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sammy7626 -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/29/2007 8:20:08 AM)
Something else, that I didn't address, in regard to your original post, was the sex. For me, Daddy is still Daddy, even in sex. And perhaps its because we have never clearly defined any sort of age role for me. Its very fluid. Some days I take showers and shave, some days he gives me baths and shaves me. Some days I need pajamas with kitties and my stuffed gorrilla and a lot of affection, some days I'm a terror and he disciplines me for it, and still others, from an outside perspective, we look like any other vanilla couple in the world where the man goes out and earns the money, and I spend it all...but in my mind, he is always Daddy, and I'm always his babygirl/princess. Sex is just one more need/desire that I have, that as a Daddy who likes to take care of his lil' ones needs, he fulfills. It does, I admit, have the possibility of squick factor for other people...but for us, it works. Which is not to say it happened over night. The dynamic between us developed over the last 7 years of our relationship. It was never really forced, it just sort of flowed out of who we were to one another.

bbwatYourservice -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/29/2007 9:49:54 PM)
Addisonclarkgirl I completely understand. That is very similar to what happened only my Pops suffered head trauma in an accident- went from being Daddy's girl to not recognizing the man he had become. The Daddy/girl dynamic helps to recapture the nurturing I lost out on in junior high school. Thanks for putting it into words better than I could.

LittleWench -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 12:09:26 AM)
quote: I do know this...That the idea of sex while He is in Daddy mode, and I am in baby girl mode is not at all attractive to me, so I guess thats a start. Perhaps getting used to calling Him Daddy would be a good step. I know when He calls me baby girl I actually swoon...LOL My Owner and I started out in a vanilla relationship. He called BabyGirl from the second day we met which does make me go all squishy... but then when he says things like "Daddy's hungry" I just feel like giggling. He is some 12 years younger than I! As for age play, whilst I can fantasize and imagine it would be fun to play the spoilt princess and have a tantrum, cajoodle your way into an icecream or a new pair of shoes, honestly its not within me. I have a 16yr old daughter and I would feel too much like her, and when she behaves like that I want to smack her... hang on maybe that will get Master to smack me ;) I don't agree with the philosophy that as the girl you must choose an age to play. We all have an inherent cuteness, you don't have to pretend to be 4 or 14 to tap into that. Start being cute around him. I am almost 40 and my favourite pair of pyjamas have Little Miss Naughty on them.... not because they make me feel young, or submissive, or like a little girl, but simply because they are cute. Little props like this could help you get into the swing easier, act as the bridge from grown woman to little girl if that is what you seek. It seems to me that most Dom's enjoy referring to themselves in the third person. Master wants you to, Sir wants you to, Daddy wants you to. If its something you want to explore more, get your man to start referring to himself as Daddy when he requests something of you. (But please no "Who's your Daddy comments!") Hopefully you get the squishies and not the giggles :)

adoracat -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 5:18:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LittleWench (But please no "Who's your Daddy comments!") says many bad words no, we never say "who's your Daddy". but the WORST thing for me is "tell Daddy". if i WANTED to tell you, i would! grumble grumble grumble oh, i always do. and he always makes me feel better. but DAMN i hate that!!!!! kitten, sighing

ghitaPVH -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 5:54:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: adoracat see...i grew up southern. its literally no head turner at all to see a grown woman address her husband as Daddy when they have yardapes together. he often calls her Mama or Mother, but of course that's a bit different. kitten ~raises hand~ Southern chick here.....yeap, my great grandmother called my great grandfather Daddy their entire marriage...same as my grandmother still calls my grandfather Daddy....So calling my Sir Daddy..just kinda works for me. Honestly...works a hell of alot better than calling him Master in the middle of publix with the UMs. We dont do age play, and although he does call me babygirl occasionally, there is no "little girl" dynamic to me, Im just me, and I happen to call him Daddy cause he doesnt like Sir or Master and Daddy feels alot more natural to me....blame the south. ghita~ (although Daddy did raise a few eyebrows at Publix the other day...we were shoppingn with the three UMs, He was pushing hte cart and I was down the aisle a bit and hollared out, "Daddy, do you want chicken or pork tonight?" and some lady who was standing near Daddy pointed to the three UMs in the cart and asked him, "are those your kids or your daughter's?[referring to me]" Daddy smiled at the lady and said "They're ours, were a close knit family".....the lady's chin hit the floor.) I love my Daddy.....

