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MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: A question about Mistresses (11/25/2007 3:28:19 PM)
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ORIGINAL: sawsan
Hi everybody,
I have been looking for a Mistress to enslave me for so long that I started to doubt that Mistresses do it for any pleasure. They might be doing it only for money.
Is there Mistress who dominates slaves only for pleasure or fun ? Or is it all about money ?
Subs who have realistic expectations about how to establish and maintain a BDSM relationship have a hard time finding a lifestyle domme for such a relationship because there's just not a lot of dommes out there. These are the subs that educate themselves, pursue careers, are well-rounded, have friends in and out of the lifestyle, and have something to offer in a potential relationship, because they know it's not all about them and their kinks. They understand that relationships take work on both their parts, are never 100% perfect, and can be wonderful regardless.
Subs who have unrealitic, fetish and fantasy based expectations about how a Domme is going to swoop down and claim them and they won't have to make any efforts themselves to make this happen may, on occasion, find a domme they can pay to feed their fantasies, but will never find a r/t domme for an ongoing, healthy relationship because they do not have any concept of what it takes to be in an ongoing, healthy relationship. These boys will miss life because they spend years fantasizing and sitting on their computers, and never learn to relate to women.
Which one do you want to be?
My suggestion: turn off your computer, go to college, study hard, and learn how to court vanilla women and treat them wonderfully. When you've finished college, have a viable career started, and start to understand how you can possibly work being submissive within the context of a real, workable relationship with a woman who is not some fantasy figure of a Domme but a real person, THEN you can start looking. If you ultimately want to emigrate to another country, then explore those options about how you're going to make that happen without expecting someone to move you.
In the 12 years or so I've been active in the lifestyle, I have never known a Domme who would even entertain the concept of snatching up some youngster from another country to be their slave, let alone have actually moved some kid from another country to serve them.
There are so many prodommes out there because, frankly, there's a market for them. Many MANY boys are not interested in putting the time and effort it takes to be in a r/t relationship with a Domme (or just can't), and therefore seek the venue of professionals to meet their kink needs. That's actually a good thing, because they recognize that what they're seeking is something that is more realistic within that context, and are comfortable providing that level of reciprocation for having their needs met.
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