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RE: domme/sub - 8/13/2005 2:11:12 AM

GentleLady

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I believe I was truly blessed by what he and I shared and as much as it hurts to let him go, I have absolutely no regrets of the time I spent with him.

That is the attitude I take as well LadyAngelika. I would much rather have had the love and closeness even though the relationship ends then have never experienced those times with the person. It sitll hurts and it still takes time to heal but the memories are cherished. You and tarnishedhalo have My sympathy and support.

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RE: domme/sub - 8/13/2005 6:39:42 AM

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Thank You, I was just looking for an email reply back and there wasn't one but it is okay.
Today I shall take down our pictures from 2 weeks ago,this would have been one of our weekends again but I WILL SURVIVE this.
I ate some wonderful carmel n fudge ice cream last night and I am going to clean out clutter in the house today.
Thanks again Ladies!!! I would really be lost w/out having been able to log in here

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RE: domme/sub - 8/13/2005 7:46:44 AM

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Good for you tarnishedhalo. I find cleaning very helpful when I'm getting over stuff.

For the record, cleaning a medium kitchen from the ceiling to that back corner in the corner cabient takes about 5 hours... On and 30 minutes to redo your manicure after!

- LA

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RE: domme/sub - 8/13/2005 10:57:05 AM

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Ladies I am saying my goodbye from this site as well.
My ex bitch made a profile on here the day after he dumped me and i had no idea he was here.
Thank you all for your support to me during this painful time in my life.
I guess he meant it when he said all of a sudden he only wanted casual play instead of a relationship. I kept hoping for a different outcome anything other than this pain.
I can't be on here right now.
I just can't take any more kicks in the gut,its too painful emotionally and my gut is churning again.
I don't want him reading my thoughts nor can I be active on a site where he is finding others to play with.
Thanks again.
Good Luck to y'all.

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RE: domme/sub - 8/13/2005 1:06:43 PM

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I changed my mind.I'm not going to keep running from different sites on the net b/c of him.
I found likeminded people here and I shall stay for the friendship and support that you Ladies have shown me.
Today shall be liberation day for me.
A lesson to be learned in trusting another.
Nor shall I allow it to ruin my life.
I shall become stronger and better from what I have learned.
I had a good cry,now I will continue to hold my head high and move foward with my journey called life.

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RE: domme/sub - 8/13/2005 1:26:59 PM

BlkTallFullfig

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ORIGINAL: tarnishedhalo777
I'm not going to keep running from different sites on the net b/c of him.
I found likeminded people here and I shall stay for the friendship and support that you Ladies have shown me.
Today shall be liberation day for me.
A lesson to be learned in trusting another.
Nor shall I allow it to ruin my life.
I shall become stronger and better from what I have learned.
I had a good cry,now I will continue to hold my head high and move foward with my journey called life.

This is a better idea than the Goodbye, I must run and hide.
You need to face your fears and take life one day at a time.
What has always helped me get over misplaced love/loyalty is understanding that we sometimes make wrong choices (frequently from lack of truthful information), and that is okay as humans are all fallible. We should also understand that making the right choices once information is available to help us do so is the mature and healthy thing to do.
Than Carry on with life. Wish you well, M

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RE: domme/sub - 8/13/2005 4:00:35 PM

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well i am a bit mad at myself for being taken in so easily but Karma has a way of balancing things out in the long run.
No I will not run,I will stand proud and continue w/ my learning.
Sometimes some of the most painful lessons are the best. You just have to rub the doo off of them to figure out what it is that you were too learn.

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RE: domme/sub - 8/13/2005 8:59:44 PM

sarbonn

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I would think it would be hardest on the person who has put the most stock into the relationship. I guess it would also have a lot to do with where that person is in his or her life.

When I first broke up with my first mistress, it was devastating for me. But then, it really didn't take a lot to depress me back then. I was somewhat reactive.

Today, it wouldn't be the same way. Sure, I would be saddened by the loss of a great relationship if I was to lose one (okay, gotta get in one first...hehe), but I don't think it would come anywhere near the devastation of that very first time.