addisonclarkgirl -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 6:05:18 AM)
I love coloring; I love swinging on the swingset; I collect dolls; some of my favorite movies are animated; I take Daddy's hand when I cross the street; I love Daddy giving me a bubblebath, etc.... Not because it's a role or I'm playing some age, but because I'm a little girl through and through.

ghitaPVH -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 6:11:41 AM)
yea....see thats just not me..so Im not the typical little girl....I said a little bit more on my profile about the "Daddy" dynamic of our relationship.... although most people expect our relationship to be about age play, when they see us together...since age wise it would be possible for him to actually be my Daddy...

breatheasone -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 6:25:04 AM)
Heres what I think I know.... I DO want a Daddy. I would like to be able to be "little" sometimes with Him( and I have NO clue what specifics being "little" will entail at the moment) I don't want to be His daughter, as much as His "little girl" if that makes any sense. I don't think I am completely ruling out sex for this dynamic. I have been thinking about it, and it really doesn't squick me out like I thought it would. In fact it my be very sensual in a way....we'll see. BTW.... Its my Birthday. Master is picking me up in a couple of hours and we are spending the day together.[:)] ThankYou again for the AWESOME present Master!

juliaoceania -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 7:02:16 AM)
Happy Birthday

xAdamx -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 11:22:52 AM)
As a past service Dom ( non pro ) l was called upon to take this role with a few fem subby's. The actually requirements from them was not the sexual aspect within Daddy/girl scenario, but more a father figure, nurturing role. Someone to provide a father like presence over them. Some times assertive, strict, disciplinary; Sometimes gentle, a come sit with me in a huge comfy armchair while reading to them. It was an opportunity for them to let go and be the little girl they were or imagine it would have been.

daddyncherry -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 12:27:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: adoracat quote: ORIGINAL: gcarlos Master and i have talked about this dynamic, but because we have UMs together it really does not work for us. It just does not feel right. Master's {girl} see...i grew up southern. its literally no head turner at all to see a grown woman address her husband as Daddy when they have yardapes together. he often calls her Mama or Mother, but of course that's a bit different. kitten my Daddy wrote something on Daddy Doms and he touched on that very thing...the southern man as Daddy, head of the household. Edited to add: i'm with Ghita here...Southern girl too...it just seems more natural.

juliaoceania -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 3:50:22 PM)
This thread has been making me think about how I sometimes act when Sinergy and I are together or communicating... When I was down at his place last time he bought me a piece of jewelry, and when he put it on me I jumped up and down and skipped a few times while I had a hold of his hand. And there is a new rule I have to abide by, if I want chocolate I have to ask for it, and I cannot have it unless I ask first... so I called him today and I had the distinct feeling of a child asking their parent for a special treat... I rather liked it... maybe I like the nonsexual part of being a "girl" more than I even knew... and I have been wearing more and more pink lately too... I think LA's ice cream post made me think about these things.... because sometimes I feel like he is an indulgent parent...

daddyncherry -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 4:02:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania And there is a new rule I have to abide by, if I want chocolate I have to ask for it, and I cannot have it unless I ask first... so I called him today and I had the distinct feeling of a child asking their parent for a special treat... I rather liked it... maybe I like the nonsexual part of being a "girl" more than I even knew... and I have been wearing more and more pink lately too... I think LA's ice cream post made me think about these things.... because sometimes I feel like he is an indulgent parent... Yep...the pink...that's where it starts. LOL... i all of a sudden found all of this pink and blue and yellow making it's way into my wardrobe....Scooby Doo was replaced with Tinkerbell....and cotton candy became a special treat for me...One that some how had centering properties...and then the rollerskating began...there i was a girl again.... Maybe you are more into than you knew

