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zaynab -> RE: Elitism in BDSM/Ds/WIITWD (8/14/2005 3:50:11 AM)
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Hi Kitten With A Twist, *waving
(wow, you sure look like one of my neices..... !)
You: "the feeling and expression that those who practice BDSM or engage in power dynamic relationships are some how more in tune with the scheme of being, some how better than those who do not engage in these same relationships."
Me: I agree that some of the folks engaged are more in tune.
You: Why is this? Why is there the assumption that one sexual identity is better or more special than another?
Me: I don't know... they just are.
You: "Do we (as a whole, I do not do this) put ourselves on a pedestal so that we can feel more right about beating each other with canes and crops, or kneeling before our masters/mistresses, or looking down upon our lovers with a glimmer of sadistic nurturing in our eyes? What is it that you/they/we think is so special about this whole BDSM idea?"
Me: I think that is because it is so hot, and vanilla sex is not. That is to the point.
You: "But not everyone *is* kinky, or even desires to be. So if the only thing you want out of life is an equal standing and missionary sex, does that somehow make you less of a person? Does it make you stupid or wrong or behind the times? "
Me: Yes.
You: In this "lifestyle," we seem to look to be accepted.
Me: I don't. Excuse my french, but I don't give a shit what other people think.
You: *I* want my family and friends to know that my sexual orientation, my identity, my self is part of who I am, and I can't, and don't want to change that."
Me: My family IS why I have my point of view and my type of sex life.
You: All they want to know is, even though you're different, you have the same needs and wants as everyone else-the need to be loved, the need to survive, the need to be happy.
Me: yeah.
P.S.Dont know how I came across but good post, by the way!
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