detroitsearcher
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please pardon this long multi faced prismatic view of my experiences in chastity.
it takes along time to learn how to transcend these strong urges in your body. the hardest for me personally was learning how to stay fully submissive and devoted after orgasm, to the point of actually 'recycling', eating my own ejaculate. sounds hot before you cum, can be quite a challenge.
all this discussion of chastity and asexuality just confuses me.
chastity increases the libido. there is a point where it becomes a dull ache, but this is not simple. all these facets of us are quite organic and malleable and do not conform to typical goal oriented quick thinking. the body moves slowly, not at the speed of your will in these areas. (eg, when you go on a diet, how long does it take for the body to begin showing changes?)
it is entirely based on conditioning, i suppose.
i have been into chastity and practicing it pretty regularly since 1999. i have read so much chastity mythology online. some people actually think if you lock it up it is going to go away. phew. the opposite, try all you can think of! and with a Mistress constantly amping up your desire, you end up wrapped around Her finger, in this heady intoxicating lust spell that lasts for weeks. i suppose it should be stated that the more tease energy you get, the more energy you have and the more effective chastity and or orgasm denial are. without the tease, without that edge, it seems empty.
when i hear of Dommes saying "why would I want to lock it up? I am not asexual," i can only think, whoa. who says a slave locked in chastity can't be unlocked, double condomed to reduce sensation, and used as voracious, virile exciting lover, until Mistress is pleased, and then locked back up without orgasm. how does that deny the chastity dynamic? why is it supposed to be asexual? we take on the guises of a sexually repressed past (Victorian era, which gave us the male chastity device, the 1950s etc) as a way of eroticizing our pain, of a sexually negative society. but this is the opposite of who we are. i mean, you are not reading collarme because you have no interest in sex, right?
and let me say this, please, male masturbation is not a negative thing. we are not prudes, this isn't the prohibition, we need to transcend these attitudes. masturbation is healthy!!! sex is on the male mind like more often than you think about food. sex positive attitude is much more enriching. this is a game we engage in, acting as though it is bad, to deny it. the reason you deny your male is to focus his energy pin point on you. for him it has this major spiritual benefit, enriching his energy and his daily life, once he learns to deal with the energy and the feelings, which are strange and unnameable at first. done properly over time, with the proper spiritual elements, this can be a transformative process.
the hardest thing for me was learning to see beyond urges and hormones. how to deal with myself after i was totally teased, and dropped, and left alone to work. how to take that energy in a positive way into my work, into my life without going through mood swings or expressing my frustration, taking it out on people. i had to learn to control this monster inside of me. that really has helped me grow. eventually the frustration becomes intoxicating. exercises and massage really help with the frustration. giving into his need to orgasm doesn't.
i started out in this as a regular guy. if i had sex like 3 times in a row i could i last alot longer, that was about it. with chastity training, i have learned how to make love for up to an hour without losing my erection and not orgasming. i have as of this fall experienced not ejaculating orgasms. i never even knew that was possible until i read a bunch of tantric stuff. there are long cultural histories of people actually using their sex energy even to heal themselves, in Taoism, and Tibetan Buddhism. when i first experienced it i had that 'whoops i messed up and went over the edge and lost it' feeling, but no fluid releases of any kind, but a shot of pure energy going straight up into me. i felt so energized and so strong, liek i could lift a building.
as a boy who has been subjected to much tease and denial and chastity training (i once belonged to a Mistress whose fetish was perpetual blue balls, achieved through at least 3 edgings daily, usually my hand directed by her, sometimes left with no device on, honor chastity, and i had to 'masturcise' to the edge multiple times daily, sometimes in conjunction with being locked up to 3 weeks straight in a chastity device, to being sexually teased with every fetish i have, over time) i have learned many things about how my body works and my hormones and my mind, but only through thorough training and many disappointments.
there are many challenges. one is mental - the expectation of performance is way greater when you have been locked up. the pressure that makes some men impotent times 100. and the first orgasm is a relief, but does not rock. also, you have been trying to overcome these sensations, to not loose it, so you have been fighting orgasming for a long time, and maybe it is possible for a sub to become 'orgasm retentive' and not actually want to give this energy up, or not knowing how to finally let go once allowed.
another is physical. do you use a device? that can mean the penis can take up to 36 hours to be normal again, until well trained. there are many different phases of denial, extended denial and chastity. i would say its iffy the first week, and Women who are giving their men orgasms that frequently need to study their men's responses closer. the chastity over drive really sets in between 10 days and 14 days, the third week was always insane, and i was able to do things i couldn't do other times. some were related to submission, others were physical. though i am sure the submissive stuff is partially brain chemicals of some sort. (it took me years to be able to see straight over those surges and rushes, and to be able to stay full submissive AFTER orgasm). i suppose the edgings and masturcising have trained me how to override certain sensations, and be able to last for the longest i can possibly last. after that kind of training, i was then trained as in what Mistress liked to call "Rocco" sex, based on the popular Italian porn star. i was actually trained to last for a half hour of straight steady aggressive animal sex, rock hard, many positions, totally doing Her, could last up to an hour, i never felt like stopping, like an energizer bunny, but Mistress would stop me when She was finished. my body would get used to this treatment and not cumming. when i finally was ordered release, it was never the big thump, it took like 2 or 3 orgasms to get back straight. plumbing gets closed up, like a summer cottage in the winter. what hasn't been moving for a few weeks takes some time to get back to normal.
the slow physiological adjustments of the body are often lost in our fast paced results based culture. we need to respect nature and the subtle natures of chastity training...
thanks for listening.
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