juliaoceania -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 4:06:08 PM)
Yesterday after I got off work I was in Costco, and they have the Harry Potter trunk... the one he took every year to Hogwarts. It went through my head that I wanted this thing... now what is a 39 year old woman going to do with such a thing?[:D] Yeah, maybe I am getting weird in my old age, on my way to my second childhood

daddyncherry -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 4:16:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania Yesterday after I got off work I was in Costco, and they have the Harry Potter trunk... the one he took every year to Hogwarts. It went through my head that I wanted this thing... now what is a 39 year old woman going to do with such a thing?[:D] Yeah, maybe I am getting weird in my old age, on my way to my second childhood you wouldn't be the only one...i truly want to go visit Santa and sit on his lap for a picture and then eat candy canes.....Daddy just thinks i'm a bit whacky there. Edite to add: Oh and about 6 months or so after meeting my Daddy i got this weird fascination with BRATZ dolls....out of the blue...hell i never even owned a Barbie when i was a kid....but Bratz dolls do have the best shoes.

rc4otkVA -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 4:17:36 PM)
When I started as a sub I was taking college classes, and being punished through age-playing a teen school girl, being disciplined for bad grades. Then I started to do housework, and having it inspected, being punished for errors/ things I missed/ taking too long to complete tasks assigned by Daddy. When I wanted to improve on any behavior, or he wanted me to change any behavior, I was punished for it with scolding, otk spanking, paddling, cornertime, and humiliation, to make me feel very childlike, and subordinate to him. He dictated what I was allowed to do/made to do, how I was supposed to do it, punished me when it was wrong, and rewarded me when I pleased him. For a while I even had a bed time.

juliaoceania -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 4:49:16 PM)
quote: Edite to add: Oh and about 6 months or so after meeting my Daddy i got this weird fascination with BRATZ dolls....out of the blue...hell i never even owned a Barbie when i was a kid....but Bratz dolls do have the best shoes. They have Island Barbie at Costco too, and she has a monkey... for those of you who have my yahoo ID on here,... well they will know how special monkeys are to me. I was bummed they had no Barbie monkey when I was a kid....I had a huge Barbie collection

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (11/30/2007 11:31:32 PM)
I always think it's a good sign when everyone in the relationship can't stop wanting to spoil the other :)

breatheasone -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (12/2/2007 8:53:54 AM)
I'm so grateful to everyone that took the time to respond to this. Master and I have talked some and He doesn't appear to be 100% thrilled with this idea it seems...This is such a sensitive thing with me though that if Master isnt 100% in it I just can't do it...I wouldn't be able let go and "be" His little girl because I would know He has reservations, if this makes any sense at all. Its cool though, we started out as M/s and thats cool with me...I just wish this urge/need/craving would go away or at least calm down some. I have had day dreams about being a little girl with "Daddy" and knowing I was safe with him and that I was the apple of his eye. Looking up to him and feeling his love and comfort. being his good girl and doing as I'm told....getting Daddy what he needs and desires...getting the praise little girls are supposed to get from their Daddies, and basking in that. Well anyway....Thank you again for telling me how y'all have experienced this, and for the time it took y'all to respond.... Sincerely, Candy

agoodgirl4Daddy -> RE: Getting used to Daddy (12/2/2007 11:15:32 AM)
This thread resonated with me because that is what i am seeking... A D/g relationship, preferably a monogamous, 24/7 relationship. To me, a Daddy teaches, monitors, comforts, nurtures, commands, protects, AND DISCIPLINES!! It's also a dynamic that is more relaxed and playful than what I typically think of when I think about D/s and M/s relationships. Since I'm not 100% into age play (a little goes a long way for me), a D/g relationship is more about the interaction than the specifics. I enjoy playing "school girl/School Master" and "Daddy reads a story to His girl while ummmmmm...(smiles and says "fill in the blanks")." However, the day to day feeling of having a Daddy to love, protect, and cherish me is more appealing than the playtime activities. I have found that there are Dominants / Tops that I think of as Daddy types and those whom I could never see as a Daddy type. For me, it's about the energy that is generated ... Don't think that can be manipulated... it is what it is... [:D]

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