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BeingChewsie -> RE: To all Dominants (11/24/2007 5:52:03 PM)
I'm with Michael on this one. If all three are in agreement(especially the dominants) I don't see the issue. Not saying there wouldn't things that come up like they do in any poly type relationship but those things can be worked out.

RRafe -> RE: To all Dominants (11/24/2007 7:49:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael quote: ORIGINAL: RRafe quote: ORIGINAL: southernhart What are Your opinons and feelings about having a sub/slave/property that already has a Master/Mistress and wants to be with You too. serving two Dominants, but at different times and different places. I need clear title to take d/s seriously. Why? My only collared submissive was married and I clearly did NOT have title to her, but sitting with her husband watching TV with her at my feet, that d/s was as real as any I have had with people who lived with me. My current partner is again married (gee, could it be a pattern?) and the control I have over her and her depth of submission to me is deeper than any I have felt and deeper than many other relationships of friends and aquaitences (although Merc and Beth are amazing!). So again, why? I'm selfish.

SimplyMichael -> RE: To all Dominants (11/24/2007 8:23:48 PM)
RRafe, Two distinct ideas under discussion, what YOU want/do, and what CAN be done. In rereading your post, you clearly stated that as your opinion and but I misread it as a universal statement Irish Mist quote: I know that there are those who DO serve more than one successfully ( a Dom/Domme household ) and yet, I still have a hard time understanding serving two who are not in some way linked with each other. Healthy people set boundaries, even the boundary they choose is zero. So, just as a submissive might decide that doing X is a limit, she might find a part time dominant who doesn't mind that X is anal because that is reserved for some other dominant. Or it could be her limits are the same and it is time that delineates the two relationships. If we can grant that a submissive can set limits for a monogamous relationship then why can't those be used to delineate a poly/multiple dom setup?

InkedMaster -> RE: To all Dominants (11/24/2007 8:30:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: southernhart No Poly, just a sub who has a Master and wants another one. The sub considers D/s all play and is not really committed to anyonbe. Then it doesn't matter what I think, as I don't view my situation as you do yours. But let me see if I understand this...you have a Master but, you are not committed to Him?...you want a second Master that you don't want to be committed to either?...so basicly you want more than one Partner to play with?...I think what I'm having difficulty with are the labels you're using, as my definitions are different from yours. If your situation works for you and Those involved, then by all means get a second or a third or whatever. Just make sure everyone is on the same page and upfront and knows exactly what it is you want and do not want from each Person.

RRafe -> RE: To all Dominants (11/24/2007 8:38:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael RRafe, Two distinct ideas under discussion, what YOU want/do, and what CAN be done. In rereading your post, you clearly stated that as your opinion and but I misread it as a universal statement Irish Mist quote: I know that there are those who DO serve more than one successfully ( a Dom/Domme household ) and yet, I still have a hard time understanding serving two who are not in some way linked with each other. Healthy people set boundaries, even the boundary they choose is zero. So, just as a submissive might decide that doing X is a limit, she might find a part time dominant who doesn't mind that X is anal because that is reserved for some other dominant. Or it could be her limits are the same and it is time that delineates the two relationships. If we can grant that a submissive can set limits for a monogamous relationship then why can't those be used to delineate a poly/multiple dom setup? She asked for opinions on what we would do . I answered honestly. I don't poach other people's subs, or trespass on thier property. Because I would not desire that to be done to mine.

bipolarber -> RE: To all Dominants (11/24/2007 8:40:56 PM)
Michael, I side with you on this one. I just have bad reactions to others who tell me what my life "should be." There seems to be a creeping theme to a lot of the posts lately that there's only "one true way" of living D/s or BDSM. Total rubbish, of course. To the OP: so long as you are being honest with everyone involved, and they are okay with "non-exclusive" relationships, then everything is hunky dory. Don't let a bunch of "fantasy planet" types berate you into living a life by their limited standards.

southernhart -> RE: To all Dominants (11/24/2007 8:45:48 PM)
No one was asked to judge. They were just asked for their opinions and feelings about their own lives.

