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Padriag -> RE: The knight in Shining Aromor (11/22/2007 11:08:17 PM)
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ORIGINAL: daddysblondie
Hmm...I tend to think of the idea of a knight in shining armor as a rescuer and while I do desire to give myself over and submit to a man, I have no want or need to "be rescued". In fact, I had a relationship end because he wanted to rescue me and it was the last thing I wanted.
I think there is a grain of truth to what the OP wrote. But I also firmly believe the above hit on one of the biggest drawbacks. There are those perrenial "damsels in distress" who look for a "knight" to rescue them and solve all their problems. In the modern age that usually translates into some version of paying off all their credit card debt, raising their 2.5 children with 1.5 fathers, clothing, feeding and housing them, while catering to their addiction (whether that be food, alcohol, drugs or QVC). Much more rarely is it rescuing someone who is already trying to lift themselves up and just could use a bit of help.
I hung up my spurs some years ago. I'll still help those whom I deem worthy, and that judgement is often based on how much they are already trying to help themselves.
As for the OPs points about being strong, capable, and a little dangerous... its been my observation that there are a great number of women who find that appealing. Its curious that the most popular picture of myself is one of me with my long hair a bit wild, wearing a duster, a large knife on my hip, standing in the woods looking a bit imperious... not one of me in a three piece suit or a nice sweater. Most women I've know want a man who makes them feel safe, secure and protected... and most of those women derived that from a man who was strong, capable, dominant and a little bit dangerous.
Take from that what you will.
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