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RE: Is this right? - 11/27/2007 10:29:07 AM

AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: Toxiclust

I am looking for someone that I can "click" with. Someone that I can fall in love with and serve happliy while also have trust with him.
But what most doms that are pming are telling me that I am a bitch and wrong. That it isnt about trusting or connecting its about the master picking me and tell me off the back what to do....
help?

They are probably telling you that to serve their own selfish desires - they can't provide it so they don't want you to look for anything else. It is very possible to have a d/s relationship based around love and trust.

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RE: Is this right? - 11/27/2007 11:33:36 AM

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I have gotten rude and nasty emails a couple of times, it does happen.However I don't publish the rude replies.

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ORIGINAL: velvetears

i have read sooooooooo many of these types of threads about woman complaing in some way about negative feedback regarding their profile, whether it's to tell her shes a fake, or to try to control her from the get go, or to insult her in some manner. i have to question whether or not this is really happening out there. i can honestly say 75% of the replies i get are simply average. The other 25% are just one liners like "hey how are you?" - i am not saying you are doing this op, but being there is such a wide discrepency i have to wonder if subs "report" this on threads for attention, maybe even because they are getting no responses at all to their profiles.

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RE: Is this right? - 11/27/2007 1:44:34 PM

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Aw wow
Thank you everyone that replied, for sharing your advice with me!!
It makes me feel a lot better being here, and boosting my belief in trusting my gut feeling.

Takenbyjohnr07
Your story is adorable I want to hug you!!! Thank you so much for sharing it with me and everyone here ^_^

-edited because i was trying to be honest but was instead rude im sorry-

< Message edited by Toxiclust -- 11/27/2007 2:10:29 PM >

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RE: Is this right? - 11/27/2007 1:51:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: Toxiclust

Aw wow
Thank you everyone that replied, for sharing your advice with me!!
It makes me feel a lot better being here, and boosting my belief in trusting my gut feeling.

Takenbyjohnr07
Your story is adorable I want to hug you!!! Thank you so much for sharing it with me and everyone here ^_^

velvetears
I understand what your saying but I was not complainning about the negative feedback of men on my profile. I just needed to know as a new person on collarme.com (and new to the BDSM lifestyle), that what my gut feeling about picking my Dom is actually "Okay" in the BDSM community. Plus I can honestly say I dont think every female here is going to get the same type of resonds from men.( I'm a 19 year old female and your....? exactly) Not trying to be rude but just being honest. I am sure people on here have done things to get attention but thats not the topic here. But thanks for sharing

Yes, that was rude, sorry. What does her age have to do with it or yours for that matter? Every woman here gets tons of emails, believe me. And I am way older than you. Never make an assumption about who gets what. We might even get MORE than you, how about them apples?

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RE: Is this right? - 11/27/2007 2:09:40 PM

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sorry wasnt trying to be rude
i edited it
(also adding the pm i sent sexyred1)
hello
i edited me responds so i would like it if you did the same on my queto. i wasn't trying to be rude. i was just trying to bring a point that when your younger OLDER MEN try to attack you on before your younger and might not experience much. Im not about to be a drama queen on here. thank you
but anyway thanks for the advice from others
im going to go now before drama starts

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RE: Is this right? - 11/27/2007 2:37:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: Toxiclust

sorry wasnt trying to be rude
i edited it
(also adding the pm i sent sexyred1)
hello
i edited me responds so i would like it if you did the same on my queto. i wasn't trying to be rude. i was just trying to bring a point that when your younger OLDER MEN try to attack you on before your younger and might not experience much. Im not about to be a drama queen on here. thank you
but anyway thanks for the advice from others
im going to go now before drama starts

uh, I just got your private email and wrote back to thank you for being so gracious. then when I went to send it, I see you blocked me.

So, I guess you did not choose graciousness.

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RE: Is this right? - 11/27/2007 3:43:10 PM

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Just ignore all the "wannabes" and flakes.. and do not jump quickly

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RE: Is this right? - 11/27/2007 4:39:23 PM

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I don't and I am a woman. Of course my profile is so demanding about no sex and no sex play and I don't care about your dick or your sex fantasies, they probably see no reason to contact me.

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Every woman here gets tons of emails, believe me.

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RE: Is this right? - 11/27/2007 4:44:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

I don't and I am a woman. Of course my profile is so demanding about no sex and no sex play and I don't care about your dick or your sex fantasies, they probably see no reason to contact me.

...except the ones who don't bother to read profiles or don't care what you have to say about yourself. They'll still message you. Maybe not a very effective filter!

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RE: Is this right? - 11/27/2007 10:30:09 PM

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I know she edited out the "rude" comment- but she was speaking the truth, simply not in the best way. Younger chicks IMO do get more of the wankers and initial attention. They are perceived as even more naive and inexperiences and thus easier prey and the younger doms are more confident to approach them vs the older subs.

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RE: Is this right? - 11/28/2007 12:29:05 PM

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Anyone worth their salt would take rejection and move on without letting their ego get bruised by a put down.

Just hang in there, make your choices wisely and don't feel obligated to take the first one that doesnt outright disgust you.

Being new does put a target on you from those who know your BS radar may be busted... just take your time to get to know them. You never know who you might meet, and you NEVER KNOW WHO YOU MIGHT MEET!!!

Just be careful, safe and sane... anyone worth pursuing will wait.

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RE: Is this right? - 11/28/2007 6:25:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

The bottom feeders always seem to find the newbies

LOL that is so so true.

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RE: Is this right? - 11/28/2007 10:07:49 PM

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Ignore those comments. You are entitled to find someone who you click with, who is deserving of your trust. When you find someone, then you submit and give them that gift. You are not a head of livestock waiting to be picked by a Master. Those 'Masters' have their own agenda. There are many dominant people out there, but that does not mean they are worthy of your adoration and servitude, nor does it mean that they are able to care for their sub responsibly. Keep looking until you find one who can.

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