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ExSteelAgain -> RE: Kink, just wondering.... (11/19/2007 3:31:36 AM)
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A person who goes into submissive kink is going to be introduced to sensations that will be darkly erotic, powerful and addicting. Her life is going to be changed in respect to seeking out this type play and domination later. The good part is that she can usually find fulfillment of things she has dreamed about in safe and respectful ways.
I’ve known women who were in bad “vanilla” relationships and situations because they received a degree of domination there. Of course it was all done in ways they were not shown respect.
When these same women find responsible Doms who can give them what they need in a more knowing way without disrespecting them, they are ecstatic and know this is the way of life for them. They move from the abusive type men to Doms who protect and control in the D/s context.
The bad part is that once they get past the lovely sensations, they realize not every Dom will take the step of caring about them. Many Doms will simply use them, albeit in polite and structured ways, in a casual context without worrying about them in other ways.
A good whipping is still good, but it is not mysteriously giving herself to a Master to be cherished and used as was her original glamorous fantasy.
So moving into kink is not by itself a savior, it is finding a compatible and caring person, exactly as in vanilla life.
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