Sometimes, we let things bother us a lot more than they should, almost as if we have a need for the drama or emotions of loss. Not every relationship works out, but that doesn't mean that the next one won't.

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RE: domme/sub - 8/14/2005 12:34:00 AM

saret

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ORIGINAL: tarnishedhalo777

I changed my mind.I'm not going to keep running from different sites on the net b/c of him.
I found likeminded people here and I shall stay for the friendship and support that you Ladies have shown me.
Today shall be liberation day for me.
A lesson to be learned in trusting another.
Nor shall I allow it to ruin my life.
I shall become stronger and better from what I have learned.
I had a good cry,now I will continue to hold my head high and move foward with my journey called life.

Bravo!! I'm glad to hear that. :)

Best of luck, I hope life treats you well from now on.

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RE: domme/sub - 8/14/2005 1:33:07 AM

brightspot

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I am Glad you decided to stay here, learn and grow
in your Own best interest.

Move from today forward and if you need some support
about this current issue and you don't want him reading
your thoughts and feelings. You can mail me on the other side.

Be Well.....

*Brightspot

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RE: domme/sub - 8/14/2005 4:20:48 AM

TiNeedsHouseboy

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
We ended things in such a way that after some time has passed, we will be able to to have a friendship.

I'm soooo sorry to hear about the breakup. It's good that you'll be able to remain friends.

I have one of those sorts of relationships.... now into its 34th year as of this month. (Yikes!) We still have instant chemistry together. We simply can't be under the same roof for reasons that are way too complex to try to explain here. (That reminds me: Though you've broken up, there's still the possibility he'll try to resurrect the relationship. Don't think I didn't get recent hints/offers/requests to be my houseboy.)

We'll remain friends until we die. Hopefully, it will be the same way for you.

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
And of course we count on our girlfriends for the wine and chocolate afterwards!!

Apparently it's a good thing I'm too far to provide the consolation food. I don't imbibe and I tire of chocolate after a piece or two.

Ya know what would do it for me if I needed a stuff-my-face-consolable? Have you tried that new "lower fat" (LMAO... I'm waiting for it to turn up with fake fat levels -- like on that Seinfeld episode with the frozen yogurt) Haagen-Dazs flavor, Cherry Fudge Truffle? THAT speaks to me!

Maybe we could compromise? You could cry into the fudge layers, while I'll lay waste to the ice cream?!? (More like the ice cream will lay waste to my waist.)

~ Ti ~

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RE: domme/sub - 8/14/2005 5:16:11 AM

tarnishedhalo777

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We told each other from day 1 neither of use could deal w/ another heartache.I told him,I'm not that strong.
I fully believed and gave all of myself to him.I went place where I HAD NEVER GONE BEFORE.
He even left me once and came back again,full of sorrow and how now he was so sure he wanted me in his life.I totally fell in love w/ him.
He was my first sub!!
now oh well,I am damn near destroyed but I will rebuild my resevoir of strentgth back up.

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RE: domme/sub - 8/14/2005 5:18:01 AM

tarnishedhalo777

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Thanks.I think I will do that but right about now,I dont care what he thinks,lol.

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RE: domme/sub - 8/14/2005 5:23:00 AM

tarnishedhalo777

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I don't think after our fight last night there will be resurrection of anything. too many things have been said,by him to justify his running around/lies and by me in my pain. tryng to hurt him back.It's OVER and thats that.
I think the ice cream was ben n jerrys,lol.
I dont drink either,but chocolate is so yummy but then i get a tummy ache.
now if I could just figure out how y'all do the lil boxes w/ the quotes,lol.
THANKS BUNCHES LADIES
someone sent me a message through a friend once once,saying y'all were a great bunch here,I should come join.they were right.

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RE: domme/sub - 8/14/2005 6:21:37 AM

LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: TiNeedsHouseboy

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika
And of course we count on our girlfriends for the wine and chocolate afterwards!!

