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Am I "serving" my boy when I bring him a water bottle after a scene? Or is that just Good Domme Aftercare?

Both....

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ORIGINAL: cloudboy


Here is a great description of phone sex.

"it’s emotionally evasive, vaguely ridiculous —and the orgasms aren't that great, either."

"For a true depiction of phone sex, I nominate the Jennifer Jason Leigh scenes in "Short Cuts." She played a phone sex operator who worked out of her house, surrounded by kids, a sullen husband, and an untidy living room. Bored, she'd sit and file her nails or snap her fingers at her kids while she talked of placing some large instrument in the anus of her bound and gagged client. That seems to me what phone sex is really about."

Must say, that when I think of phone sex, I also think of SHORT CUTS, by Robert Altman.

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I can't speak of it from experience, but when I saw the subject, I googled "short cuts" and "phone sex operator" to find the link which resonated with me.

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ORIGINAL: AbsitInvidia
When I was a Pro Domme (waaaay back when about two weeks ago LOL) I always used to joke that it in no way conflicted with my submissive nature because I wasn't actually dominating anyone.  I was putting on the act of dominating but I was really just there playing a part in my client's fantasy.  So really the term "Pro Dom/me" should be changed to "Service Top" - even though that doesn't sound as glamourous.

Just wanted to get some more opinions on that.  Are there any pros out there who demand tribute...and then do whatever you feel like doing?  Make a corporal punishment guy kiss your feet for an hour or have a foot fetishist stay still and be your shibari model?  I don't know if that really would bring any repeat business...but maybe there's a middle ground where the Pro is still in control of everything...just sort of focusing it around the client's fantasies?

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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64
like I said this topic confuzzles me anymore if you pay for it and you get a rise out of it. Morally it could be seen as rent a ho
the only case where for sure i could see it not that way if A domme was being payed to teach or train someone in the art of ds or bdsm then i can see that for sure 100 percent that it would not be that way

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Most Pros that I know...and certainly all of the ones who have a good business...are smart business women. They know the value of customer service and satisfaction. This is one of the niches that Pros fulfill in our society...they provide BDSM fantasy fulfillment. I don't know of any who accept money and do a session without discussing the nature of the session with the person. Some clients don't want any structure, they just kinda want a "theme". Some clients want one specific thing. Some clients have a list. Those that get these things fulfilled often come back.

Another thing that I've notices with Pros...a great deal of them ARE submissive in their own relationships. Not all, mind you. One lady that I know has been in business for 15 years. She rarely does sessions of her own now; she has girls that work under her. I say 'girls' specifically since she almost always finds women who are submissive who want to earn extra money. She teaches them to take on the role and be able to use the equipment safely. On occassion, she does have another Dominant work for her, so it's not the rule.

Master Fire

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: cloudboy


Here is a great description of phone sex.

"it’s emotionally evasive, vaguely ridiculous —and the orgasms aren't that great, either."

"For a true depiction of phone sex, I nominate the Jennifer Jason Leigh scenes in "Short Cuts." She played a phone sex operator who worked out of her house, surrounded by kids, a sullen husband, and an untidy living room. Bored, she'd sit and file her nails or snap her fingers at her kids while she talked of placing some large instrument in the anus of her bound and gagged client. That seems to me what phone sex is really about."

Must say, that when I think of phone sex, I also think of SHORT CUTS, by Robert Altman.

Like many things, those that cannot envision making something like phonesex erotic have very limited imaginations and are not very stimulating to be with, either.  That's ok - there are many men who do get it and know how to make it work.  It's no way a replacement for real life bdsm - of course, nothing is - but it can be a tasty little bit on the side.

Once again, I'll chalk it up to, "You probably aren't doing it right, or don't know how to do it."

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The other night I had a little bit of phone sex with a man who contacted me via my site.  I had him dress in a red thong and red bra underneath normal street clothes and told him to call me from the mall on his cell phone.  I was already pleausring myself to the sound of his trembling breathing as I made him go into the bathroom and insert a large plug in his ass.  We had some bad reception challenges, but as soon as he got back outside, I realized the phone connection was not bad -- it was that he was reduced to barely a whisper because he was so nervous and turned on.  He had a plug harness on to keep the plug on place, and the bra straps were distracting him like mad, but he still made it into the Victoria's Secret.  When a woman approached to help him, I told him to give her the cell phone. She and I had a conversation while she listened mostly, then kind of laughed, looking at him, slowly, up and down, as if she knew exactly what he was wearing.  Then she used her finger to instruct him to follow her, where she pulled a cami off a hanger and handed it to him, then went for the next item, talking to me, looking at him.  He was mortified and so turned on during the whole thing; but what was better was having him go home, put the lingerie on, and send me a digital picture of him in it in order to earn the right to cum.   He said this was better than any real life session he had EVER had because it was so intense.  For me, I get off on things like change in tone of voice, shaking that I can hear over the phone line, whispering, pleading, and the sound of a man gasping when he is in pain. 

Oh, in this case, it also helped that I know the girl at the VS I sent him to. Having connections is a good thing!

Akasha

Akasha