RRafe -> RE: To all Dominants (11/24/2007 8:50:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: southernhart No one was asked to judge. They were just asked for their opinions and feelings about their own lives. Exactly,and the only ones judging currently are those who felt that people with diferent ideas than themselves were pointing fingers at them. You over yourselves-the world isn't all about you.. She asked for opinions, not sychophants.

Lancealittle -> RE: To all Dominants (11/24/2007 9:55:39 PM)
If it's play it's play, there's no commitment. I've "played" with a few submissives, we were on during the scene and off after. You don't have a "dom" though, you have a guy who you let be your Dom when you play, there is a difference.

laurell3 -> RE: To all Dominants (11/24/2007 10:10:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RRafe quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael RRafe, Two distinct ideas under discussion, what YOU want/do, and what CAN be done. In rereading your post, you clearly stated that as your opinion and but I misread it as a universal statement Irish Mist quote: I know that there are those who DO serve more than one successfully ( a Dom/Domme household ) and yet, I still have a hard time understanding serving two who are not in some way linked with each other. Healthy people set boundaries, even the boundary they choose is zero. So, just as a submissive might decide that doing X is a limit, she might find a part time dominant who doesn't mind that X is anal because that is reserved for some other dominant. Or it could be her limits are the same and it is time that delineates the two relationships. If we can grant that a submissive can set limits for a monogamous relationship then why can't those be used to delineate a poly/multiple dom setup? She asked for opinions on what we would do . I answered honestly. I don't poach other people's subs, or trespass on thier property. Because I would not desire that to be done to mine. I'm getting the impression she is more of a bottom than a sub per se. Your preference is your preference of course. OP: I think as long as you are honest and at least discuss safe sex, if not all practice it, it could work. I think you have to be honest with yourself, however, that at some point one of the men is quite likely to suffer by comparison if you form an attachment with them.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: To all Dominants (11/24/2007 10:23:26 PM)
I'd have to 1) know the other Dom/Master well and 2) have a damned good reason to share. But, I already do this. My girl has a sexual Dominant. I am her Master. We share and it works, mostly because she and I aren't sexual partners. I also share her with her husband. It all works for us. Master Fire

Vanatru -> RE: To all Dominants (11/25/2007 5:41:12 AM)
ya'll are even making a judgement that she's talking about herself, when she COULD be just trying to understand why someone would involve themselves in that kind of scenario.

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: To all Dominants (11/25/2007 7:47:36 AM)
As long as everyine knows and understands the situation, I could do it. I see no valid reason why I couldn't.

lronitulstahp -> RE: To all Dominants (11/25/2007 8:45:21 AM)
[:@] Soo jealous...hard just finding ONE Dom, and now have to think about people having mulitples....sheesh!

Level -> RE: To all Dominants (11/25/2007 8:50:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: southernhart What are Your opinons and feelings about having a sub/slave/property that already has a Master/Mistress and wants to be with You too. serving two Dominants, but at different times and different places. Not going to happen.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: To all Dominants (11/25/2007 2:03:56 PM)
A) Always remember that if you can imagine it, then someone is doing it and very happy about it. B) Yes, this happens and quite well. http://www.collarchat.com/m_1022541/mpage_1/key_two%252Cdoms/tm.htm#1023431 a sub with two doms http://www.collarchat.com/m_746009/mpage_1/key_two%252Cmasters/tm.htm#746254 serving two masters http://www.collarchat.com/m_486285/mpage_1/key_two%252Cmasters/tm.htm#486926 being owned by more than one master http://www.collarchat.com/tm.asp?m=362397&mpage=1&key=owned%2Ccouple&#362403 can slaves have two masters http://www.collarchat.com/m_67515/mpage_1/key_two%252Cmasters/tm.htm#67515 Serving Multiple Masters http://www.collarchat.com/m_1175519/mpage_1/key_two%252Cdoms/tm.htm#1175941 double d's

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