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any tips - 8/9/2005 1:53:28 PM   
Valhalla69


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Status: offline 		Hi all,i have recently started dating a submissive and we have played around with a few things like a riding crop and a paddle and i was just wondering if anyone has any unusual things they use or do.

I like all the normal things but i am curious to find something different aswell,so if anyone has any tips or any ideas that are not the norm i would appreciate that,and by the norm i mean paddles,whips,floggers,riding crops ect as i dont want people leaving messages asking what the norm is lol.
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RE: any tips - 8/9/2005 2:06:59 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		Do a search for "pervertibles"

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RE: any tips - 8/9/2005 4:44:25 PM   
nella


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Status: offline 		i just got an idea for a fun "game" have the submissive stand in realy high heeled shoos. Have her stand untied and in the middle of the floor, mayby whit her hands behind her neck, then whip her, not nessesary hard, the object is that in heels that are werry high, to then be able to keep standing still will be a bit of a challange.

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RE: any tips - 8/9/2005 7:22:28 PM   
Mylee


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Status: offline 		It's tame but i get more turned on then anything when i have to go to the toy box and take a toy out by my mouth and crawling bring it to Master anything after that is frosting on my cake really....not extreme but puts me in the right mind set quickly

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RE: any tips - 8/9/2005 7:28:55 PM   
nella


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Status: offline 		sounds werry nice Mylee, i must tell my Dom aboute that idea, if you dont mind.

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RE: any tips - 8/9/2005 7:56:23 PM   
Mylee


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ORIGINAL: nella

sounds werry nice Mylee, i must tell my Dom aboute that idea, if you dont mind.



Oh no, i dont mind at all, feel free to tell Him, i hope it brings you the same happiness it brings to me!


my'lee

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RE: any tips - 8/9/2005 8:44:06 PM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		A nice way to twist a sexual play into a long term memory.

take your girl out on a nice evening of some sort... Dinner.. show whatever, but ensure she wears high heels. now if you have a tie - wear it... a nice dressy look for both of you. When you get home... strip her down to nude (you strip her not her stripping for you) but leave the the High Heels (so ensure she wears something that can be taken off without touching the shoes). Then use your tie to bound her hands and tie them to a bed post or somthing that has her laying on her back... (keep the heels on... now... tease her sexually for a while a long while *s*.) after some good teaseing.. take one of High heels and use it to smack her pussy... (of course using it to the degree of intensity and duration that is appropriate for your girl and your pleasure) afterwards.. have intercourse. ( NOTE: You might wish to have prepared a dam cloth and towel handy to wipe the shoe before you use it. Make sure that cleaning the shoe is quick and doesn't stall the mood.)

now two things... every time she wears those shoes she will be reminded of that night as well as everytime you wear the tie or if you hardly ever wear ties.. she always thing of the night when you do wear any tie.

you can also use her hair brush ... or other items that have a personal connection to her. but you will also make a connection to the experience.

KoM

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RE: any tips - 8/9/2005 9:45:05 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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( NOTE: You might wish to have prepared a dam cloth and towel handy to wipe the shoe before you use it. Make sure that cleaning the shoe is quick and doesn't stall the mood.)
KoM

Sounds like a great use for a tongue?



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RE: any tips - 8/9/2005 9:53:28 PM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		well he did say it was a recent relationship and were only playing around in some degree....... However, saying that... oh yes the tongue is very useful... and so are many other items around the house *s*... As a added note... consider bringing something back from the Dinner.. mmm like toothpicks... *S* mmmmmm along the skin they can leave a very good scratch or two... oh the ideas one can have if you just let yourself go with it.

KoM


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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists
( NOTE: You might wish to have prepared a dam cloth and towel handy to wipe the shoe before you use it. Make sure that cleaning the shoe is quick and doesn't stall the mood.)
KoM

Sounds like a great use for a tongue?





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RE: any tips - 8/9/2005 10:40:22 PM   
nella


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RE: any tips - 8/9/2005 10:52:58 PM   
SadistDave


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Status: offline 		Okay, you've "played around with a few things." My suggestion would be to stop playing around and become an expert with something. Anything! What you define as "the norm" can be pretty amazing in the hands of someone who has taken time to master the some of the tools you listed.

I read your profile. You're new. You have friends in the lifestyle. Heres a tip. You will learn more practical things from them in person than you will ever learn from these forums at this stage of the game. Being over eager to learn everything too quickly may give you a reputation as being reckless and dangerous.

-SD-

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RE: any tips - 8/10/2005 3:59:24 AM   
Focus50


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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

Do a search for "pervertibles"

Pervertible - a car with the bottom down? lol

Seriously, toys are a bit like those who explain a small dick as a case of "it's not what you've got but how you use it". There's only so many basic toys but how, when and where you use them is a different matter - especially since you seem a little focused on collecting different experiences moreso than enjoying what's happening.

For something a bit different, take her for a drive - and you don't need a pervertible, either! Driving is something light but the subs I've done it with have enjoyed the "buzz" - once we've returned home safely.

Basically, I strip her down to just her heels and tie her hands behind. Next is to place her in the car, secure her seatbelt and we're ready to go. I usually have something like a bath robe around her shoulders for those traffic light moments plus my car has tinted windows and I usually do it at night anyway.... And for a "public blindfold", I just add sunglasses that have the lenses inked out. The rest is a simple thrill of not getting caught but it's a bit of fun. And I also know a secret place with the privacy to take her for a walk mid-drive, too!

You'll find as much fun from simple innovation as you will from that magical new and possibly expensive toy. And I repeat, there's only so many toys....

Focus50.

