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ORIGINAL: trusting

i recently (2 months ago),was asked to be released of my duties as a Man's sub... there were too many issues between us!

i have found myself craving to serve again, only in real time. i am not into the onlinen or phone Domination at all!

there is this Dom on CM that i find to be very appealing to me, not only physically... but mentally and emotionally.  it was almost an instant, mutual attraction. i have this great desire to serve Him, there is no question that i would do so.

i suppose my questions would be:

is it best for me to allow more time to pass before getting into yet another D/s relationship?

should i go with my heart and be happy in life?

am i simply vulnerable at this point and reaching out for the comfort that i did not receive with my previous Dom?

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ORIGINAL: trusting

i recently (2 months ago),was asked to be released of my duties as a Man's sub... there were too many issues between us!

i have found myself craving to serve again, only in real time. i am not into the onlinen or phone Domination at all!

there is this Dom on CM that i find to be very appealing to me, not only physically... but mentally and emotionally.  it was almost an instant, mutual attraction. i have this great desire to serve Him, there is no question that i would do so.

i suppose my questions would be:

is it best for me to allow more time to pass before getting into yet another D/s relationship?

should i go with my heart and be happy in life?

am i simply vulnerable at this point and reaching out for the comfort that i did not receive with my previous Dom?

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i suppose my questions would be:

is it best for me to allow more time to pass before getting into yet another D/s relationship? 
There is no set time frame and can very greatly from one person to another, bases on emotional impact and circumstances of the break up If you were in a 2 or more year long relationship and  the relationship ended with extremely hurt feelings for you and createdserous  self esteem problems, I would highly doubt you would be ready  for a relationship  other than with a counsellor. It could be a couple years even more before one is read for a new relationship

If your prior relationship only lasted a couple months and you never really developed a bond , and no real emotional upheaval  upon parting , you could possibly be ready to start a new search the smae well  as long as you  understood why  the relationship did not work so as to avoid a repeat.

 

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there is this Dom on CM that i find to be very appealing to me, not only physically... but mentally and emotionally.  it was almost an instant, mutual attraction. i have this great desire to serve Him, there is no question that i would do so.

Sounds to me the the relationship has already begun and that he is in agreement?, so  maybe a little late to be asking ??? take your time getting to know him and find out if the 2 of you are compatible.
I have met a number of guys that I was very attracted to emotionally , physically, mentally but knew they would never make good long term partners for me only play partners


ORIGINAL: trusting

• What do I know about this persons History, Yes it is possible for people to change but a Tiger is a Tiger no matter how badly it wants leopards spots.
  
• Do you desire the Person or what the person means. Often we get into relationships because we don't want to be alone and so we choose someone who seems compatable but all they are really doing is changing the Single slot to Couple.
  
• Does this person respect me as a Person? I know this is a Loaded question in the BDSM world but Dom or sub I think you should know where you stand.
  
• Is there more than a Physical and Sexual Attraction? It is easy to be swept away in romance, In Kink, and in Happiness, but once that starts to become a comfortable place what will you have to drive you foreward? What do you have in common, Is that enough to move you forward?
  
• Do you BOTH want the exact same thing? All too often we start a relationship with the hopes that someone will change eventually and when they don't we get hurt, You in all honesty cannot change what a person wants, yes sometimes it happens but it had nothing to do with you it had to do with them changing on thier own. It's just easier when you are both on the same page let alone in the same book.