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LadyHugs -> RE: need advice please? (11/17/2007 7:55:58 AM)
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Dear wildnbeautiful, Ladies and Gentlemen;
I am so sad for you lass. Unfortunately, it is so easy to be lured into a false sense of security by words alone and often the bubble bursts violently, when the 'talk the talk' doesn't match the walk, per se. The ability to really understand what a person might be, is physically investing time with that potential Master/Mistress/Dominant.
You will find, you are not the first and won't be the last. If this chap is already looking at others--I would take the behavior as a red flag and that you might find yourself on your backside, kicked to the curb when your money isn't good enough to support the chap and like an old car--find yourself traded in or left rusting in the field and or garage. Unless this chap is seeking others as to create a poly and or multiple slave household--that you knew this ahead of time; then I wouldn't be so sad for you. If this is a unplanned direction and you wished a one on one relationship with this chap--I would hold a good pity party for myself, when the party is over--I would leave and be on my own and find someone who knows what it means to commit, to communicate and to be honest in all ways--to include the skills, the ability to maintain a M/s dynamic.
It is up to you how you wish to deal with the situation. I wouldn't stay and had left long ago when he did not practice what he had preached. He might be great online, as it is a controlled time when online but, life and relationships as Master and slave are without an X button and or turning it off and on like a light switch. I also know real life gets in the way but, there is a difference in domineering and kinky sex and living a healthy relationship.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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