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RE: any tips - 8/10/2005 5:34:41 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		My late Master found kitchen tongs to be a lot of fun to use. Actully i found then fun too depending on the pressure and where he used them. Just another thought.

littleone

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RE: any tips - 8/10/2005 6:00:19 AM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		focus has the right thought here... it's not the toys that matter it is the experience. Simple creativity alittle innovation can go along ways to do some fun things. It is not uncommon for anyone to get caught up in having the best toys and best furniture etc. but really we just want to have fun. One finally thought.... don't treat to repeat a great experience... look at each experience as an individual. A reflection of the moment now and not some past one your trying to copy. Nothing will stut an experience if you trying to copy a past one... wheather it is yours or someone elses.. take ideas and lessons learned from them, but don't script it a new experience on the old one.


KoM

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Pervertible - a car with the bottom down? lol

Seriously, toys are a bit like those who explain a small dick as a case of "it's not what you've got but how you use it". There's only so many basic toys but how, when and where you use them is a different matter - especially since you seem a little focused on collecting different experiences moreso than enjoying what's happening.

For something a bit different, take her for a drive - and you don't need a pervertible, either! Driving is something light but the subs I've done it with have enjoyed the "buzz" - once we've returned home safely.

Basically, I strip her down to just her heels and tie her hands behind. Next is to place her in the car, secure her seatbelt and we're ready to go. I usually have something like a bath robe around her shoulders for those traffic light moments plus my car has tinted windows and I usually do it at night anyway.... And for a "public blindfold", I just add sunglasses that have the lenses inked out. The rest is a simple thrill of not getting caught but it's a bit of fun. And I also know a secret place with the privacy to take her for a walk mid-drive, too!

You'll find as much fun from simple innovation as you will from that magical new and possibly expensive toy. And I repeat, there's only so many toys....

Focus50.
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RE: any tips - 8/10/2005 7:17:31 AM   
Jayandprincess


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Status: offline 		Run a search on Google for Figging. It is taking fresh ginger root, peeling one of the "fingers" shape it with a knive to be an insertable (make sure you put a notch at the end so it does not get lost). You then dip it in cold water (make sure you do no use lube. It does not need it and will kill the effect) while you are playing Insert it in his or her bottom. It will end up being an intense tingle (if left long enough like mineral ice). When it get to be too much you can take it out and the "tingle" will stop rather quickly. It is also good to cut a sliver and put it on the front side as well.

Now thats just fun for EVERY ONE!!!

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RE: any tips - 8/22/2005 7:12:23 PM   
kyraofMists


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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

A nice way to twist a sexual play into a long term memory.

take one of High heels and use it to smack her pussy...

every time she wears those shoes she will be reminded of that night


KoM


*shudders*

my Lord, I should have bought several pairs of those shoes... they are quickly getting worn out.

Speaking from experience, this works really well.

Knight's kyra

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RE: any tips - 8/22/2005 8:14:26 PM   
krazysubbiekat


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Status: offline 		Are you familiar with those plastic kitchen scrapers? Cheap and so much fun! Great for a different sort of swat and the point on the end is a different sensation as well.

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RE: any tips - 8/22/2005 8:55:01 PM   
anopheles


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Status: offline 		A fun way to learn about what things you like would be for you to play a game where you have your sub go around the house and find an object that you haven't played with before and have him/her bring it to you (as long as it's something safe and you feel comfortable using, of course). Then tell her to explain the where, what and how. It gives you a lot of insight into what your sub is thinking, perhaps opens them up to explore more kinks, and will give you a lot more ideas.

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RE: any tips - 7/29/2007 1:13:40 AM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		How about a paintbrush?

Even as a punishment, with (eventual) washable and safe paints. 

Different colors for different troubles. Different strokes for different folks.

If she is a masochist, and aching for a beating and causes trauma/trouble on purpose(no no no that bad), paint her slowly with black and blue.  A visual reminder to her (for 2 days-ish)that you won't tolerate that and will not execute physical punishment because she wants it. lol. I would assume after she is painted she gets fucked royally with the handle and reminded over and over not to cause trouble.

Maybe paint her hands after a temper tantrum, yellow when she doesn't tell you something out of shyness, green when she is acting too jealous/possessive. lol

Even give her the brush, and all colors and ask 'show which part of you adores me?? and ask 'why did you use that color there?? lol, could be interesting answers.

severe punishment? paint her face like a clown for the day while around the house...(hopefully no company will arrive and the explainations become terrifying LOL).






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RE: any tips - 7/29/2007 9:34:36 AM   
PairOfDimes


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Status: offline 		Yup, search "pervertables" or "pervertibles". I think they're fun, and I'm a bit of a toy junkie, so:

Rubber bands, shower rods, PVC pipe, clothespins, binder clips, other clips as you like, emery boards (nail files), tweezers, rulers (metal, plastic, wood), extension pull-chains for fans or overhead lights, rods for controlling mini blinds, mini blinds themselves, wire (in many ways, and in many sorts), chopsticks, cooking chopsticks, bamboo kebab skewers, clothes hangers, rice paddles, fan belts, coaxial cable.

Really, go through your kitchen, your junk drawer, or your home office, and try hitting or clamping or brushing with just about anything you see that won't be destroyed by the treatment.

Or, are you looking not for new implements for clamping or impact play, but new kinds of SM play? Not everyone who likes SM likes impact play. You could focus on pressure points. You might like electricity--it's not hard at all, although it's a pricey fetish--a decent TENS unit will run you $100-200, and a violet wand set around $400. Needles are fun, and while unlike spanking they take a little teaching to use properly, there's no earthly reason why, if spanking isn't working for you, you couldn't go to a piercing class sponsored by your local BDSM community (or, failing that, learn some basic acupuncture) and learn it, even if you're relatively new to all BDSM.

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