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RumpusParable -> RE: Orgams question (11/28/2007 11:05:29 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Kalista07
Frankly, i don't know if i've become incredibly brave, stupid, or couldn't give a rat's behind what people think of me......However, i am as shocked as You are to see myself posting this.....Having said that, here goes:
i've never had an orgasm.......Not that many men haven't tried.........And frankly, Sir and i haven't had sex yet, so who knows what will happen there................But, i have some questions that i can't seem to find answers to anywhere else...And since, i would pretty much die asking anyone who 'really' knew me this.......i guess You all are stuck with it...HEH..[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m9.gif[/image]
Okay, so............How do You know if You have an orgasm? i mean....what does it feel like? i guess the real reason i ask is because 9 months ago or so i was with a "dom" and he told me i had orgasmed...i was sooo disappointed, i cried myself to sleep that night....i don't know what i'm asking here or even expecting anyone to say.....
Convinced it's time to check myself back into the asylum,
Kali
Orgasms vary. A LOT.
Some are so minor that they are not noticed. Sometimes the body skips them, too, and goes straight from "build-up" to "cool-down" without any orgasm, physical or mental. Missed Orgasms are something you may want to look into.
Some are purely physical and not mental and so can be felt if you know what you're looking for but won't give you a mental or emotional orgasm.
And then all the ones that do involve the mind and emotions vary, too, in style and intensity.
So you're not really looking for one thing.
Best place to start is masturbation. Hands or toys or both, it allows you to learn your own arousal cycle and what is happening at the peak of it without having the variables of another human involved... once you're able to teach yourself to orgasm, what it feels like physically and what to look for mentally to get yourself there, then it's much easier to do with another person.
Physically in a female, what you're looking for as signals is increased bloodflow to the vulva sometimes resulting in a "tinny" feeling inside the flesh and contractions of the abdominal, uterine, small of the back, and vaginal/pelvic floor muscles. The rest of the body will generally at the peak of arousal and orgasm just follow through with an increasing of muscle tension, flushing of skin, panting or holding of breath and then the reduction of all these... but these aren't signs of orgasm, just a sideshow.
Mentally and emotionally, it can be just about anything. Nothing, "blacking out", floating sensations or euphoric high, panic, anger, crying jags, giggling fits, a feeling of mental "explosion" or "starburst"... and the list goes on. Everyone's different and each orgasm can be different. But basically, you'll feel increasing arousal to a point of almost unbearability and then something will change for a few moments into whatever that orgasm is like and then you will start to feel yourself come down from it. Or be ready for another, depending on you and that time...
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