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RE: Motivation - 11/22/2007 8:04:46 AM

rubberpet

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My motivation is quite simple. I may be submissive at heart, but I am a slave for only one. My motivation to serve Mistress is simply love. My unconditional love for Her helps me do things I normally would not do. To lay claim to my submission, She had to win my heart and trust. By doing that, She has found someone who will serve Her to the best of his abilities, put Her needs above his own, and cherish his place at Her feet, under Her boot, with Her collar locked upon his neck. Seeing Her smile is motivation enough for me

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RE: Motivation - 11/22/2007 8:25:59 AM

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For me, it's a combination of all that people have already said. I don't think any portion is of less importance than the other. If I did this with no enjoyment, I'd probably not submit, so I have to admit that I do this for the pleasure I receive out of the process.

If he was never pleased, I'd be reluctant to continue to do what I do, so, I have to admit I do this because I love to see his pleasure

I do this because I said I would.

Submission makes me feel needed, wanted and loved. I am "necessary" to him.

But all of these things are generic. Honestly, if I looked at just the things I've said, then the person I submitted to could be anyone, and that's just not the case. I submit to HIM.. I can't begin to imagine me submitting to anyone else - and there have been times I've tried...tried to imagine me with this person or that person when I was feeling out of sorts for whatever reason, and every single time, my feelings were that it was somehow ... abhorrant (not the specific people, but the idea of doing what I do with anyone else other than my Master.)

So, in addition to submitting because I gain pleasure from it, he is pleasured by what I do and because I promised to do so, I'd have to add that I do this because he makes this life of mine worth every single second I live it - even when I'm having a difficult time; even when I'm not sure I can. He makes me WANT to submit. He makes me WANT to reach past what I thought I could do/manage to find new depths and new heights. And when all else fails, I look at his smile or I see the way his eyes glow and the little tic he makes when all's right with his world, and my heart skips a beat. And then, as if I've ever forgotten, I realize I'm living life exactly the way I always thought I could. And this realization makes me want to do more, work harder, BE better than I have ever been.

Guess that's the best I can do - right now. For whatever reason, I'm just grateful I have this opportunity to live my life this way.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone.

And I submit.

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RE: Motivation - 11/22/2007 8:55:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

What is your motivation for submitting to you partner or if not in a relationship why do you want to submit to someone? Has your motivation changed over time?

I guess my motivation is to just be myself. Mostly, I just turn off my brain and do what comes naturally. ::chuckles:: I don't make a concious effort to think about Himself .. he's just always, sorta, right there.

After staying up really late last night, I got up really early this morning to put the bird in the oven. Is this making sense? ::laughs::

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RE: Motivation - 11/22/2007 10:05:21 AM

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The responses so far all mention things that generally apply for me. His contentment with me and our relationship is of paramount importance, as well as my own need to be wanted, needed, loved and pleasing. Of course, I willingly released authority over me to him, but for the most part... I really don't think about it. It's just the way it is.

I don't think I'm capable of answering your further questions, though, kyra. FirmhandKY just really doesn't give me tasks to do... at least I've never really thought of it that way. He might say, "put on something sexy for me" or "get me a glass of wine", but I don't consider those things to be tasks. To be honest, I've not even thought about whether those specific things please him or if it's my willingness and obedience that pleases him.

At least I assume something in there pleases him... otherwise why would he bother?

In the same respect, when he tells me to "move this way" or "assume that position", I'm not looking at it as if I have an opportunity to please him... or fulfill myself. I'm simply responding to his authority.

Then again, perhaps I'm misunderstanding "tasks" to be some kind of challenge... and I've yet to be placed into a situation by him that has caused me to second guess or even have to dig deep to consider why I submit as I do.

lol... Makes me sound a bit mindless and doormat-ish.

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RE: Motivation - 11/23/2007 5:56:47 AM

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It makes him happy and I enjoy seeing him happy.

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RE: Motivation - 11/23/2007 8:56:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: wisteriaV

It makes him happy and I enjoy seeing him happy.

sigh
...it always takes me 16 paragraphs to say what others say in 2 sentences...
I try for brevity..I really do

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RE: Motivation - 11/23/2007 1:34:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

Thank you for all the answers so far. For those who said they are motivated out of a desire to please, I have other questions.

When my primary motivation was to please him, I found myself focused on the end result, i.e. his pleasure. This kept me from being present in the moment and actually resulted in misunderstandings of his will. I was focused on the outcome(even if it was only a few minutes in the future), while he was trying to focus me on the present. I was also focused on what I thought would please him rather than just doing what I was told.

Lucky gave an example in another thread about decorating a hall with lights. She told her partner to put the tape on the wall and he kept trying to put the lights on the wall with the tape. Something so similar has happened many times between he and I. My misunderstanding of what he instructed me to do was because I was focused on the outcome and pleasing him rather than focused on exactly what I was told to do. (I am not saying that this is the reason for the misunderstanding between Lucky and her partner, just in similar situations it is why I have misunderstood).

For those who are motivated to submit because you want to please your partner, how do you remain focused on the present and exactly what is asked of you and not focused on the outcome of your partner's pleasure? LaMspeach, touched on this, but for the others do you make assumptions about what you think will be pleasing to them? What do you do when you do not live up to your standard of being pleasing, but your partner is satisfied with what you have done?

These are things that I struggled with when I was focused on pleasing him. I have worked through it by taking the focus off my desire to please and focus on his will. But I am curious if others have similar struggles and how you work through them.

Have a great Thanksgiving to those who live in the US.

Knight's Kyra

I'm odd, I know, but I was laying in bed the other night and thought I wonder why LA was having him put just the tape on the wall......I still don't get that.

I guess my motivation is to please him and obey him. However, if the result is that it doesn't go as intended, I don't personalize his emotions other than general concern. I should add, that secondary to that desire to please, it also does turn me on and I think that also is an acceptable motivation.

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RE: Motivation - 11/23/2007 5:02:57 PM

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My misunderstanding of what he instructed me to do was because I was focused on the outcome and pleasing him rather than focused on exactly what I was told to do

It's hard for me to separate simply doing what I'm told and pleasing Him. Why? Because I'm just always to please Him, regardless of how. For instance, it is just not His style to direct me very closely on HOW to do something. He'll inform me about what He wants and He trusts me to do it well so that He will be pleased. He is just not the type of Man to focus on exactly how I do it as long as it gets done and the end result is pleasing to Him. The outcome is what is important to us both, not necessarily the process or HOW it was done. Does that make sense?

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For those who are motivated to submit because you want to please your partner, how do you remain focused on the present and exactly what is asked of you and not focused on the outcome of your partner's pleasure?

Again, to reinterate, I don't necessarily focus on the process but DO focus most on the outcome and His pleasure. That's how He wants it.

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do you make assumptions about what you think will be pleasing to them?

Yes. These assumptions are based on how well I know Him and what will please Him. I've rarely ever been off-base

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What do you do when you do not live up to your standard of being pleasing, but your partner is satisfied with what you have done?

I discuss it with Him and tell Him I didn't live up to my standards. He tells me that's pretty much irrelevant as it's HIS standards that matter, not mine

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