But my question is how does one set the proper mood for scening when it is just you and your sub/slave alone as far as the ritual, toys, equipment, music, etc. goes? Same as sex, wanting dinner, etc... "Get up! Get over here! Go in there, I'll be with you in a moment." A little music, fore play, bondage, and blind fold. Pull out the box of toys and there you go. You're all set for a fun spankin time. Unlike sex or seduction, it's not up to the dom to put there sub in the mood. It's just about the dom being in the mood and being ready to take on there sub by force if needed.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/16/2007 8:46:07 PM)
Depends on what you want. Sometimes the best scenes have no mood set- they are just completely spontaneous and go with the flow. Sometimes months of preparation of mental, emotional and physical configuration go into setting the stage.

erebus -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/16/2007 10:20:45 PM)
Touching, talking, stroking, kissing, soft music (I hate that techo-rock or whatever it's called you frequently hear at parties...What happened to Bach and Beethoven???), candles, soft light, warm room (not to be under rated), agreement on toys to be used. I agree with Lucky Albatross, though; sometimes play is just unscripted and depends on understanding your partner really, really well.

breatheasone -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/16/2007 10:33:27 PM)
Master and I play spontaneously and its awesome So setting the mood isnt or hasnt been an issue thus far.... I am also looking forward to a time when there is some structured play. Then I will do a search for this thread and get some pointers.[:)]

Lumus -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/16/2007 11:29:19 PM)
My mood sets the mood. [;)]

marsman -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/17/2007 6:22:44 AM)
I like the ritual of putting a collar on my submissive and having all her clothing removed. During the day my submissive and I may talk, tease and threaten, but when I put her collar on it shows that I am serious. And at the end or a scene I take the collar off to show that I am done with her for the time being.

MasterSohun -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/17/2007 9:32:36 AM)
she gets the word t prepare for a scene usuallly i do music ,candles and room prep the she would be told to be naked ,collars and cuffs,ready for training or a scene,spontanious things are what my imagination comes up with lol

Celeste43 -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/17/2007 1:35:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: erebus Touching, talking, stroking, kissing, soft music (I hate that techo-rock or whatever it's called you frequently hear at parties...What happened to Bach and Beethoven???), candles, soft light, warm room (not to be under rated), agreement on toys to be used. I agree with Lucky Albatross, though; sometimes play is just unscripted and depends on understanding your partner really, really well. Seconding erebus here except prefer jazz to classicals, nothing with vocals. But for those of us who do bondage, a warm room is really necessary. Because as the blood circulation slows up from the bonds, shivering can quickly set in. The warmer I am, the longer I can go. As far as the sub doesn't need to be in the mood? If you want her to be able to handle the pain, yes she does. If you want her sexually aroused, yes she does. If all you want is a thing to beat, I suggest a pillow. Pillows don't safeword nor do they have to go to the bathroom ten minutes in because you wouldn't let them go ahead of time.

laurell3 -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/17/2007 1:57:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirEbonyPhoenix Since my introduction to BDSM, I've done a great deal of observing D/s couples while they are playing before I later decided to participate in both private as well as pubic sessions. But my question is how does one set the proper mood for scening when it is just you and your sub/slave alone as far as the ritual, toys, equipment, music, etc. goes? I think everyone has something that's right for them, however, I can remember having a partner that I had this odd dichotomy of a relationship with that always made me uncomfortable. We would have dinner, hang out, do normal vanillaish stuff with no mention or even flirting about play, then he would decide it was time and bam we were off to the races. While I can switch like that with very little prompting, emotionally it was always very difficult to have a bond with him because of this odd split. I'm not sure that makes much sense,but I think it is important to work into the scene even if it means flirting, suggesting, teasing, etc.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/17/2007 2:39:06 PM)
How would you set up an evening for a date? Really good sex? Etc. etc. Just 'cause we're kinky doesn't mean we don't like candles, music and flowers...or clean sheets. Master Fire

DrkJourney -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/17/2007 2:46:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lumus My mood sets the mood. [;)] I agree. I just go with the flow myself. Other than turning on some music and maybe lighting some candles I don't plan. Seems like if you plan too much it never turns out the way you want it too. Then no matter if is was a good time or not, you still think it was a failure.

MissDiandSirHugh -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/17/2007 3:13:25 PM)
We don’t set a mood although most times will just have some music playing as We all are enjoying talking and as Our girl will already have her collar and cuffs on that just part of being together but if all of a sudden it is felt to enjoy a session one of Us could get something that We know will excite her or distract her from everything else. It could be a leash or just a get out a special piece of furniture that will then set things in motion and even though she will not know what it going ot happen as neither do We the introduction that special thing will just change the mood to a deeper depth to be taken as far as is wanted by Us.

Sweet1Maybe4U -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/17/2007 3:46:41 PM)
Well, it depends on His mood and where we are. Once, we were driving back home from visiting with another couple and the "scene" began with just chatting in the car but ended with Him taking me on the hood of the car in the driveway alittle after midnight. So, it just naturally developed. Another time, He called me to make sure the panties were off and toys were on the dining room table with soft lighting and me waiting , all clean and ready. The instructions were explicit and i followed them to a T even though i knew He wouldn't REALLY know if i did or didn't do this or that..i did it anyway. Then, its a two week planning with lots of details and anticipation of things happening. Or, in the middle of the night~He decides its time. Even a simple trip to Walmart is at times planned to include things He knows will make me feel sexual. When out to dinner He likes "quiet" public play such as making me figure out a way to remove my panties at the table without everyone knowing and place them in His pocket. At play parties, ive noticed many Doms leave the setting up part of the scenes to their subs...and then, some have their subs blindfolded the whole time He sets things up for play. Doesn't it really depend on what You are wanting? Sometimes, my input is very important to Him and the plans for the evening. At other times, He doesn't care what my thoughts are. Even here in this forum everyone has different ideas as to what is THE way to do things. In other words, there's no real wrong way. Do you want to set up things? Is that what You enjoy? or do You prefer the sub do all of it? or Maybe do it together? i think after a while you learn when and where..like you can read each other.

topcat -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/17/2007 4:48:29 PM)
Roofies usually do the trick...

Sweet1Maybe4U -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/17/2007 4:56:35 PM)
*blinks.... Drugs have never really been a part of our play. We dont smoke or drink.

Sweet1Maybe4U -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/17/2007 4:59:42 PM)
well...that's not exactly true...an occassion glass of wine or a beer with pizza...

topcat -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/17/2007 5:03:17 PM)
Dear S1M4U, Welcome to CM. When one uses the 'Fast Reply' (the box at the bottom of the page) , it designates the message a reply to the last post. I meant for my (tongue in cheek) comment to be directed to the OP (Original Post, or Original Poster). Stay warm, Lawrence

grlneedstolearn -> RE: Setting the proper mood for scening (11/17/2007 5:47:42 PM)
Even though i am not obviously a Master, i will lay out some toys that we both enjoy and we go from there. We don't neccessarily have any forthcoming plans before we start, whatever he wants to do is majorily up to him and i just go along with it. Sometimes he may have something in mind, and he won't tell me, other times he doesn't.

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