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sexyone4you -> A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/24/2007 11:24:36 PM)
I apologize in advance to anyone this may offend, but I feel I must get something off my ample chest. I have chatted with other slaves & subs who have similar experiences, so I know I am not alone, but lately the types of responses I get to my profile vary from friendly & polite to raunchy & disrespectful. It's the latter that I devote this rant to. I consider myself a slave. Do not confuse this with being a doormat. I am kind and respectful in my responses to anyone who emails me - even assholes who like to start out with things like, "On your knees, bitch." I think men are confused that I am on here just to get laid. While there are plenty of sexual things I enjoy in the BDSM lifestyle, I can get laid anywhere. DO NOT be confused that since I am not a barbie doll that I am sex-deprived. Emailing me with things like, "Come visit me so I can cover you with my cum" isn't a turn-on. I just think you are tired of jacking off to internet porn & somehow stumbled upon my profile & thought I would be a good choice for whatever reason. While I have chatted with plenty of men from here who are wonderful, respectful, strict, and dirty as hell, lately the flakes have been crawling from under their rocks to share their shallow lives with me. Thank you, but I am not interested. Again, sorry for the rant.

Estring -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/24/2007 11:32:23 PM)
No need to apologize, but I doubt that the men your rant is about read the message boards. Better to just block them and forget about them.

Gwynvyd -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/24/2007 11:34:15 PM)
Oh hun.. every holiday season it is the same.. the slime oozes out from under thier respective rocks.. and slimes thier way up onto every ones profiles. Sad really. They hate being alone durring this time, and are so lacking in social skills that they can not be bothered with typing out even the most rudementiary letter of introduction. It is not just you... they do it to all of us... sighs Just iggy and move on. You will see many more ranting posts like this in the comming month or so. ( there has been many already from both sides ) When folks realize there are some out there interested in more then hot monkey sex they might chillax a bit about all of the " on your knees bitch " and " You'd look purdy in my cum " bs. [sm=ugh.gif] Good luck! Gwyn

sexyone4you -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/24/2007 11:51:15 PM)
I haven't been on the boards much in the previous months. I am just now "coming back." I didn't really think about the holidays & the effects on the socially inept, but it's a great point. Thank you!

Gwynvyd -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 12:27:53 AM)
Happens every year like clock work.. you just gotta ride the wave out.. it settles down around March... LOL The Iggy button is your friend. In forums it is Block. ( found that out today whoo hoo ) Dont drop to thier level.. and you owe no one an excuse if they are overtly rude. If they dont trip your trigger then of course a nice sorry, but I am not interested goes a long way to making the community a better place. ( as you already do ) The Trolls for the most part go back to sleep with the Spring thaw. Good luck! Gwyn

mydestiny2043 -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 12:40:45 AM)
I don't consider myself a slave but I am respectful in my responses to those that deserve it.The others just don't deserve me wasting my breath with any type of response at all.It happens to us all whether you're looking or not.Unfortunantly there are always going to be ignorant people,we on the other hand have a choice not to stoop to that level.I hear what you're saying though it does get old[sm=smile.gif].

wolfsprincess -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 12:41:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyone4you I apologize in advance to anyone this may offend, but I feel I must get something off my ample chest. I have chatted with other slaves & subs who have similar experiences, so I know I am not alone, but lately the types of responses I get to my profile vary from friendly & polite to raunchy & disrespectful. It's the latter that I devote this rant to. I consider myself a slave. Do not confuse this with being a doormat. I am kind and respectful in my responses to anyone who emails me - even assholes who like to start out with things like, "On your knees, bitch." I think men are confused that I am on here just to get laid. While there are plenty of sexual things I enjoy in the BDSM lifestyle, I can get laid anywhere. DO NOT be confused that since I am not a barbie doll that I am sex-deprived. Emailing me with things like, "Come visit me so I can cover you with my cum" isn't a turn-on. I just think you are tired of jacking off to internet porn & somehow stumbled upon my profile & thought I would be a good choice for whatever reason. While I have chatted with plenty of men from here who are wonderful, respectful, strict, and dirty as hell, lately the flakes have been crawling from under their rocks to share their shallow lives with me. Thank you, but I am not interested. Again, sorry for the rant. i guess it must go both ways. my Master and myself as well have written often to slaves who He/i find interesting because of their profile and get back either a "nasty" response or no response at all - not even a "go away - not interested". These emails are respectful - sometimes written only to wish one good luck in her search - but not so much as a "return to sender". i think Master is to the point of giving up on CM. princess "...slave isn't just a word - it's who and what i am ... walking forever in His light and seeking shelter in His shadow" http://absoluteslavery.com http://polypersonalsonline.com

