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wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 8:36:04 AM   
marandaisowned


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Status: offline 		i am having a hard time serving my Master. i had this thought that is i had an on-line owner i would do better by Him. does this sound like a good idea or not?
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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 8:52:20 AM   
GoddessMine


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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 8:54:15 AM   
batshalom


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Status: offline 		I have no idea - need more info and background in order to advise with a greater degree of accuracy.

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 8:58:34 AM   
MissyRane


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Status: offline 		What's the OP asking about??? I can't understand what they're saying.

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 9:03:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: marandaisowned

i am having a hard time serving my Master. i had this thought that is i had an on-line owner i would do better by Him. does this sound like a good idea or not?

What are you having a hard time about.  And I'm not clear as to what you are asking.

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 9:52:20 AM   
marandaisowned


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Status: offline 		what i am asking is this...would it be a good idea to have a real life Master and an on-line Mistress. i think that haveing an on-line would help me to be a better slave for my Master. does that make it any more clear?

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 9:54:35 AM   
mistoferin


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does that make it any more clear?


ummmm.....no.

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 10:00:38 AM   
RCdc


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< Message edited by Darcyandthedark -- 11/30/2007 10:01:29 AM >

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 10:05:29 AM   
sweetNsmartBBW


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Status: offline 		Why, exactly, do you think having an online Mistress would better help you serve Your real life Master?  Somehow, something is gettling lost in what you are asking... 


That said, it's pretty much as the.dark stated above.  This is something you need to be discussing with your Master- while others can offer insight- the relationship in place is between the two of you; and only you and He can figure out why you are having problems serving Him- and what whould be done about it. 

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 10:08:00 AM   
SmokingGun82


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Status: offline 		If I understand correctly, you're saying you don't think you're good enough for the one person you're already with, so you want to add more to the mix?

When I was young(er) and stupid(er), my ex-fiancee and I decided we could fix all our problems by having an open relationship. The prefix "ex" probably reveals how well that worked.

If you have a problem with your master, then address the problem with them, not by adding another person. That's like sending an engraved invitation to the drama fairy and asking for a double dose of drama dust.




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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 10:13:04 AM   
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. That's like sending an engraved invitation to the drama fairy and asking for a double dose of drama dust.





Nothing to add to the thread, but I am SO stealing that line, LOL

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 12:05:57 PM   
daddyncherry


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Status: offline 		Maybe i'm just reaching here but....

Why are you having problems serving your Master? Do you need more attention maybe? Do you not understand his way of thinking? Do you think that an online Mistress would help you feel more fullfilled and therefore make you a better slave to Him?


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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 12:19:31 PM   
batshalom


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Status: offline 		Mmm. I'm having a bit of a problem with the jump between having a Master and thinking that having an online Mistress would help you be a better slave. Why do you think that? Does your Master think so too? Is this your idea or his? ~sipping coffee, waiting patiently~

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 12:45:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkDaddyZ

quote:

ORIGINAL: marandaisowned

i am having a hard time serving my Master. i had this thought that is i had an on-line owner i would do better by Him. does this sound like a good idea or not?

What are you having a hard time about.  And I'm not clear as to what you are asking.

Z-


Ditto.

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 3:25:24 PM   
marandaisowned


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Status: offline 		yes. i have talked with him about it. he approves

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 3:47:11 PM   
petpete


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Status: offline 		i think that what you mean is to use the online Mistress as a tutor so you can perform for your real life.. Thats how i interpret.. If thats the case, its very hard for me to understand the concept of it all..

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 6:28:39 PM   
Machts


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i am having a hard time serving my Master. i had this thought that is i had an on-line owner i would do better by Him. does this sound like a good idea or not?


Why not? Then you can just click the little x up in the corner when he annoys you.

Works great for subs too.

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 6:30:18 PM   
thetammyjo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: marandaisowned

what i am asking is this...would it be a good idea to have a real life Master and an on-line Mistress. i think that haveing an on-line would help me to be a better slave for my Master. does that make it any more clear?


That's really something you should discuss with your current dominant.

Personally I won't do online relationships -- tried them in the past, they offer me next to nothing that I want from a Ds relationship

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RE: wanting to be more - 11/30/2007 6:33:52 PM   
thetammyjo


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ORIGINAL: marandaisowned

yes. i have talked with him about it. he approves


In that case, I think you'd both do better if you found an online dom then who will fit into your current relationship. By fit I mean someone who has very similar goals, rules, and expectations as your master. If you have to deal with two different sets of expectations, rules, rituals, etc, you'll only end up confused and I can't see how that would possibly help you will your current relationship.

Frankly I think you'd be wisest to get to know someone as a couple and feel that person out. Your master and her then should have a very clear understanding of will and will not happen and they should stay in contact.

Given all of that though I think it will be difficult to find a dominant woman who is willing to A) be online only and B) be so closely tied to a dominant man unless they naturally are just very similar.

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RE: wanting to be more - 12/1/2007 1:43:41 AM   
arayofsunshine55


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Status: offline 		I think it would be wisest to figure out why you are having a hard time before bringing some one else into your mix.

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