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RE: When masters cry... - 8/11/2005 7:10:25 PM

dominmd

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Sorry to hear about being left like that. As a friend tends to tell me during those moments when I'm beating myself up (not literally) about being too emotional - feelings are proof that you're alive. If you don't feel, you're either dead or a sociopath.

Dearest, I was this type of person for 29 years and 9 months. I held all those emotions in. And in the death of a very close family member, those repressed emotions came spilling out like a flood. Now I am much better, and yes, I cry. Takes a strong man to do it, and an even stronger one to do it and admit it in front of others.

Listen QuietMaster, please take the time to grieve and show your feelings. I will not judge you. I can only say that I am sorry for you, but that it is a new beginning for you. One chapter closed and another has opened.

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RE: When masters cry... - 8/11/2005 7:48:55 PM

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i wish you well.

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RE: When masters cry... - 8/11/2005 11:32:01 PM

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There is no warning sign, here. No, flying stones to dodge.

I came. I watched. I participated.

I am a man that can feel emotion like any other. Just because I self identified as a dominant. Does not mean, that the seperation or loss of a partner can not hurt me. By "loss", I do not imply death. Simply, the act of losing one so close to ones heart.

I am a man, therefore I feel.

She who was my slave. Who has worn my collar, for the better part of a year. Has left me.

I do not seek to replace her, nor will I try. For I know in my heart, that she was very special. Eyes that made me smile. A presence, that warmed even the coldest rooms.

This is my good bye....

Yours in truth
Wolf

I know your pain, and know it's going to take some time to recover. I didn't use the word heal on purpose! I know, because I've been through the same thing; except I was the slave and the Mistrs took leave. People noticed how happy I was after I became Her slave, and after she left people noticed my sadness, and have asked about it? I'm sure that we are not the only two members here who have suffered the same type of loss! I hope you have better luck than I have had! At any rate, we couldn't belong to a finer group of people than this one! I would advise you to share your feelings with others here; privately if need be--but share. Forgive me if I sound like a shrink, I wish you all the best! Truly, Mike

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RE: When masters cry... - 8/12/2005 5:32:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: CalliopePurple

Sorry to hear about being left like that. As a friend tends to tell me during those moments when I'm beating myself up (not literally) about being too emotional - feelings are proof that you're alive. If you don't feel, you're either dead or a sociopath.

Dearest, I was this type of person for 29 years and 9 months. I held all those emotions in. And in the death of a very close family member, those repressed emotions came spilling out like a flood. Now I am much better, and yes, I cry. Takes a strong man to do it, and an even stronger one to do it and admit it in front of others.

Listen QuietMaster, please take the time to grieve and show your feelings. I will not judge you. I can only say that I am sorry for you, but that it is a new beginning for you. One chapter closed and another has opened.

I too understand this pain and I empathise with you. Funny you know, I was brought up with the old stiff upper lip where men don’t cry or show emotion unless it is to laugh. I cant say I ever cried after my 14th birthday until I went to ‘Nam. I learned to cry and show a few other emotions too, especially if I was holding one of my troopers as they died. Surprise, surprise when I read the Gor Books that a Gorean man will often cry if the occasion warrants it. There is no shame in showing emotions or crying/grieving. I just pity those who are still stuck in the “Real men don’t cry” mind set. I too shall not judge, if you cry, I offer my shoulder untill you no longer need it.. Why? Heh "He aint heavy, he's my Brother!"

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RE: When masters cry... - 8/12/2005 5:48:12 AM

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In the 23 years we were married I only ever saw my ex husband cry twice. Once when his best friend was killed in a hunting accident, and the other was when I told him I was leaving him. I suspect that last one was caused by the pain he was feeling in his wallet *sorry for the sarcasm, but the end of the marriage turned out to be quite nasty and all about the money*

I rarely cried when I was married. I used to, early on, but my emotions eventually got numbed and I turned in on myself and ceased to feel much of anything

After I left, the emotions returned, slowly at first and then when I allowed myself to feel it all the hurt and anger just came up inside and I remember I cried for hours. I was hurt later on by someone I thought loved me and I cried buckets over that - I think I got over it quicker that way than if I'd bottled it all up.

I have seen Master in tears because He is in so much pain sometimes

It upsets me to see Him cry, yet I love and respect Him all the more, because He is able to show that side of Himself in front of me.

QuietMaster4u I sincerely hope that your tears help you to heal from your loss.....it may not seem like it now, but life will get better for you.....

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RE: When masters cry... - 8/12/2005 8:40:08 AM

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my thoughts and well wishes are with you

i hate the saying it is better of have loved than never to have loved at all

it hurts like crazy when a love ends, but given time that pain subsides and you come to terms with things.

it is a grieving process and it will take time

take care

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RE: When masters cry... - 8/13/2005 3:35:13 PM

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