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Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/29/2007 7:54:58 PM

Shawn1066

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While a lot of Dominants seem to do a great bit of teaching and training to their pets, it seems to me that it'd unlikely that they don't learn a bit from the relationship themselves. So, I was wondering if any of you have learned anything, simple or important, from any of your pets? This question does, of course, pertain to things outside of the lifestyle as well.

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/29/2007 8:18:08 PM

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Of course I have. My boy happens to be a nursing student, so I learn things from him all of the time about that alone.
There are all types of things I learn from everyone around Me. Since My boy is so important in My life, why would he be any different?

From him as a person........ I learn to be a little happier, to smile a little easier, and how, with the right attitude, it's a lot simpler to say 'not a problem'. You'd have to know him personally to understand that little inside joke.

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/29/2007 8:21:16 PM

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I've learned a lot about protocol from my girl. she's older and has about 15 years more experience. It's interesting to hear her talk about past protocols that were popular and whatnot.

I've also learned a great deal of things from slaves who teach. slave kirk taught me about ritual piercing, for example. You can't help but to learn if you attend conferences where they teach! :-)

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/29/2007 8:24:19 PM

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I have learned a tremendous amount from my submissives. My slave actually helped me claim the term "sadist" for myself and accept it proudly. Relationships work both ways.

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/29/2007 8:55:02 PM

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I have learned Top or bottom Mistress or Master we all have something to learn from each other , its really opened myself up and allowed me to learn from many even the little things .Everyone has something to teach us as long as we are open to it .After learning that fact alone years ago the info gates seem to have opened .atleast in my experiance :)

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/29/2007 9:07:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: Shawn1066

While a lot of Dominants seem to do a great bit of teaching and training to their pets, it seems to me that it'd unlikely that they don't learn a bit from the relationship themselves. So, I was wondering if any of you have learned anything, simple or important, from any of your pets? This question does, of course, pertain to things outside of the lifestyle as well.

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/29/2007 9:48:04 PM

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I have learn tons of things from My slaves, everything from how to masturbate to how to work a video camera to how to play poker.

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/30/2007 1:46:00 AM

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Ofcourse Wwe learn from eachother, Bdsm is a two way thing, and not one sided, otherwise that wouldn't be Bdsm.
I'm happy to learn everyday, from My friends, and My subbygirl. Everyone teaches Yyou something else in life!

That's what makes life so interesting.

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/30/2007 2:15:11 AM

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Oh, most definitely -- from pretty much everyone I've ever played with. Most often I'm learning things about myself through them, although I've learned plenty of more concrete things as well (like how to play chess)

Most notably, I think, was learning how intensely I love providing catharsis, and how easily nurturing and sadistic activities can mesh for me when the chemistry is right. I'm a reiki practitioner (not my main job) and blending energy work/spirituality and intense play may be one of my very favorite things ever. Ever ever.

I can't actually comprehend *not* learning something from a sub, if I play with them more than a couple of times. Even then I'm learning them, you know?

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/30/2007 4:16:07 AM

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Well. I learn lots of things from my subs. But the two things that stand out the most?

My masochistic brat taught me how much of a sadist I really am. I had walked away from practicing BDSM for a lot of years, and the changes that I've undergone in those intervening years surprised the hell out of me when I started getting into the lifestyle again. His begging for more (and my reaction to said begging) taught me a lot about myself.

My pet was the one that brought me back to the lifestyle in the first place. He taught me that this wasn't just something I could set aside and ignore - that these needs in me were actual needs, and that if I didn't acknowledge them, I'd never be whole.

There are less important, more physically-centered things I've learned from subs over the years - but matters of the mind and heart always interest me more anyway.

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/30/2007 7:23:51 AM

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I couldn't name off the things that Fox has taught me. Most of them have to do with my personal image or patience but that's more just his attitude and consistency rather actual purposeful teaching as I do when I train.

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/30/2007 11:16:42 AM

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Dear Shawn1066, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I can firmly say that everybody teaches me something. Slaves being people too--they have much to offer and see things where a Dominant might not.

Each slave of mine, teaches me in their own way, how to treat them and how to love them. Even if the slave is in a student capacity--they teach by asking questions, seeking to learn and the desire to share what they know and share with me and or others.

My wealth of experience and knowledge has come from investments by slaves and Masters alike. It is to my best interest to continue expanding as well as to depart with what I've learned. This is in a sense part of a power exchange--as knowledge is power--power is strength and giving other strength can only increase that level of exchange into areas beyond the physical and or emotional and or mental.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/30/2007 1:19:54 PM

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Oh, most definitely. I've learned or practiced new techniques from them, explored different aspects of my and their personalities, and just lived life with them in it... Every relationship involves a lot of learning and growth, for me.

Sometimes it's been completely vanilla stuff, like learning eventually to accept a gift without discomfort (which in the vanilla realm I'm still bad with, but am comfortable with submissives), to trying out a new toy-type because they liked it or had an idea for it and I was game.

Mostly it's just the growing through relationships that goes on, though. Every person that has been part of my life, sub or vanilla friend or other, has had an effect... how could they not? Sometimes they point you toward a great new band you end up loving -and then there's, of course, that first person you ever tied up, flogged, cut, whatever...

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 11/30/2007 2:29:07 PM

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I think most Dommes would have to have learned something, either directly or indirectly from the people they play with..

If they didn't they must be pretty self-absorbed not to have noticed.

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 12/1/2007 9:59:09 AM

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When I think on it, I would have to say that I have probably learned more from subs than from other Dommes. As a matter of course, my interaction is more with subs than Dommes. I also get a lot of feedback from them about a scene, what worked and what did not. In addition, my per slavekal is very informative, he spends a lot more time online checking out sites and blogs and message barods, and he often shoots information to me that he knows I like.

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RE: Learning from your Sub/Slave? - 12/1/2007 11:54:04 AM

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I'm not sure where to begin with this one. I've learned to trust, to love, to cherish again. With my sub living about 1000 miles away he has a whole new culture to share. Being from Detroit then moving to West Virginia (yeah middle of nowhere), and my sub having lived in Lousiana his whole life, I've learned soooo much! Especially about seasoning my foods. Added to everything else he'll probably be the designated chef of the house once we move in together.
Its a completely different culture that I'm learning so much about, and loving it more and more each moment. Aside from culture, patience, dedication which I've never really had this level with. Learning how to keep a long distance relationship going is a bit hard at times. But with each giving into the relationship its working. I would have never guessed before that meeting somone online would have resulted in anything near this.

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