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southernhart -> i wish i knew (11/24/2007 7:04:51 PM)
how to have a collaring ceremony nd a weeding together without the vanilla guests knowing. i 'm just dreaming aren't i?

adoracat -> RE: i wish i knew (11/24/2007 8:16:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: southernhart how to have a collaring ceremony nd a weeding together without the vanilla guests knowing. i 'm just dreaming aren't i? why not? write your own words, and exchange rings and a collar..."this is to show the world that you are mine forever". fingers swell up sometimes rings get lost but that locking collar stays on always. kitten, who isnt wearing her wedding ring but IS wearing her collar.

ownedgirlie -> RE: i wish i knew (11/24/2007 8:22:04 PM)
"With this ring, I thee wed....etc." "I place this on you (as he places your collar on you) as a symbol of our unique bond, special only to us. May we always know what it represents to us and live according to our commitment." Or something like that. You can do anything you want - be creative!

southernhart -> RE: i wish i knew (11/24/2007 8:48:04 PM)
WOW! Thanks so very much. i love that! Thanks to both of you.

beltainefaerie -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 12:26:14 AM)
If you wanted it to be the same day and occasion, but not in front of the vanilla folks, you could do the collaring portion between the wedding and the reception. There is also usually a little time that the wedding couple has (getting ready for pictures, taking them and whatnot), before they are expected to arrive at the reception. If your bridal party doesn't include any vanilla folk, they could witness that as well. You could have a private collaring right after your wedding and before the pictures, with words meaningful to both of you. Congratulations on your special day.

Lancealittle -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 1:00:40 AM)
When he takes your garter off he could put a set of leg shackles on.... ;)

akahadaka -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 1:22:18 AM)
My Master and I were talking about this, too. And for us the best option is to set the collar ceremony at night, after the vanilla wedding ceremony, only He and I or with some close and open-minded friends. This way we can have a very special and intimate ceremony even the same day of the legal wedding.

southernhart -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 1:34:56 AM)
These are all wonderful ideas. Thanks so much. i am really enjoying reading eery ones wonderful ideas and good wishes.

wolfsprincess -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 1:35:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: southernhart how to have a collaring ceremony nd a weeding together without the vanilla guests knowing. i 'm just dreaming aren't i? W/we wrote O/our own words and incorporated it into the ceremony right before the vows. Symbolically, He presented me with a rose - i presented Him with a vase of water. Everyone thought it was beautiful. If they only knew what it meant to Master and myself.

AquaticSub -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 9:19:16 AM)
~Fast Reply~ For me, I don't think I could actually go through having my collaring be in front of a bunch of people who don't actually know what is going on. I don't mind slipping the word "obey" into my vows and not his, but as I know there would be people there very uncomfortable with witnessing a d/s ceremony it would feel very deceptive to me to sneak the collaring in. I'd much rather wait until after the wedding and have a smaller ceremony with a group of like-minded and accepting friends.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 2:20:39 PM)
My ornery self says who cares? You put a collar on and then you put the ring on, recite your own vows and there you have it. Marraiages have often been simply changes of ownership of women from fathers to husbands anyway. It's your life, they are there to celebrate the occasion in YOUR life.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 2:23:57 PM)
i was thinking of doing that however i want to wear my collar my fiance is giving me (you know something old, new, borrowed and blue) as something new since the old will be the engagement/wedding ring. still working on borrowed and blue part.

imaginaryspork -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 2:30:33 PM)
blue shoes are always fun

SimplyMichael -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 3:57:35 PM)
The way it was once done in days long past by the ancient bdsm houses in Europe is almost forgotten but ones such as myself still cling to half forgotten ways... The proud father walks the bride down the walkway, her path covered with the petals of roses stripped from their slender stems. As he reaches the steps leading to the alter, he pauses and unlocks and removes his collar and uses one of the now stripped rose stems to lift her hair and expose her now naked and uncollared neck. His ownership and control of his daughter now symbolicly broken, she is free to stay or ascend the steps to her new owner. Since a collar reprsents a contract between mortal beings rather than a higher being, she kneels on the last step and offers her naked neck for his collar. He then ties her arms behind her back with the longest of the rose stems, the small bits of blood representing her willingness to surrender to his will and needs. Bound to him by mortal vows, she then steps up before her god and completes the marriage in whatever faith her owner belongs to. Or something like that...

sexyone4you -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 4:14:19 PM)
Wow, that's a great idea!

jeffner -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 4:30:08 PM)
As silly as it may sound, a collar doesn't have to be a collar- what ever is special to you and Him is what counts. I wear my collar every day- my wedding ring.

southernhart -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 6:19:10 PM)
WOW! Jeffner. i never thought about that. That's beautiful

mhawk -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 7:48:28 PM)
well if you are in a situation to where there are going to be "vanilla" people at the wedding something that may make a difference to where everyone would understand is possibly this. in old Celtic society there is an adornment called a "torc",some even wear them today,what it is is this.it is an ornate neck peice that goes around the neck(does not secure like a collar but can "pass" for one).what it represented is/was this,it is as mentioned a neck peice of sorts that represents a persons place or staus in life.also for those in the ceremony that would not understnad a colar a torc can be a suitable thing to use. just an idea.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 8:58:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: imaginaryspork blue shoes are always fun or blue bridal lingerie weg

southernhart -> RE: i wish i knew (11/25/2007 10:14:46 PM)
Great idea mhawk!

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