Apparently it's a good thing I'm too far to provide the consolation food. I don't imbibe and I tire of chocolate after a piece or two.

Ya know what would do it for me if I needed a stuff-my-face-consolable? Have you tried that new "lower fat" (LMAO... I'm waiting for it to turn up with fake fat levels -- like on that Seinfeld episode with the frozen yogurt) Haagen-Dazs flavor, Cherry Fudge Truffle? THAT speaks to me!

Maybe we could compromise? You could cry into the fudge layers, while I'll lay waste to the ice cream?!? (More like the ice cream will lay waste to my waist.)

~ Ti ~

Thanks Ti. I actually am a purist when it comes to chocolate. Pure, rich and dark. And I don't need much... I'm a nibbler. ;)

What I'm actually happy about though with this break up is that I've learned over the last year not to be an emotional eater and I'm finding it's working quite well for me. I've turned into an emotional cyclist!!! Much better for the waist line!

- LA

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RE: domme/sub - 8/14/2005 7:14:06 PM

GentleLady

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ORIGINAL: tarnishedhalo777

I changed my mind.I'm not going to keep running from different sites on the net b/c of him.
I found likeminded people here and I shall stay for the friendship and support that you Ladies have shown me.
Today shall be liberation day for me.
A lesson to be learned in trusting another.
Nor shall I allow it to ruin my life.
I shall become stronger and better from what I have learned.
I had a good cry,now I will continue to hold my head high and move foward with my journey called life.

Good for You tarnishedhalo. You are taking control of the pain and not letting it run your life which is a step in the right direction. I know how hard it is to be in the same place as the person who has left your life but once you start avoiding those places it never seems to end...and you never get the chance to face the hurt and walk through it.

Gentle Lady

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RE: domme/sub - 8/14/2005 7:19:39 PM

GentleLady

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He was my first sub!!

*soft laughter* I think the first submissive is a lot like one's first lover....he or she is special and one always stays just a little bit in love with them

Gentle Lady

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RE: domme/sub - 8/14/2005 7:24:44 PM

GentleLady

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now if I could just figure out how y'all do the lil boxes w/ the quotes,lol.

There are two ways. If you highlight the section of text you want to quote then you can hit the reply button on the top right of the post and it will quote that bit. If you want to quote the whole thing then just hit the quote button.

If you want to quote one bit and then reply and quote another bit and reply then you can type in {quote}...copy and paste the bit you want to quote...{/quote} (but use the square brackets). Hope that helps some.

Gentle Lady

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RE: domme/sub - 8/14/2005 10:35:41 PM

saret

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now if I could just figure out how y'all do the lil boxes w/ the quotes,lol.

Easy. You hit the quote button!

Look to the right of FONT SIZE and you'll see a button that says QUOTE ORIGNIAL. Punch it, and it will paste the entire post that you are replying to.

[ quote ] at the beginning and [ /quote ] at the end is what makes it show up in a box. (take out the spaces between [ ] and quote)

To edit it, make sure there is [ quote ] at the beginning and [ /quote ] at the end of what you want in boxes.

Example.
[ quote ] blah blah stuff [ /quote ]

Your reply

[ quote ] blah blah more stuff [ /quote ]

another reply

quote:

take out the spaces between [ ] and quote, and it shows up in a box - see?

It also works to make text diferent colors, different sizes, bold, etc. Whee.

If you want play with it, to see what does what, there's a whole area for testing text on collarchat.

-S-

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RE: domme/sub - 8/14/2005 10:39:56 PM

saret

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ORIGINAL: tarnishedhalo777

I don't think after our fight last night there will be resurrection of anything. too many things have been said,by him to justify his running around/lies and by me in my pain. tryng to hurt him back.It's OVER and thats that.

Its hard, its always hard to love until you think you can't feel anymore and then get hit by a nuclear bomb.
.big hugs.

You sound like you've sure got your head on straight about the whole thing, even in the middle of emotional hell. It makes me think you'll be ok no matter what. :)

cherry garcia and empathy,
-S-

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