Maya2001 -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 12:42:22 AM)
Instead of ranting on the forum, because as mentioned by Estring they likely are not visiting the message boards to learn, Instead I attempt to politely and respectfully explain to them why I am rejecting them so that hopefully the next sub they write to they will use more respect. Actually I just receive a similiar message and this is what I wrote to him If I had been searching at this time and read the above I would have simply ignored your email because it lacks respect, the only time a Dom has the right to call me a slut is once I commit to them, since I then become his property, not before, until that point we are equals. My intent is not to be rude just to provide you with advice so as not to make similiar mistakes in the future. I wish you well in your journey and be well sub maya

eyesopened -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 3:35:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Gwynvyd Oh hun.. every holiday season it is the same.. the slime oozes out from under thier respective rocks.. and slimes thier way up onto every ones profiles. Sad really. They hate being alone durring this time, and are so lacking in social skills that they can not be bothered with typing out even the most rudementiary letter of introduction. It is not just you... they do it to all of us... sighs Just iggy and move on. You will see many more ranting posts like this in the comming month or so. ( there has been many already from both sides ) When folks realize there are some out there interested in more then hot monkey sex they might chillax a bit about all of the " on your knees bitch " and " You'd look purdy in my cum " bs. [sm=ugh.gif] Good luck! Gwyn You would never get angry with a mentally retarded person for saying something inappropriate. Just consider that there are people who are spiritually retarded as well. All you can do is bless them and move on. Seriously, they aren't directing their comments to YOU no matter how flattering in a negative kind of way that might seem. There IS a real condition called "Seasonal Depression" and it is a real illness. Just don't allow it to be contageous.

ExSteelAgain -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 3:56:59 AM)
Sometimes women getting into BDSM are actually flattered by the amount of hard core offers they get and love to talk about it. I'm not saying you are such a woman, but anyone with a name, sexyone4u, is going to attract those looking for quick sex especially with a profile that says, "I am 1/2 pain slut, 1/2 cum slut, and 100% nympho."

xAdamx -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 4:19:42 AM)
My first thought was...why the need to apologise, you have no need to apologise for the basic right of expressing a truism. As a male l am often found wandering the corridors of CM shaking my head in sheer disbelief at the crass, stupid, moronic things my gender say or do...Their are Doms and their what I call Dims on here. Do what l suspect others, do or as my subby sitting across the table from me does, smile inwardly as you mentally say...have a great day fuckwit and then iggy their ass

windchymes -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 5:06:38 AM)
I never thought of it as a seasonal thing before, but I guess it makes sense. People take time off work around the holidays, so they have more free time on their hands. Some people have a lot of vacation time accrued by the end of the year, and some employers have a "use it or lose it" policy so they're home with free time, too.

Maya2001 -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 5:19:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes I never thought of it as a seasonal thing before, but I guess it makes sense. People take time off work around the holidays, so they have more free time on their hands. Some people have a lot of vacation time accrued by the end of the year, and some employers have a "use it or lose it" policy so they're home with free time, too. And women suffer from PMS as well, which is just as real, but it does not give them the right or an excuse for rudeness, so why condone or excuse for males????

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 5:41:27 AM)
You are not alone, because other women (switches and subs and Dommes) recieve countless vulgar emails. What's funny as hell, is that I actually have a few female friends from this site who share some of the GEMS of emails with me. Including user (looser) profiles of who's behind them. If people were more aware that other people exchange this Aweful emails for personal laughs and entertainment, do you think they'd be less prone to writting such rude ass emails. Personally, I think these emails are the works of people with little understanding and/or experience of the lifestyle. However, on rare occasion I've written a Dirty Nasty email in response to a profile but only because clearly were looking for such emails. LOL... I generally don't take writting such emails very seriously either. What I love are the Hit and Run Nasty emails that happen every so often. Where the senders account no longer exists with some one insulting one liner. You can either let rude emails upset you, or you can find humor it. I do think the closer Cherry Mucking Fistmas time gets more people are online acting like idiots.

missturbation -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 5:51:53 AM)
I get these kind of mails every day, it doesn't go up or down with the seasons. It got to a point with me where i don't really even register them, as soon as the on your knees bitch etc comes into play i delete them. No point in getting wound up, annoyed or upset about them, its a few words in my box is all. My mail box that is [:D]

ELUSIVE1 -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 6:06:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain Sometimes women getting into BDSM are actually flattered by the amount of hard core offers they get and love to talk about it. I'm not saying you are such a woman, but anyone with a name, sexyone4u, is going to attract those looking for quick sex especially with a profile that says, "I am 1/2 pain slut, 1/2 cum slut, and 100% nympho." I noticed that on the profile too...almost sounds like a quick hook-up invite....I do sympathize though--my 'blocked' list is growing daily

Smythe -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 6:07:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation I get these kind of mails every day, it doesn't go up or down with the seasons. It got to a point with me where i don't really even register them, as soon as the on your knees bitch etc comes into play i delete them. No point in getting wound up, annoyed or upset about them, its a few words in my box is all. My mail box that is [:D] I agree and I think it every time someone starts a thread like this. No one is wasting ink paper or postage. you don't have to read it. you have a delete button. It doesn't reflect on you. Smythe

chellekitty -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 6:45:11 AM)
woohoooo...i don't get those kinds of emails anymore...the troll-b-gone is finally working!!!

Littlepita -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 6:54:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain Sometimes women getting into BDSM are actually flattered by the amount of hard core offers they get and love to talk about it. I'm not saying you are such a woman, but anyone with a name, sexyone4u, is going to attract those looking for quick sex especially with a profile that says, "I am 1/2 pain slut, 1/2 cum slut, and 100% nympho." I agree. I think you need to rework your profile and put what you really want to convey, instead of fueling the desire to write to you from those you don't want.

LadyLynx -> RE: A Rant - Sorry In Advance (11/25/2007 7:46:05 AM)
OP, maybe you don't act rude when your on your monthly, but some women have a hard time controlling their rudeness. (I know I do. I don't want to snap at people, so it takes that extra effort.) Also, yeah it sounds like your profile needs re-working. And a general comment: there are guys who just write to anybody looking for ethier wank fodder or to get laid.

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